Questions: Family & Friends

Yes, I know. Some of you don't want kids (me included). Just choose. Which one would you prefer, the spoiled daughter with an easy life, or the humbled depressed son with a difficult life?

Inspired by this question here.

Just a FYI I am both unmarried and don’t have kids. I actually want both but I have just never found the right person for that. There was one person I met years ago who could of been that person but it didn’t work out. She happened to meet me at a specific period in my life which was the wrong time.

Anyway get how becoming a parent can radically change your life. I have nieces and nephews and I observed how my brother went from a carefree assholish “bro dude” to a hard working responsible adult very quickly. He tells me that although he sometimes misses his bachelorhood that overall being a dad and getting married really is the best for him. Also he wasn’t serious about his career/education but he actually completed college a few years after his daughter was born. Him and his wife actually make a decent income with their combined salary.

My sister has become a mother too. She works in education and surrounded by lots of leftist unmarried women. Yes her and her husband are overall very happy they have become parents.

Anyway I don’t want to pot calling the kettle black given my bachelorhood/fatherhood student. However I could settle down with the right person. But if I don’t find her I’m also at peace with that possibility.

But seriously does being unmarried and lifelong childless seriously appeal to many people? Maybe it does in your 20s. But a part of me regrets not settling down with someone earlier.