Walk around in a frog costume one day in public when his back is turned, singing "The Catalyst" by Linkin Park. Make sure he finds out. Post it all over YouTube.
When he demands to know why, tell him, in a System of a Down voice: "I WANTED TO!" Walk away smiling, and say nothing else that evening.
Next day, walk around in front of his office in scuba gear for no clear reason. Pretend to give a news report for a camera about the office where he works. Return home, dress normal, act like nothing happened. Wait for him to fall asleep. Then, decorate the walls with pictures of creepy clowns, so it's the first thing he sees when he wakes up. Sneak over to a friend's house to sleep, so he wakes up surrounded by creepy clowns, and no you. And no idea where you are. Make sure to delete your browser history, so you can feign innocence when he sees you next.
Then, order a bunch of rubber ducks off Amazon. Fill his car with them one day while he is at work, and isn't expecting you. Make sure you escape undetected. Put construction paper over the windows, so he doesn't see the ducks until he opens the driver door and they come spilling out.
Then, move to another town. Unless he's the homicidal type, he'll never bother you again.
You need to get up your courage and tell him to the face that this is too controlling. And even though you value his input this is going too far.
This guy seems pretty set in his ways though this might be a deal breaker.
Honestly I would break up with someone like that. If I can't be myself in my relationship without having someone commenting that I'm doing it wrong, I'm out. You shouldn't have to listen to shit like that, and if he doesn't understand that you're not a 5 year old and he's not your mom trying to dress you for school, then he doesn't understand the basic dynamic of a relationship. I doubt he'd like it if you kept telling me that he's wearing the wrong colored t-shirts or that he's not allowed to wear shorts, or a certain style of shoes.
If you don't want to break up, you've already tried talking to him about it and you don't mind being petty, you could start commenting on his outfits the way he comments on yours. Two-way street.
Wear what you want to wear, he is not in charge of you. If he can't handle it and gets upset about not being able to control you, he isn't a good boyfriend. Also, if he is insecure and does this because he thinks it will attract attention from guys and doesn't trust you not to cheat on him, he shouldn't be with you and people who are overly insecure and jealous, and unusually preoccupied with cheating are usually guilty of it themselves.
Well is he your dad or is he your boyfriend? There needs to be a difference. You should just ignore him, and walk out the door with whatever you feel comfortable in instead of being controlled by him. He puts his hands on you call the police immediately. No woman should be ever feel ashamed of what she dresses in. It's her body and her choice of how she wants to dress, even if she gets a million death stares about it.
Ugh, my ex boyfriend was like that. Totally controlling, first he had a problem with my dressing style. Then he got problems with my guy friends, then he started judging my girl friends, then he had a problem with me going out alone etc. So yeah it gets worse day by day.
I honestly think you should break up with him. He's not worth it
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Confront him directly. Tell him to accept what you like to wear or its over.
To be yourself is all that you can do. So, if you can't be yourself around him, then stop being around him. A. K. A dump him.
If you're going to try to hang onto the relationship, then just stop listening to him. Take what he says as a suggestion and not a command. Meaning, if he tells you what to wear, don't listen and wear what you want. He will either learn that telling you what to wear won't work and stop or get mad that you're not listening to him. If he gets mad then you have control over the relationship because at this point you can leave the relationship anytime you want because you are no longer under his control and if he wants to be with you, he has to do what you want ie. let you wear what you want to wear. If he starts to get abusive, verbally or physically run and don't look back.
That is so f-ed up, literally got mad reading this. Wear what makes you happy, and he can fuck off if he has a problem with it. How a guy could keep a girl from dressing cute (or dressing anyway for that matter) is beyond me, because you know cuteness is awesome.
Honestly, if I were you, I would leave him. He has serious issues and it's unlikely that he will change. It's your body and you have the right to wear what you want. If he can't accept that then it's his problem, not yours. He is controlling and you don't deserve that.
woah wish i had a girlfriend like you lol frankly i really like it when girls wear miniskirt and stalkings and stuff that shows more skin :3 maybe your boyfriend is insecure that if some other guy gets to see you like that he'll be making the moves on you but you wanna look good for him so i think you just need to make it clear to him, i mean telling you what to wear and not to wear is too weird actually, i'd understand if it was wear something sexy once in a while but it's completely opposite so i don't understand his intentions, you just need to tell this to him straight up and if he doesn't agree then best choice is to leave him, he's wayyyy too controlling
What do you mean doesn't let you? Does he live with you?
If he refuses to go out with you because of how you're dressed then tell him he's gonna have to get over it caz you're only going to be by his side.
My guess is that he doesn't want other guys looking at you, not that you'll cheat but that those guys will try to hit on you in front of him. That's seen as disrespectful and troublesome.
Did you use to dress more conservative and covered up when y'all first met? Maybe he's not use to your new look
tell him he doesn't own you anf what you choose to wear is none of his consern if he sees something wrong with that then he can just go bye bye. I've been with that type before first its what you wear, then its who you hang out with, after where you go, and last just take over completely. just not worth it if he can't live with a little thing like you choosing what you wear then he doesn't deserve your time
Replace your entire wardrobe with a giraffe costume. That way there is only one option
If he's controlling about how you dress then he might get controlling of other things. I think it might be time to leave before it gets worse
why are listening to him. if he is that demanding on something as trivial like your outfit. what is he going to do if you talk to other guys? he sounds like an insurance ass hat
Find a new boyfriend. You will break up eventually anyway with that kind of controlling behavior he has, so you might as well do it sooner and get on with your life.
Read Pete the cat too cool for school. If you liked something, he can have an opinion but he can't control you. If he gets abusive, you need to tell him you won't take it.
You deal with it by ignoring him. He isn't your parent and you're free to wear what you want. If he doesn't like it tough cookies but he's being irrational.
By dumping him and finding a boyfriend that isn't controlling?
you basically tell him straight forward that you are an independent person who can and will decide what you are going to wear.
If you want to dress up for him, but he doesn't want you to dress up, I'm kinda confused at what the problem is.
You don't deal w/someone controlling, you leave. He will never let up on you and the controlling behavior will get worse.
Tell that your appreciate it if he let you wear what you like without him putting it down, let you decide and if you want any feedback you'll ask
flip him the bird, then tell the gobshite to back off or go away.. He sounds controlling and that is NEVER good.. no mater how nice he is.. Next he'll limit your friends, then you family... Now that I am thinking about it, just tell him to go away...
Leave him please. That's a toxic relationship.
He will never let you to wear what you want, never.
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