Questions: Family & Friends

From my observations it’s tougher for women who had abusive fathers vs abusive mothers. It’s also very hard for men who had abusive mothers vs abusive fathers (society rarely talks about this).

The issue is I can easily relate to another man and understand motivations are vs. him being an actual selfish pos.

However I will never fully understand how women think. I can improve with experience but it’s next to impossible for 97% of men to fully get it (there is a tiny 3% percentage of men who naturally get it)

It’s harder for me to understand if a woman is just controlled by her emotion (hence acting unfair/irrational from my POV) vs. her actually being a selfish pos. I can’t relate to how she thinks. I can only rely on my experience and patience.

But I also need to be wise enough to quickly identify if she just doesn’t respect me. When I was younger I gave some undeserving women way too much leeway with this crap simply because they are women (I watched my dad give my mom way too much leeway). But nowadays I got better developed radar for this crap.

A mother will leave an impression (right or wrong) on how women are supposed to behave. Same goes for how a daughter sees her father.