He asked me to his party (kind of)?

[Anonymous]

I went on 2 dates with this guy. We clicked and have become comfortable very quickly and have shared a lot about each other. He is a gentleman, seems very mature and is very respectful. He has his own place and he mentioned to me that he's having a party with friends next weekend. Seems odd, didn't see him as the type to party. When he was talking about it initially he didn't invite me. But later on our date it came up again and he said "you're welcome to come but I feel bad you wouldn't really know anyone". I said maybe and then carried on. When the date ended and I was leaving he said well maybe I'll see you at the party and I said yeah if you're lucky just joking with him. I'm confused do I go or not? I've never been to his place and I feel odd my first time being there during a party with a bunch of people I don't know... any thoughts?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a tough one. On one hand it would be cool to go to his party and get to know him more in a fun social setting, plus it seems like he wants you there since he brought it up twice. But I can see why you'd feel weird being at his place for the first time with all his friends around too.

A couple things that might help - could you maybe go for part of the party just to stop by and say hi at first? That way it's not the whole night and you can ease into it without feeling too on the spot. And he seems like a nice guy so I'm sure he'd introduce you to people and make you feel included.

You could also ask if any of his close friends will be there that you could talk to if you need a break from just him. That might make it less intimidating. And who knows, maybe some other people's girlfriends will be there too so you won't be totally alone!

If you're still not sure, there's no harm in just telling him you want to wait until you know him a bit better before a big party. But it seems like he's into you and wants you to meet his friends, so I'd say at least give it a try! The worst that could happen is you don't have fun and can leave early. Good luck and let me know what you decide!

[mb120101]

If I wasn’t inviting someone and uncomfortable I wouldn’t bring it up 3 times especially at the end of a date