To start off, nooooo, this is not body shaming, and yesssss, this may come across bitter because at 22 I'm just figuring out that "oh, well, i have curvy features, not my fault". I just don't understand why the rules are different.
Why we're expected to wear different clothes than skinnier women because we might come off as slutty, provocative, teases, whores, attention-seekers, etc. (im sure you can think of more!) For example, below. A simple tie front top that exposes chest.
If the top girl had cleavage, Im sure it would come off very differently.
Admit it. Sure, you may have looked at the skinnier girls chest, but who would be more "shamed" at the end of the day?
Or more sexualized to the point of "she shouldn't wear that around _________"?
This isn't to say skinny women aren't sexy.
Just want to reiterate that. Im just addressing the over-sexualization of curvy women to the point we're almost policed out of cute clothes. Or, you know, sexy clothes.
It's not fair to be called out (esp. if girls in highschool are reading this, babes, i see you) while the other girl gets off scot-free. Like...sorry?
All these comments from people led to me constantly covering up.
As in to the point where my mom asked if i was legit raped (i was so awkward with my curves i'd wrap sweaters and jackets around me...even in 80 degree weather). She thought I was scared of men. Like, wtf?
To the point where I would go out to the club with my friends and they'd say "OMG, look at your CHEST! :D" because no one had any idea how I looked in tight clothes. Whether it was a romper, a dress, or even just a bodysuit and pants.
Why does it have to be "different"?
I get it if you glance down...
or take a look back, that's fine. Whatever. I know sometimes your eyes automatically drop. Do your thing guys/gals/*insert identifier*.
But don't say that one girl dresses provocatively if they wear the same exact thing as they skinnier friend.
Don't say she looks easy. It's rude and it can cause body image issues.
Im sure you all have a "type" of body you're attracted to. I do, too. But can we all just agree to stop stupid slut-shaming? Especially when no such behavior was committed? (Even though I personally don't like the word "slut"...if you're banging, you're banging).
And just for a last comment, curvy girls should be allowed to dress as hot and sexy as they'd like to. Short dress? Fine. Tight dress? Cool. Cleavage? Nice. Hey, tall, short, curvy, skinny, overweight, and anyone else! Let's just stop body shaming all round.
Watch out for this 22 year old! Summer better watch it's back. You guys aren't ready for this long overdue confidence! :)
P.S. "YMI Jeans" is amaaaaazing for small waist girls who have way too much belt left over.