My boyfriend doesn’t let me wear skirts, dresses or crop tops... How can I deal with it?

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GraveDoll · Accepted Answer

ask him did he not meet you wearing those things. what has change.

BUT you need to learn to set boundaries.

that on you. If you dont step up and let him know you literal allowing control. who allows this to bother them. you tell him your side you tell him im not your wife and even if i was you should always be happy i take pride in my looks.

men always going to look he can't do anything about that. and you dont see a control freak form 6 mile away those are the worst men.

pull your big girl panties up and let him know. so simple. it not complicate.
boyfriend is always temporary word. not a forever word. it not 1920 anymore either.

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

Tell him next time he opens his mouth about what you wear, he gets to wear a skirt and heels to the grocery store and then make you dinner afterwards. That should shut him up.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

Kill him.

Seriously, dump him.
He's a control freak.
The longer you stay with him, the more miserable you will become.
He needs to go.
Now.
Like stop reading this response, pick up the phone, and say "I am sick and tired of your controlling bullshit!
Have you ever heard of freedom? I am sorry, but, to quote your beloved psychopathic president that you admire, I say that 'You're fired as my boyfriend!' Good luck." Then hang up and block him on everything.

If you want to make it easier on yourself, have him read this very question and my opinion in particular.

1CentWorth · Accepted Answer

do it anyway, or do what he says. I mean, if you don't do what he says, what's he going to do? break up? that would mean if you stayed with him you could never wear that stuff again. so, unless you like this control, do the opposite until he stops trying to control that.

Also, how can one stop a woman from wearing a variety of different clothes? how does a man convince a woman to never wear a skirt? IT's impossible, right? I bet you will be an example of how this is not possible too. at least eventually.

nonratracereality · Answer

Unf6you have an immature insecure and paranoid boyfriend. When you met him your styles and everything else you maintained unless you surrendered that pastime of fashion. Your standards were low so that allowed someone to come into your life in which everything seems familiar until you start growing expanding and discovering and then that's when certain stipulations started being blended into your repertoire. That is their normal behavior and is part of their fingerprint. All you can do is grow and leave or stay and settle. When you're successful you have few people around and when you're average or below then the world can be at your doorstep.

pandascrew · Answer

He sounds like a very possessive person and it may be that he is insecure about your relationship or doesn't trust you enough.
In highschool my first relationship was like this (i also didn't allow my girlfriend back then to wear those things) once the relationship ended i saw that it was stupid of me to ask that of my girl and since then i have learned from my mistakes and now I'm in the happiest relationship I've ever been in. I don't limit her on what she is allowed to wear or any of that strict stuff

Finchie40 · Answer

Find a new boyfriend that let’s you be what you want to be , your boyfriend sounds insecure and controlling and if you stay with someone like that you just have stupid written on your head cuz things will get worse , considering he already doesn’t trust you , be smart and dump his ass

humanearth · Answer

Are you his slave, does he own you. Like a piece of property. Stand up for yourself. Or He wants them for himself. He might be a closet crossdresser

Anonymous · Answer

I believe you can talk to him about why he is having issues with you dressing up certain ways. Listen to what he has to say and keep your point as well. Make him understand that you wearing skirts or dresses or crop tops don't change a single thing between you two. If even then , he is adamant and wants to boss around, may be you should give your relationship a second thought. Hope it helps.

jspl90 · Answer

Be a man not a mouse wear what you want🤣 I mean if you wanted to wear the sluttiest thing ever if i was your boyfriend I might be like girl no that belongs to the bedroom not outside😋other then that restricting what you can and cannot wear is off-putting

EmmaMary · Answer

In no uncertain words, this controlling, manipulative, pathetic, lowlife juvenile delinquent would never have been my boyfriend for more than five minutes. And that's putting it politely.

Radio4men · Answer

LEAVE HIM! What happens to a birds when you put the bird in a small cage? The bird wants nothing but freedom.
You're not in a prison, you're dating him.
I think you should have never had sex with him or dated him from the start. He sounds like a SIMP/Soyboy (girly weak man)
and the longer you stay with him the more miserable you'd become.
Girl's bodies are beautiful. (If she's fit) why not be free and show it off!

Jessie91331 · Answer

Why do you like being controlled and dictated to? Not trying to be mean, but time for some self esteem enhancers. Guys like him, it will only get worse. He will start telling you who you can talk to, when you are allowed to talk to them and so on.

Makeushiver · Answer

Find a new boyfriend. If he's that controlling now- when it might seem a little cute along with creepy, it will get more asnd more restrictive until he's telling you when or if you can leave house.

cute_short_nerd · Answer

Go out with the girls and wear whatever you want, take pictures and post them on whatever. If he flips out, tell him that he’s being too controlling and ur not gonna have it.

Cherokeehp · Answer

Wear them anyway. He can’t control how you dress and if he tries to then you should dump him because he’s a controlling asshole.

Bedazzled2 · Answer

I think he doesn't want anyone looking at u with the wrong eyes. He’s just trying to protect u, maybe not in the best way tho, but its what seems right to him

elizamichale1 · Answer

He has no right to stop you from wearing anything  You should dress the way you want n like darling Talk to him so he can change or ditch the controlling freak

StephenCF · Answer

He can hate something on you all he wants, but if he’s forbidding you like you’re his property, I think you need to storm your way out of his life 😤

DellBell · Answer

Run! Get out of that relationship while you can! Two words control freak! Things will only get worse if you stay with him!

boredguy01 · Answer

You're a grown ass woman so you shouldn't need your boyfriend's permission to wear anything

Sarahr123 · Answer

Wtf what’s wrong with skirts, dresses and crop tops? How old is this idiot and is he Asian/Muslim?

sejla · Answer

I don't think your boyfriend should have any say in what you wear unless it's really considered inappropriate by just normal standards.

nodnol32 · Answer

he's your boyfriend. Not your boss. He can't dictate what you wear. My girlfriend wears what she likes and she signs.

luvstoned4him · Answer

He sounds controlling.. but maybe he just feels a bit insecure.

rose004b · Answer

That's a red flag. I can understand him not liking crop tops... but "normal" feminine attire? That's absurd.

Aenigmata · Answer

What kind of dresses-sexy dresses? Short skirts or all skirts?

darkcloud1945 · Answer

Wear anything you want. Tell him you will wear anything you want. If he does not like it leave him because things are not going to get better you will most become abused.

alice55 · Answer

Wear everything at once *-* And break up with him cause he's annoying.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

"doesn’t let me" You dump the control freak.

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Talk to him about it. If he doesn't let you wear that and you can't stand it, break up with him.

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Find a new guy who does other things in life than tell you what to do and wear... i swear there's guys out there that aren't little insecure twats like your guy

Anonymous · Answer

He doesn't let you or doesn't want you to? Are you saying he physically stops you putting on and leaving the house wearing those...

Anonymous · Answer

Wear a crop top with a skirt and make him deal with that. He's just your boyfriend he doesn't get to control how you dress.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

tell him its your body and your money. so you'll dress how you please.

Arjunaguy · Answer

He seems quite concerned and possessive about you. You should talk to him and make him understand

R3DthatDude · Answer

Tell him to go shopping with you lol he will never tell you what to where again 😂

magiusX26 · Answer

if you want to stay with him anyways. try this. tell him what he can and can not do or wear. see how he likes it.

Browneye57 · Answer

Hmmm... interesting how you've given power over yourself to someone else.  Get a new boyfriend?

Meatboy02 · Answer

It just means he's really jealous and doesn't want anyone to look at your cleavage or anything

TheFlak38 · Answer

omg the boyfriend doesn't want her to be a slut! what a tragedy!

Ad_Quid_Orator · Answer

Tell him you'll wear what you want to wear and if he has a problem with it, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

observe_R · Answer

He's protective , talk to him, tell him you feel safe around him.. You trust him that he'll protect you in all way and that's why he should let you dress as you want..

Tessa333 · Answer

Drop him! It's YOUR body, you should do as you please. Also it could get worse.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I have a tractor and shovels. Bury him in the desert... then get a new boyfriend.

NorthwestRider · Answer

Stand up to him and/or dump him You have the right to wear anything you want to wear

kaymacd · Answer

why should he get to decide what you wear? Set him right or DITCH HIM

Reddwolf · Answer

Time to get a new boyfriend who doesn't care what you wear

Jack-mayhoff · Answer

Lmao. How you ask. Dump his possessive ass and move on. Fuck him telling you how to dress. First class looser

Anonymous · Answer

Change or leave him. As it is what he appreciates in his lady. FYI, if a guy controls those things, he takes the relationship serious

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

He doesn't let you?🤣 so you ALLOW him to treat you like crap is what you're saying?

Shamalien · Answer

you can be thankful he gives a fuck about you or get pissed that you are restricted, up to you

Juggernautpunch · Answer

Dump him. Absolute arsehole. What business is it of his. You deserve better.

AshleySeeks · Answer

Tell him to grow up and that you can wear whatever you want. He is your partner, not your dad

AkshiJanjua · Answer

what a stupid man these are the sexiest clothes a girl can wear

joko0987 · Answer

you need to talk with him, its your fashion, not him

ManHater · Answer

Put on a Muslim Burka then he won't have a problem with you.

Cancaer89 · Answer

Let? If there’s something you want to wear you just wear it... or what? He gon beat you? Cus then that’s a whole new topic to speak on girrl 🤨

Randomsoul · Answer

May be he's being possessive!.. You need to talk wid him! There might me some sort of trust issues!

RyanMak · Answer

Deal with it by dumping him. It's your choice what you wear, not his.

Anonymous · Answer

You're an adult and he's not your dad anyway so... Either you accept that either you tell him to fuck off.

Metlahaed · Answer

Just tell him too bad and wear it anyway...

DrippingHoney · Answer

Doesn't let you? He doesn't own you, leave him.

G3tAClue · Answer

Give him wardrobe rules and see how he likes it

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