Can my mom decide my outfit if I’m 21?

[Anonymous]

Is my mom allowed to decide what I should wear when we go out together.. I’m 21!

[ProbablyClueless]

There's the correct answer and the smart answer, in these situations.

The correct answer is that you can decide what you want to wear for yourself.

The smart answer is that there is a reason she wants to see you wearing something different from what you would probably choose for yourself.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Is she pinning you down and shoving clothes on you? No? Then do whatever you want... her saying what you should do and physically forcing you are two different things.

[Nxtawm]

No? Starting from whenever you develop a preference for clothes/style, you choose your own clothes. Parents can makes suggestions but they can’t force you, it depends on whether you listen to them or not.

[Asker]

Yeah but in the literally force me I wanted to wear shorts and she told me that I have to wear pants!!!

[Nxtawm]

Like other comments said, stand up for yourself, you’re a grown man, she’s not physically forcing you. Her telling you what to wear is not forcing you, you’re choosing to listen to what she says.

[Asker]

Ok thanks girl!

[kylee2437]

That depends. Some men truly don’t know how to dress themselves, and my exes mother is the reason why my ex didn’t look like an ass at certain events.

[Asker]

There’s a difference suggesting u and decide she literally tells me what to wear by example I said that I wanted to wear shorts she told no I should wear pants!

[kylee2437]

“Should” warrants suggestion. Maybe she just thought the outfit would look better with pants.

[Asker]

Yup could be true!

[kylee2437]

If you don’t want to listen, just don’t take her advice. She may be saving yourself a few embarrassing outfits by her suggestions though

[Asker]

Yup u may be right and it’s a Buisness meeting so I can understand her!

[kylee2437]

Yeah then I agree with her! You should always wear pants in a business meeting

[Asker]

Ok thanks!

[Wraith_Cemetery]

"Some men truly don’t know how to dress themselves"

Neither do women these days.

Literally had Gen Z girls showing up to interviews in crop tops and sweatpants.

[kylee2437]

@wraith_cementary yeah it was literally unnecessary to make this about women.

[SnowedIn]

If you let her. Otherwise make a decision and live with it and the consequences.

[Asker]

Lmao ok

[AviatorTom]

No, your mom can make suggestions, but it's your choice what you wear.

[Asker]

Ikr but she literally forces me like I’m 21 not a kid!

[AviatorTom]

How does she "force" you? Unless she physically grabs you and puts the clothes on you, you are giving in to her. Stop doing that and stand up for yourself. You will appreciate that, and so will she... when she finally recognizes she has an adult daughter to be proud of.

[Asker]

”daughter” lmao bro I’m a guy… but ok thanks!

[AviatorTom]

My apologies, but the comment is the same. Stand up for yourself.

[Asker]

It’s okay bro and yeah ur right thanks bro!

[RavVid]

Well possibly. If you a showing a venue inappropriate amount of cleavage or other flesh then I think she might be justified. If it is the mall or a club she should stay out of it.

[jshm2]

Unless you are mentally still a child, then no.

[Asker]

No im a adult mentally!

[slatyb]

No, she can't. She can't decide anything except whether or not you can live in her home.

[mommymommymommy]

If you still live at home, and especially if you don't pay rent

[Redstang88]

If you listen to her

[Asker]

Okay

[gothbxtch]

no, not unless you want her to

[Asker]

I told her that I wanted to wear shorts and she tell me no that I have to wear pants, like I’m 21 I ain’t no kid!

[exitseven]

Only if she is paying for it

[Anonymous]

Why are you living with your mom at 21?

[Asker]

Because I want to!

[SpaceGalaxy]

mom knows best

[Asker]

Ikr but I’m 21 like I ain’t no kid lmao

[Boomchakalaca]

Huh haha

[DaBiggestBird]

Sort of.

[DaBiggestBird]

Unless it’s something petty or rebonkulous of course.