So I normally like to think of myself as being attractive...or at least decent. But sometimes I feel like I am fooling myself
My best friend, who just for the record is much more attractive than I am and gets A LOT more girls than I do, were bored on facebook one day so we decided to request like 15 random girls. We each requested the same ones that we both didn't know at all and see which ones would accept us.
Well...(sigh)...this was quite a blow to my already lowish self esteem because out of the 15 that I requested, only 4 accepted me...However, my friend got accepted by almost all of them. I think like 12 or 13. Some even sent him messages saying things like "hey babe, thanks for the request" or "hey your cute =)" and these were from the same ones that denied me...
Honestly when something like this happens, its kind of hard not to question your looks. I never thought of myself as ugly (5'6" 145lbs. black hair brown eyes-nothing spectacular) but after this I'm kinda devastated.
My question is if so many girls out there say looks aren't important, which is obviously the grand master lie of all lies, then why did all these random girls who didn't know either of us accept him over me? Seriously, all these girls had on judging us were pictures of what we looked like. There was nothing about our personality they could have analyzed over facebook. Hmmmm...
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Its not a lie.
"then why did all these random girls who didn't know either of us accept him over me?"
Theres your answer.
Because they didn't know either of you.
All things being equal, people are going to take something that has more value than something that has less. That's obvious.
However, women place more importance on behavior than looks. If you were a cooler guy than your friend, or they KNEW either of you, it would depend on which one of you displayed attractive behavior.
So when women say "looks are not important" its actually true.
Looks are't important is not saying "i like ugly dudes" or "ill sleep with a toad"
What it says is, its not "as" important as other things.
Just like most men who say "personalty isn't important"
Then ask those same men if they would be with a supermodel who never puts out?
Who acts like a total bitch, and does nothing but moan and complain?
Then suddenly personality matters. However, Looks matter MORE... to MEN.
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