What does it mean when your boyfriend chooses his family over you?

[Anonymous]

What does it mean when your boyfriend chooses his family over you, and do you think it's right? Thank you! :)

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This is just a general question, and I'm not talking in terms of spending time with his family. I'm just talking about flat out choosing his family over his relationship

[thetundrawolf]

It means he isn't devoted enough to your heart to take you over his family. Is he going to sleep with his extended family at night? Are they going to cook for him, clean for him, or whatever it is you do? No? Then you are just going to be his maid. Nothing more. He will seek advice from his family before he seeks it from you. They just might control his life, including yours once you;re married to him. Is that what you want?

[Asker]

Well that isn't my situation but no, lol I wouldn't want that. I don't think anybody deserves that be it male or female. It isn't fare.

[Phoenix98]

Well sometimes the bond of family is just stronger I come from a family were our bond is very very strong and sometimes it can get in the way of relationships because me and my girl have not been through hell and back like me and family has and I know that at the end of the day the girl may be gone but my family will always be there if I need them.

[Asker]

Well it's good that you have a great relationship with your family, but some people don't feel loke family is there at the end of the day. Some people don't even have a family, so it just goes to show you that it all depends on the situation and the person you're dealing with.

[Phoenix98]

Ya your right my case is not always the same case with other people best thing you can really do is talk about it and find out why he is choosing them over you.

[Asker]

Yes! Talking is the best thing to do overall. Thank you :)

[Phoenix98]

No problem

[Anonymous]

It depends on the situation I think. Why does he need to make a choice between us?

I am super close with my family and all for family, so I think in general it is okay to choose family over a relationship.

[Asker]

Yeah, you're right. It all really does depend

[manishrocks1985]

Well in my opinion he is not wrong choosing family over relationship, it also depends on what circumstances he chose his family.

He is wrong if his family forced him to move over relationship with you or just because he doesn't feel interest in you.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer :)

[kdugas01]

I believe it is OK, because he needs some time to catch up with his family. And tell me when he is not with his family who is he with? That's right you! So lay off of him it means nothing more that seeing the people that he loves and has spent the better half of his life with. As a guy myself I know that sometimes us guys need a break from all the girlfriend stuff and just time with people who will except him with open arms. I hope I answered your question.

[Asker]

First of all, I'm not talking about myself, I was asking a general question. Second, I wasn't talking about spending time with his family instead of his girl. I was asking what you think about a guy choosing his family over his whole relationship, jeopardizing his relationship or sacrificing it. You know something on that order. Thank you for your answer tho

[Anonymous]

some people are manipulated by their family not that it's anyone's fault but that's how things turned out. The family could be use to that person doing anything that's asked of them and they could think that's how things are suppose to work.

Unless a person like that is told they are aloud to say no to t heir family things will never change and even than it could be a hard thing to break away from peacefully.

[Asker]

I defiantly agree with that. I've seen things where people were being used by their families, thinking that they had their best interest at heart, but they really didn't.

[Stacyzee]

It means he isn't ready for a relationship.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer :)

[Stacyzee]

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