My boyfriend told me to stop dressing like a slut. Is he controlling?

[Anonymous]

He said I dress too revealing and he doesn't like what I wear.

[Shezadi]

No, he is not being controlling. He only spoke his mind, and in a relationship, a person should be able to speak his mind and be honest. Maybe, he only stated the obvious. Maybe, he wants to be protective and doesn't want other people to look at your beauty. What is the point of dressing in such a way if your boyfriend doesn't like it? I mean we usually dress to impress our partner, and when the partner doesn't like it what is the point?
Would you be happier if you had a boyfriend who expected you to wear revealing clothes and look provocative to keep him interested in you? That would have been lust rather than love. If he wants you to be simple and doesn't expect you to look bold, sexy and hot then you are a very lucky girl.
There is a quote, "if a guy loves you he shouldn't feel the need to open your shirt buttons to get a better view of your heart."
In another words, he should not feel the need for a girl to wear revealing clothes to get a better view of her soul, personality, inner beauty and to love her more.
Perhaps, he wants to be the only person who gets to see your beauty. It makes more sense for a partner to see your beauty whom you have a relationship with rather than strangers, who don't know you. It would have been okay if you were single but certain things have to change when we are in a relationship because then it is not just about you, your likes and dislikes.
The decision depends on you- you can change your ways to make your boyfriend feel happy. If you do so, he may end having more respect for you that you cared about his feelings and he will appreciate it.
Or you can have the attitude- "take it or leave, accept me the way I am or break up with me."

[9teen]

I second this. Great answer.

[ciitruskiwi]

Very well said 👏

[Asker]

He can take it or leave it. I like my style and it's not going to change. And if he breaks up with me over that then he's immature and insecure. People will actually make fun of him lol, "oh you broke up with her because you don't like how she dresses? " lmao haha.

[9teen]

You're the immature one. You clearly don't know how a relationship works nor the mind of your guy. Poor guy.

[9teen]

You also seem to be the insecure one since you like to flaunt what you have since that should make you feel better instead of being normally comfortable in your skin.
Your guy only went protective which is normal and natural.

[9teen]

If you enter a relationship with an I-mentality instead of a we-mentality, you can continue dreaming that your relationship (s) ever will work out. It's the difference between maturity and immaturity.

[JulieXO]

I think you should be able to wear what makes you feel comfortable. Your closet isn’t really his business, unless you walk around naked.

[themetalhead]

he's being protective of you. he doesn't want other guys trying to hit on you and stuff

[GingerGuy]

Yes I say controlling. I mean, he doesn't have to like it, but it's not his decision, it's yours. You should be able to dress how you want to. And even if he feels the need to say something, that he doesn't like it, he definitely without a doubt doesn't need to say it like that!

[Anonymous]

Yes, he ought to be proud he has a girl with something to show!

[Rascaldees]

There's a difference between controlling and caring. If you dress too revealing, you are inviting other men into your life. That's probably how he sees it.

My advice is to dress the way you want around the house and maybe even wear less if you two live together.

[Cryptic7]

No. He's just protective. He doesn't want other men looking at your body. Maybe because he sees you as his. I'd say possessive is a better word than controlling.

You're gonna have to determine the difference. Protective suggests he acts that way because he REALLY cares about you, possessive implies he acts that way because he sees you more as a trophy.

I suggest sitting down and talking to him about it.

[Fractacular]

It depends on how he said it, and how you dress.

Maybe he was showing concern for you. Or maybe he was being jealous and controlling, like you said.

Can't really say without more details.

[boggboss]

U can't dress how u like and he can tell u how that makes him feel relationships are give and take work it out with him lol

[passinby]

I would never say that but I probably wouldn't care if she found a new guy either.

[TheRealRagnarouk]

It may be not that he is controlling but may be that he does not like the way you dress simply. Some guys don't like it when their partner is revealing.

[najekim]

What one person calls "slutty" I could call "comfortable" but not seeing what you were wearing I can't say for sure.

[TheOtherAsian]

he cares about you, so don't be dismayed. he's protecting you from other guys and other women for criticisms.

[Delroy1995]

I personally would dump a girl. if I though she was wearing inappropriate clothing of she didn't change it

[sbj78]

He's not controlling, he's being protective. You should wear what you like and are comfortable in.

[tinyone282]

Tell him if he is no happy with the way u dress u got the wrong man

[MrCrowley]

What does he mean with "slut"... How you wear? And yes, you can dress the way you want

[CarpetDenim]

Stop dressing like a slut then

[CT_CD]

No. He just wants you to stop dressing like a slut

[shubh777]

Just seduce him in that dress

[Cody01]

It's not his place.

[Anonymous]

are you dressing like a slut?

[1derfulguy]

How do you dress?

[sbijarnia]

As u like