Guys, do you care what a woman wears or if she dresses well or not? Why/why not?

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MrExperienced · Accepted Answer

I’m not the most fashionable person at times but different places require different attire and I want someone I am with to take enough time to make themselves look good when it is appropriate to do so. You ain’t gotta be Waffle House all the time and I love it when you take the time to look sexy in the bedroom and I’m talking trashy underwear and not that Victoria secret stuff. If she wearing a Walmart thing and nighty she about to rock my world!

Bokks · Accepted Answer

I do care about what a woman wears. If she dresses to expose part of her body, I won’t be comfortable walking with her or talk with her

Fashionista Amy · Accepted Answer

Well, fashion and how we dress can be fun ways to express who we are, right? 😊 For some, what someone wears might catch their eye because it hints at someone's personality or style, which can be pretty intriguing. But, at the heart of it, the essence of a person — their kindness, laughter, and the way they light up a room — that’s what truly resonates.

I've found that most folks appreciate the effort in dressing up because it shows respect for themselves and the occasion. Yet, what "dressing well" means can vary wildly from one person to another. Some might be all about that chic, tailored look, while others find beauty in simplicity and comfort.

In the grand scheme of things, it's all about feeling good in your skin and the clothes that reflect who you are. What's your take on this? Do you think personal style plays a big part in the impression you make?

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

Most people these days don't care at all. Hence why you see slobs walking around everywhere. Even the workplaces are filled with horribly dressed folks.

I, however, care a lot. I care a lot about how I look and I care a lot about how my significant other looks. It shows how much or how little they care about their surroundings and the respect they have for themselves and others. It's why I am part of the vintage/retro community (mainly 20s, 40s, and 50s inspired); everyone in that community puts effort into the way they look.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

I have noticed that if i dressed rlly nice around my boyfriend he is more inclined to go out to dinners and even pay for my shopping. I noticed this when i dressed in his type, western style with my cowgirl boots, jeans and hat

Rosexøxø · Answer

Actually I was gonna say stuff, but I find myself in a balance always between minimalist and luxury.

Even growing up I had a blend of tomboy and fashionista. I wore exotic looking outfits and then just t shirts and shorts.

I don’t think what a person wears can honestly show effort unless it’s visibly dirty- the cloth- or visibly messed up like wrinkly. Even then it depends.

Maybe it’s the only time they wore wrinkly cause they ran out of time or their ironing press broke down.

Maybe the stain was recent after spilling coffee from a vendor. 🤷‍♀️

So how can we really judge anyone’s outfit.

As I responded to another comment that seemed a bit uppity in their own parts, I noticed this reality: people either dress for practicality (comfort)/ or (social) aesthetic.

Either that aesthetic look is truly for self, or for acknowledgement from others.

But what hangs over a person’s body doesn’t indicate effort lol 😂

We just tend to associate more effort with those who make it their goal/priority to dress with aesthetic. And that aesthetic naturally also has to be clean and fixed.

No coffee spills, no human reality/error, no wrinkles. Just cut, clean, perfection.

And to me that is a bit wrong.

I loved dressing a lot more aesthetically in my high school days, and I just remember being stressed out at times trying to keep white jeans clean… trying to keep silk/satin flat/neat. Trying to come up with an outfit.

Then I appreciated minimalist clothing more so. I even came to some idea at a point I wanted the same color shirt and that be my entire wardrobe. Just a series of black t shirts and a handful of jeans.

I also read later people like Steve Jobs wore the same outfit in order to increase time spent elsewhere, like on productivity and ingenuity, than in stressing over one piece of attire for the day.

So I suppose depending on your profession, it counts as to what you wear.

I mean no disrespect as I say it too:

You’ll either be a model, a designer eccentric, a slut, a selling yourself or networking professional, or an entrepreneur. Maybe even an artist. Or philosopher.

The ones creating, theorizing, and constructing usually just need practicality. Clothes that work for them.

Those who are trying to make gains, get looks, and design and other, will dress for social aesthetic.

Those who “preen” for a date will also dress as such. Maybe these all fall into religious occasions and places or maybe they don’t. But religious people also have some play into this.

You can never tell how much thought a person put into their outfit. Like literally how much time spent on it. Planning for it. I would assume those dressing aesthetically plan more because of matching factors, flattering factors, and complimentary factors.

But why do they get credit for their anxiety or time spent on their outfit to dress aesthetic?

I don't know I suppose that’s how the society works.

I just stopped caring about what others wore when I dressed for comfort and appreciated that, and when I saw the LGBTQ wearing crossed clothes.

Why give a hoot? 🦉 😂

So I don’t mind what people wear and I honestly don’t consider how much ‘effort’ they put into it.

If it’s daily wrinkles and daily stains and same stains in same paces and maybe dirty skin- I’ll have to consider something else but if they have money then yeah I’d say they’re a bit of a slob for that and that they put little effort.

But let’s just agree. Nudists… they don’t put any effort cause they don’t even have effort to give, to put ON clothing 😂.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Anybody looks better when they dress well. But it only goes so far. Hate to say it but a morbidly obese women isn’t going to start getting more attention from men if she dresses nice. Not to say it’s not a bad thing if it increases her confidence.

However I will say this. How a woman dresses on a first or second date can be a sign how much she respects the man she’s hanging out with.

There is a woman I briefly dated a few years ago who dressed up very nice on our first two dates. She was slightly older then me but she looked great.

Long story short I dated someone else for a while but reconnected with her later. The next time we hung out she showed up literally wearing her PJs in a public place.

This was a huge red flag that she (unannounced) lost romantic interest in me and was 100% confident I would be okay with friendzone bs.

I cut her some slack for a while (because she was a year older and I figured a grown woman would know better) but she later blew the disrespect/friendzone bs out of the water. I called her out on it and never looked back.

So the question is does the woman care about being she looks in front of the man in romantic scenarios? I really don’t expect (or even want) women spending $1K+ on an expensive outfit. I know makeup can be a lot of work for them.

But is she conscientious about how she looks to the man who’s interested in her? If she’s doesn’t care about how she looks then oblivious she’s not interested in him and should of never accepted a date in the first place.

RavVid · Answer

Yeah I do hypocritically do care. Hypocritically because I don't think it matters on my side if I am neat. A girl said to me "we only want men to be neat" - I may be taking that too generically. Certainly I have received encouragement when I have scrubbed up so probably women do care.

I think the biggest reason I do care is I want girls to be femme. Care in how they are dressed is pretty femme and since I want femme I want her to dress well.

A second reason is that if we progressed enough to have a joint household then it is the girls job to make it look good. If she can't dress well than how can she dress a house? I'm not gay so it is not as if I can do this.

It is also a matter of respect to me. You shouldn't let a woman disrespect you and she should want to look good for you. I was taking a woman out to an upmarket cafe and she was dressed as though she was going to the super market for a few things.

I told to dress properly whilst I called and pushed the booking back.

OtterMan68 · Answer

A woman, and a man, should dress appropriate for the occaision. I've seen soccer moms wearing high heels and platform sandals to their kids soccer games and looking like they were going out right after: make-up and hair down perfectly, etc. That's over-dressed for the occiasion and screams "high maintanence."

I've seen moms walk into schools wearing pajama pants and hair bonnets. That's underdressed.

A woman running errands doesn't need to dress like she's going out or going to church, but she doesn't need to dress like she just got out of bed.

I attended a high school graduation recently, and some of the women were dressed like they were going to work in their yards or go to Wal-Mart afterwards.

If you're in public, at leas put a little effort in. And I'd say that for men too.

ShellyB · Answer

I have never dated a guy who did not make his preferences clear about how he wanted me to dress at least in some situations, which can be more controlling and sexual, or can be nicer and more about lifestyle and comfort. I am not complaining, I let him know how I want him to dress also, it’s just part of being in a relationship. JMO!

mstbooblover · Answer

Actually, I don't really give a damn, although... Well, let me honestly say that I'm suspicious about women dressing with too much attention and make up... I prefer by far a lady dressing just normally as she really feels like, even if that means rather neglected. Too much sophistication may be relevant in particular jobs, but not in real life. No offense meant mind, every one being entitled to dress as they want.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I wear clean, comfortable and, in my opinion, looking good on me clothes.

from others I also somehow expect wearing clean stuff... the rest doesn't matter, we see different things as looking good, so I don't waste my resources on this part

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The care and attention that a woman spends on her appearance, and in particular how much energy she expends on her appearance when she will be with me, tells me something about whether she is extremely self-centered or wants to please others. A healthy woman needs a balance between the two extremes.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I think they defo do for the most part.
Though some really don't because I have been checked out wearing grey cargo pants and a sex pistols tshirt looking like crap, plus I'm not even fit lol. As long as they can see the shape of your assets they don't always care 😂

MrOracle · Answer

I care if we are going somewhere, but at home, i just want her to be comfortable. Generally, as long as she looks at least somewhat feminine, I'm fine. Obviously context matters, but she doesn't need to look like a fashion model to go to the grocery store.

SotiCoto · Answer

If I have any sort of investment in her as a person then sure... yeah.
But I hold to my own standards. Literally nobody else's opinions matter to me in this regard. I decide for myself what looks good and what doesn't, and if it happens to be popular AND I don't like it, then I'll usually be more blunt in criticising it.

soe11 · Answer

I do care about my girlfriend outfits. She always ask my opinion after wearing outfits. The personality showed with outfit too. She wear outfits according to society, culture, climate, environment, and tradition.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I care because it affects her mood and confidence. When she’s wearing something she feels cute and put together in that’s the best.

dolemite58 · Answer

Not really, i mean i don’t want her to dress like a bum obviously but i also don’t like those high maintenance women that are too dressed up all the time. I like when girls can kinda dress like a tomboy for the most part but if they do dress up they’re still as pretty as any girly girl.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

No. As long as she's happy and confortable.  Unless they wear something with nazisymbols or stuff like that, but that stuff pisses me off regardless who wears it.

DishLady · Answer

I think as long as the attire is at least semi flattering guys will find something to appreciate about the figure… not so much the outfit.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Male or female should wear clothing appropriate for the occasion. Casual - be comfortable. Formal -dress as nice as your means allows. Sexy - wear whatever or as little as you feel comfortable with.

Zbrody1997 · Answer

100% yes. If you dress slutty I refuse to respect you or your opinion simply because you obviously don’t respect yourself. I put effort in my appearance because I want someone who does the same. If you want better you put in effort.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Our outside reflects our inside whether we notice or not. If a person looks sharp they feel good.

desidoll · Answer

They claim they don’t of course, but that’s not what they do in real life.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I like her to dress well most of the time. However, some girls can really pull of the leisure wear stuff too.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I don't care about labels, but I'd like her to not just wear sweatpants and a hoodie when we go out.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I did. I think everyone likes people who take care of themselves and have pride in their appearance, more so than the alternative anyway. Ell oh ell!

HighValue · Answer

I just don't want her dressing provocatively for attention and I don't care for the trashy look of ripped jeans either.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I do care what she wears. Shorts, rarely, miniskirts or other skirts, often, and or pants or jeans. Denim shorts, vomits. 👀🫢😋

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Yes. It tells you a lot about a person initially. It doesn't have to be fancy and there are definitely places to dress more comfortably then well but as a while it's important to me

handsomelad70 · Answer

I like a well-dressed woman, but also a curvy cowgirl sort who wears Daisy Dukes, snug tops or plaid shirts like a country gal and boots.(Especially if she's the same woman.)

NYlatefun · Answer

Of course I do, I couldn’t date a woman without a sense of fashion. And I don’t mean model level, just good looking clothes.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Yes. If she dresses provocatively that’s a problem unless she is a lady of the night. Which in that case she would not be my lady. Other than that. Not too much..

Paul09 · Answer

Well kinda. It's part of the attraction, is the style. As long it's not over priced brands. Now that I do not like. Doesn't have to be fancy. Just match and looks good.

written_in-the-stars · Answer

We do care about it. I love it when someone im with dresses up nicely. It makes me wanna do it too. It changes my entire mood

At3mis24 · Answer

STOP judging women by their appearance!! I'm not okay with this!! Come on, girls! Wear what you want when you want and don't let men tell you what you must wear!

lorenzomichael · Answer

I don’t. Just as long as she never looks like a dirty tramp.

SunnyRS · Answer

Normally i don't care what a woman wears but if there are some occasion or gathering with a dress code then we should dress accordingly.

jahaims · Answer

Style wise idc really. As long as she isn't dressing like an attention whore.

LiamS95 · Answer

Not really as long as she's comfortable and looks nice.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah of course, I like seeing them dressed up if we are going out

Dreamclouds · Answer

Well to a certain point I mean that she has some good taste and doesn't wear rags, besides that its all about who she really is

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

If she doesn't care how she looms she doesn't care about anything. Who would want to associate with that?

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Care might be an overstatement. I do notice, and will compliment when appropriate though.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If she's my woman I care. Otherwise I don't worry about the clothing of other people.

Jerre · Answer

I don’t really care how she dresses. That is entirely up to her.

msc545 · Answer

don't care. I've got more than her dress to worry about.

Kai-DIB5 · Answer

Everyone has their own unique style that can show faint hints of someone's personality which can be a fun way to get to know someone.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

men with standards and high Quality care.

Grond21 · Answer

It depends on if she is my woman or not

madewithingredients · Answer

Not really.

justabuddy · Answer

Not really. If it's in reason I'm fine with it.

Bluegreen3737 · Answer

Giyim tarzı her zaman önemlidir

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes I care

eagle1951 · Answer

not really

whistlingwh0res · Answer

All men are scumbags period.

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