i ask bc at 5 ft 11 there's a lot of body to make look nice. a middle aged man won't have breasts and small hips hell just be saggy.
you said lower body is small- are your legs thin or short?
most runway models have hips of a 9 year old boy. small hips are not unattractive. breeding is not the primary cause of attraction if it were models would not make millions a year to look like boys.
Models make millions because they are paid to walk down a runway and show clothes , not because they're attractive. Yeah some models face wise are very attractive , but I'm pretty sure their bodies aren't. Small hips signal that you are more likely ( not always true but more likely) to have issues during child birth , and it's common knowledge that men are attracted to wide hips. And my body , no matter how skinny I get , has a broad back and big breasts and a huge stomach ( even when I'm not heavy it sticks out like a beer belly ) and no ass , and undeveloped hips. Its the most unattractive body ever. My legs are thin even when I'm heavier so in general I just look disproportionate.
I do have long legs. That isn't as appealing as having the full package though of a good looking body. Plus my legs are disproportionately thinner than the rest of my body and long , they just look lanky not attractive.
This is not a reason to hate attractive people, there lives are more shit than your can ever be, and it's mainly due to this type of unnecessary mindset stated above.
That their good looks could get them attention or people flirting with them. I understand they have problems too , but I guess I want what I don't have , and it would feel nice to have everyone's attention and be really beautiful and attractive.
I feel this on a spiritual level but not all attractive girls are super confident everyone has insecurities so being attractive doesn't really change anything if you already have low self esteem
i know how you feel, but all i did was learn to love myself no ones perfect, but i bet their is a guy just for u, even guys just wait and learn how to love yourself ok. Try it see how it works
Yeah and i shouldn't feel bad for myself , there are much more important things in life to feel bad for rather than me being selfish and feeling bad about how i look. But even when im aware of my problem ill still have an issue accepting it.
It sounds like you're a defensive person. When others tell you that you might be attractive you deny. Maybe a key to your success is loving yourself and having confidence
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I'm not attractive , it just pisses me off a bit because it's the truth. Plus no one irl actually tells me I'm attractive , no one's ever said that to me before actually.
Your only attractive when you believe you are. Stop pushing people off who tell you that you might be pretty. Your insecurities get the best of you. Plus this is real life on this app, and over 7 guys have told you you're pretty. accept it <3
I know how you feel, though I am happily married now, and am not worried about it anymore. I married a guy who is also unattractive, because I love his personality.
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The only unattractive woman in my eyes is a woman with a bad attitude. So, dig in yourself for that naturally good personality and let it shine.
I believe you're way over thinking this, you are probably fine there truly is someone for everyone out there.
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If you read the part where i said I'm too selfish to be attracted to other guys than the certain 'type' that I like you'd understand why I don't like the phrase ' there's someone for everyone ' , I am ugly but I can't help be attracted to attractive guys ( not super attractive guys but moderately attractive guys who I know wouldn't date a girl that looks like me). Maybe I'm selfish...
I've already been rejected many times. It's not that I'm afraid , it's more that I know I will get rejected. Plus aren't guys supposed to pursue girls? So the woman have more options? I have 0 options and no one's ever approached me before.
Yes guys will pursue girls but you must be approachable, if you look dejected or have an ora of angry they may not pursue based on that? Smile be pleasant, friendly and approachable... :)
My body is not appealing in the slightest though , and I expect it wouldn't attract anyone since small hips and pelvis signal difficulty during child birthing and that is not appealing to men. So it's why I consider it unattractive , not average though , most women have at least an okay looking body but with developed hips.
Well it looks disproportionate , and I don't show them off since I don't really see them as an asset. Many guys think narrow hips are bad Lol, narrow hips and a broad back or shoulders or just looking narrow in your lower body and bigger on your upper body is a man thing , having wide hips signals fertility , why do you think women like Kim Kardashian or Marilyn Monroe were famous? Their bodies represent that of a fully developed woman.
Not having it doesn't make you bad it means you are different. Guys want a girl with a big ass, they are not thing omg look at those hips. Its all about the booty. How is having boobs not an asset?
Having big boobs and a really tiny body on bottom just looks weird , trust me , it gives off that postmenopausal lady look. And yes men don't say look at those hips but the hips and ass are somewhat related I mean if a woman has wide hips and a small waist it'll look like from the front view as if she has a big ass, believe me it's an attractive thing. I have a flat butt anyway So either way it doesn't look good.
๐ฎ I get what you are saying. I still think you should totally show off you boobs because there are boobs guys out there that only care abouts and nothing else ๐๐. You will totally get them.
The more you tell me how you look the more I wanna see it. Its like a mystery X_x
I'll think about it. I don't really like showing off anything but they're noticeable without me showing them off. And yeah I guess because this take is about how I think I'm unattractive and how it affects me everyone wants to see what I look like.
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Its messed up just how important looks are in general.
@ I know I have a middle aged mans body because of my bone structure
can you explain this?
i ask bc at 5 ft 11 there's a lot of body to make look nice. a middle aged man won't have breasts and small hips hell just be saggy.
you said lower body is small- are your legs thin or short?
most runway models have hips of a 9 year old boy. small hips are not unattractive. breeding is not the primary cause of attraction if it were models would not make millions a year to look like boys.
Models make millions because they are paid to walk down a runway and show clothes , not because they're attractive. Yeah some models face wise are very attractive , but I'm pretty sure their bodies aren't.
Small hips signal that you are more likely ( not always true but more likely) to have issues during child birth , and it's common knowledge that men are attracted to wide hips.
And my body , no matter how skinny I get , has a broad back and big breasts and a huge stomach ( even when I'm not heavy it sticks out like a beer belly ) and no ass , and undeveloped hips. Its the most unattractive body ever.
My legs are thin even when I'm heavier so in general I just look disproportionate.
are your legs long? bc you an work with long thin legs.
and no models faces are striking not pretty. most are funny looking aces on long bodies.
I do have long legs. That isn't as appealing as having the full package though of a good looking body.
Plus my legs are disproportionately thinner than the rest of my body and long , they just look lanky not attractive.
This is not a reason to hate attractive people, there lives are more shit than your can ever be, and it's mainly due to this type of unnecessary mindset stated above.
No I don't hate them. I envy them sometimes.
For what?
That their good looks could get them attention or people flirting with them. I understand they have problems too , but I guess I want what I don't have , and it would feel nice to have everyone's attention and be really beautiful and attractive.
Girl what? Shut your sensitive ass up.
Thatโs not even what she was saying
Almost every attractive girl I meet calls herself ugly. I call bullshit, I think you're fine and just need more confidence.
If you don't believe me send me a link to a image hosting website with a safe for work image of yourself.
I feel this on a spiritual level but not all attractive girls are super confident everyone has insecurities so being attractive doesn't really change anything if you already have low self esteem
i know how you feel, but all i did was learn to love myself no ones perfect, but i bet their is a guy just for u, even guys just wait and learn how to love yourself ok. Try it see how it works
I don't feel bad for you
Yeah and i shouldn't feel bad for myself , there are much more important things in life to feel bad for rather than me being selfish and feeling bad about how i look. But even when im aware of my problem ill still have an issue accepting it.
Who asked you to feel bad for her?
It sounds like you're a defensive person. When others tell you that you might be attractive you deny. Maybe a key to your success is loving yourself and having confidence
I'm not attractive , it just pisses me off a bit because it's the truth. Plus no one irl actually tells me I'm attractive , no one's ever said that to me before actually.
Your only attractive when you believe you are. Stop pushing people off who tell you that you might be pretty. Your insecurities get the best of you. Plus this is real life on this app, and over 7 guys have told you you're pretty. accept it <3
Everyone has their own tastes. If you believe in leagues you are denying their ability of choice.
You really believe a really attractive looking man would go for a very below average , unattractive woman? leagues exist and they're real.
no they don't
you're just making excuses for yourself not to go out and look for someone
I wrote in the take that I've been rejected many times. And that no one takes interest in me and I've tried a lot before and failed.
I know how you feel, though I am happily married now, and am not worried about it anymore. I married a guy who is also unattractive, because I love his personality.
The only unattractive woman in my eyes is a woman with a bad attitude. So, dig in yourself for that naturally good personality and let it shine.
I love how the "unattractive girl" in the picture is like my perfect idea of a girlfriend. lol
Haha sorry , my take went through editing and they put that picture. But yes the girl in the picture is actually beautiful.
I believe you're way over thinking this, you are probably fine there truly is someone for everyone out there.
If you read the part where i said I'm too selfish to be attracted to other guys than the certain 'type' that I like you'd understand why I don't like the phrase ' there's someone for everyone ' , I am ugly but I can't help be attracted to attractive guys ( not super attractive guys but moderately attractive guys who I know wouldn't date a girl that looks like me).
Maybe I'm selfish...
Or maybe your trying to punish yourself based on your idea of you looks... You don't want to put yourself out there for fear of rejection?
I've already been rejected many times. It's not that I'm afraid , it's more that I know I will get rejected.
Plus aren't guys supposed to pursue girls? So the woman have more options? I have 0 options and no one's ever approached me before.
Yes guys will pursue girls but you must be approachable, if you look dejected or have an ora of angry they may not pursue based on that?
Smile be pleasant, friendly and approachable... :)
I have a very similar problem, I'm a virgin in my late 30s :(
Attractiveness can exist with the character as well
Hit the gym and hit the make up. Almost any women can be attractive with a good body and make up
Agree ๐
And yet you still probably have it 99.99% easier than ugly men.
lol this is what makes you unattractive. honestly if you know how dress then you'll be ok with most guys. also eat healthy.
What's a middle age body structure?
Narrow hips , big stomach even when im not overweight , big shoulders and back and small lower body.
This? i.dailymail.co.uk/.../...ge-a-34_1481679372249.jpg
Yeah something like that. But with bigger breasts I guess since I'm a female,
But yes like the picture.
... You sound like most average people.
An average woman has a man's body and bad facial features?
Your body is average... A lot of girls have the same body as you. I don't know about yout facial structure since I can't see your face.
My body is not appealing in the slightest though , and I expect it wouldn't attract anyone since small hips and pelvis signal difficulty during child birthing and that is not appealing to men. So it's why I consider it unattractive , not average though , most women have at least an okay looking body but with developed hips.
really? I've seen a lot of girls with narrow hips. I don't know any guy that thought small hips were bad. if you got boobs then just show them off.
Well it looks disproportionate , and I don't show them off since I don't really see them as an asset.
Many guys think narrow hips are bad Lol, narrow hips and a broad back or shoulders or just looking narrow in your lower body and bigger on your upper body is a man thing , having wide hips signals fertility , why do you think women like Kim Kardashian or Marilyn Monroe were famous? Their bodies represent that of a fully developed woman.
Not having it doesn't make you bad it means you are different. Guys want a girl with a big ass, they are not thing omg look at those hips. Its all about the booty. How is having boobs not an asset?
Having big boobs and a really tiny body on bottom just looks weird , trust me , it gives off that postmenopausal lady look.
And yes men don't say look at those hips but the hips and ass are somewhat related I mean if a woman has wide hips and a small waist it'll look like from the front view as if she has a big ass, believe me it's an attractive thing. I have a flat butt anyway So either way it doesn't look good.
๐ฎ I get what you are saying. I still think you should totally show off you boobs because there are boobs guys out there that only care abouts and nothing else ๐๐. You will totally get them.
The more you tell me how you look the more I wanna see it. Its like a mystery X_x
I'll think about it. I don't really like showing off anything but they're noticeable without me showing them off.
And yeah I guess because this take is about how I think I'm unattractive and how it affects me everyone wants to see what I look like.
If the pictures provided are of you, I find you to be quite attractive.
They aren't of her, she said she was a black woman. The picture was of a white woman.
Yeah the editor put those pics in there.