Do many western women (and men) really believe that being lifelong unmarried and childless is the key to long term happiness?

[Anonymous]

Just a FYI I am both unmarried and don’t have kids. I actually want both but I have just never found the right person for that. There was one person I met years ago who could of been that person but it didn’t work out. She happened to meet me at a specific period in my life which was the wrong time.

Anyway get how becoming a parent can radically change your life. I have nieces and nephews and I observed how my brother went from a carefree assholish “bro dude” to a hard working responsible adult very quickly. He tells me that although he sometimes misses his bachelorhood that overall being a dad and getting married really is the best for him. Also he wasn’t serious about his career/education but he actually completed college a few years after his daughter was born. Him and his wife actually make a decent income with their combined salary.

My sister has become a mother too. She works in education and surrounded by lots of leftist unmarried women. Yes her and her husband are overall very happy they have become parents.

Anyway I don’t want to pot calling the kettle black given my bachelorhood/fatherhood student. However I could settle down with the right person. But if I don’t find her I’m also at peace with that possibility.

But seriously does being unmarried and lifelong childless seriously appeal to many people? Maybe it does in your 20s. But a part of me regrets not settling down with someone earlier.

Yes

No

[Berethor]

Yea, that modern madness is destroying western countries, it destroying japan as well.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2022/06/03/japan-low-births-population-decline-2021/

[Vesuvius87]

It's spreading a bit here too (Peru) and a couple other Latin countries. Madness indeed.

[Guy13]

Yes until they hit 40 and go.. "what and who was this Accomplishment for, ultimately?"

[LazerBean]

A lot of people may seem to claim so, but they are the loud minority and I suspect they don't even believe it themselves.

[Asker]

Well voluntarily vs involuntarily single are two different stories. But too many actually voluntarily choose to be lifelong unmarried and childless sounds like some serious cognitive dissonance later in life.

[LazerBean]

The only actual person I know like that has serious problems including rejection issues, so she rejects people before they can reject her.