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Strictly a superficial question, duh!
Try not to get hung up on, well personality matters, and blah, blah....
A lot. Not even in terms of being attractive, just being white, lmao. “Being white” just opens doors for you. It doesn’t mean everything gets handed to you, but it’s just a leg up I have on others in American society. I don’t embrace that, but I acknowledge it. I have never not been called back about a job application, and I’m actually not sure I can remember not getting a job I applied for…but I’m not uncommonly qualified. Yet I’m always taken seriously as an applicant, because I’m obviously white and have an obviously white name.
Based on my looks…. you won’t find me on any magazine covers, haha, but I think I look generally pretty decent. Some women have been very impressed by me. Others wouldn’t spit in my face if my eyebrows were on fire😂 I think I’m kind of hit-or-miss.
I’d probably assume more “miss”, haha, but I guess I’ve had quite a few instances with the ladies where I feel like maybe I’m more of a hit than I give myself credit for. I’ve gotten a couple of catcalls in my day, I’ve had multiple incidents where I literally just had a chick walk up to me and start making out with me (drunk of course, lmao), and I haven’t witnessed that with other dudes, so I think I’m generally perceived as at least somewhat attractive by women, or at least in my heyday. And the women have all been good looking, they have other options, so I guess I give myself a little credit for being selected in these incidents.
“Getting far”…. depends what you mean. Hooking up, I guess I’d say it’s helped, haha. Once in college, I totally bailed on a class for most of a semester, and I came in and sort of batted eyelashes at the female TA to get some extensions on some work to save my grade, and I like to think that was part of it…. entirely possible that she was just nice though😎
Professionally…. I guess to some degree. It didn’t help me get my jobs, dudes hired me. But within those jobs, particularly my sales job, I think there were times when I could “wink and a smile” my way out of trouble with store employees who were mad at us (my company SUCKED, lmao, left me high and dry so many times, not able to make deliveries when needed, etc, and I was the face for them to yell at, even if I had done my end of the job🙄 But yeah, there were a few ladies who were managers or receivers at Walmart or something who I could come in and talk to, and they’d be a little more understanding, and I think in a couple cases it was because it was me specifically.
I also dress very well, especially when working, and at a Walmart, that blows people away, haha. Walk in in a nice suit and these people are falling all over themselves to accommodate you; come in in jeans and a company polo shirt and they try to punk you🙄😂
Like I had stores in other states, hours away, that I wouldn’t visit that frequently, so I wasn’t a familiar face and wouldn’t be immediately recognized or remembered. Literally have gone in dressed both ways, just depending on what I had to do that do, if I was doing dirty work or just in there politicking, and I’ve been treated like a total asshole in plainclothes, and when I walk in wearing a $2,500 (full price) outfit (clearance rack PRO, we ball on a budget over here😝😎) and a nice messenger bag, I don’t even have to approach anyone. Literally walked past the same store manager who talked to me like a clown a few months prior, and he’s holding court with a bunch of other managers and suits, and he stops and acknowledges me “Good afternoon, sir! How are you?” Full kiss-ass mode. He’s probably worried I’m from Walmart corporate, haha, but still…INSTANT difference in respect.
Anyway, took off on a tangent because that’s what I do😅 But looks do get me by at times, depending on the situation, the other person, and the nature of what we mean by “looks.”
If it’s just straight up “being good looking”, I think I’m medium-good-looking, and it’s gotten me medium advantages here and there🤷♂️
Pretty respectable that you see the white privilege and you have no problem admitting it. I respect that. I haven't experienced much racism thank God but i hate the idea of racism. Glad you see it for what it is tho
@CuriousTommy thanks, man🤝 It’s all pretty obvious, it’s just a matter of understanding it correctly and then not deluding yourself to assuage your own psyche’s discomfort with it👍
I was always treated well, partially because of my looks. I was not marginalized or rejected because of them. I fit in with a cool crowd.
I had a cute face. By high school, my face was handsome, I had good hair, and was 6'2".
Quite a few girls were attracted to me. I got my first girlfriend when I was 16 because of my looks, even though I wasn't buffed up like a jock, was clueless when it came to women, and couldn't even grow a mustache until I was in my late 20s.
I had girlfriends all my life for the same reason. They were all really pretty.
My looks didn't hurt me at work or socially.
The only time I wasn't handsome was a period of 5 or 6 years when I gain over 50 lbs because of a radical change in lifestyle due to my job. But I lost the weight and got back in shape when I was 34, and began dating again. I met my two most gorgeous girlfriends in my mid-30s, lived with the first one for about 8 months and with the second one for almost 2 years. That second relationship was amazing.
Then I met my future wife when I was 40.
So I'd say my looks worked for me all my life. I still look good at 71 and have a full head of hair.
Not far. I was a late bloomer. Everything has been through hard work. Lately I have noticed more guys approach me. Yesterday a stranger paid for my lunch. Men are more helpful now. It's kind of sad that it takes looks but I'm taking it in and appreciating it. Sometimes I will tell guys who I work with that I appreciate how hard working, committed or caring they are. These guys tend to not be in the spotlight or popular by any means. Also, guys don't get many compliments. As women, we should be more conscientious about making men feel valued. Men tend to do this, why not us too?
I don't think look matters that much at least not in my country, people are nicer and let me pass before them during line in grocery shop, etc... but others than that if you don't have any real talent your looks are not gonna lead yo nowhere here.
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I have great looks, but it hasn't gotten me anything in life.
I think that really only works often for women.
Attractive men still have to earn everything the hard way, because the type of women who melt over a guy's looks tend to not be in positions of power, and so guys with good looks do not get treated to perks or advantages or favors because of our looks as a result.
There are expceptions to this, where a guy might be accepted into to certain jobs because of looks, such as modeling, or west coast sales jobs, or acting, but I've never applied for any of those jobs as I'm not interested in doing any of them (I prefer to run my own business from home).
It probably doesn't help that after highschool, I barely interacted with other people, as my hobbies and interests and career are all "at home stuff". But I really can't think of anything where being cute/hot has gotten me anything aside from a lot of girls that had nothing in common with me (or were too young) staring at me lewdly or hitting on me, which doesn't really result in anything more than insecurity prevention.
Its not very often these days to see a single woman my age who is in love with a man, rather than just in love with what a man can do for her, because most of those women are married already.
As a result, I think if I was ever going get special treatment because of my looks, that ship has sailed because I was too isolated, unless I was willing to be enabled in life by some rich old lady who likes younger guys, and thats just not something I'm willing to expose myself to.
They haven't gotten me absolutely nowhere in life... On the contrary, I've been bullied, ridicule, made fun of and experienced marginalization, discrimination and belittlement from people, just because of my appearance (I have a good personal hygiene, I shower regularly, I wear clean and normal clothes, deodorant, perfume, am polite, so by deduction, what else could it be (rhetorical question)..
In fact, it's actually that bad that I often catch people giving me odd stares, or looking at me askance or with contempt, almost as if they've just come across some ogre, or mythical hideous monster, when I'm just minding my own business (no, it's not a figment of my imagination; I'm not a lunatic, I believe I can tell the difference between a normal and one of these weird stares/funny faces I just described)...
This is why I usually avoid staring at people directly in their face, or will avert my gaze. Sometimes they might also receive one "Dude what's your deal? Do you want something?" look back in return
Very few times have I received any compliments, (I can count them on my fingers) except from other family members/relatives, or my parents' colleagues, or some kind elderly people (they probably assume I suffer from depression or something, because I'm naturally introverted and need of some boost and encouragement).
But I really don’t mind, I prefer it to be this way, as I've learned to be independent and count on myself and focus on cultivating my inner world, than relying on superficial validation from others and rest on the laurels of fleeting beauty and ephemeral charm. Even if a genie offered me a choice to be more intelligent or good-looking, the answer would always be intelligence (I don't consider myself intelligent at all for the record. Everything I've accomplished is the byproduct of hard study and effort, not wit)
*or resting
Well i considered myself a 6/10 a year or 2 back, but now I've gone down to a 5,5 or 5/10 because my hairline is receding, I'm pretty young and i basically have a free McDonalds advertisement on my head🫤 when my hairline was fine i used to sometimes rate myself a 7, which was my peak. Just a little background. Anyways, my looks got me nowhere in life, i consider some of my friends average or even less attractive than me but somehow they get more swipes on dating apps and talk to women more often than i do. 1 reason is probably because I'm not the best speaker, they can speak the language better than me and they have more confidence while speaking it. That's the real life conversations, but for the dating apps thing, i know my friend barely swipes and gets 12 girls a month maybe. I get 1 every few months by swiping right on every girl i see, whether she's hot or fiona from shrek. So yeah, no luck
by the way, i dress average, i would dress a lot better if i had the budget for that and i know i would look better, but yeah. That's another thing, budget is my 2nd biggest downfall lmao
Your gender factors very heavily into this.
A lot of women falsely believe a physically attractive man is the equivalent to a physically attractive women.
While it certainly doesn’t hurt to be an attractive if you are a man it absolutely does not guarantee you romantic success. It’s only a small head start in the race. If you lack social skills, money, intelligence, personality, social status, etc. you won’t last long with women.
An attractive woman on the other hand is literally guaranteed at least a semi attractive man and she has a lot more leeway to be lacking in other attributes.
I think I was able to get a lot of sales jobs pretty easily in my 20s. My arrogant self thinks my looks had a part in me being selected over many other candidates, because the truth is when it comes to sales, looks does matter.
People (especially my family) will see me a beach, ripped with my top off and they all assume I'm extremely strong and capable. I notice them all being more reliant on me.
And on occasions where I dress formally, people have come up to me thinking I'm a model and complimenting based on that.
Now that I'm in my 30s though, physical attraction from even just looking in the mirror is going down in my opinion a little and I'm noticing a difference in treatment a bit. The beach thing still applies though because I'm still in shape.
I did pretty well in my career. Seemed to rise to the top pretty fast and was well respected.
People have always told me that I'm good looking and still do. Sometimes I can see it and sometimes I can't because I never really pay much attention to it. But if it's true, maybe it is one reason why I was successful. There have been studies that people who are generally considered more attractive are more likely to have career success.
I never experienced some of the things I see guys write about here. Never had a shortage of ladies willing to be in a relationship. I can't say I've never had one turn me down when I approached them, but as far as the outright rejection I see on some posts that guy suffer through I've fortunately never had to experience that.
Do I think that good looks make it easier to succeed in a career and in social popularity? Yes I do. But that doesn't mean that there aren't other things that are important to those ends as well.
Hmm. FAR and NOT far at the same time, I'd say. I don't expect my looks to carry me forward, however the way i carry myself, tend to myself, etc. have formed a sort of appeal that others find attractive, which then draws them to me regardless of if I'm 20 or 50.
My looks have gotten me through so many doors 😄🚪 they really have - can you believe I'm 30, because I am - and that's the beauty of a youthful complexion 🥳🎉 full of life and energy still at going on 31 - lol until it fades whenever if ever and aging takes us all :(
My ''looks'' reflect my self-positioning.
Basically, I look good enough, but my hair style and clothing style express:
Opposition. And Individuality.
Not giving a shit for others' opinion actually has given (and is giving) me credibility and support to some extent.
Therefore, I think that ''looks'' WILL help - but in a different way from mainstream thinking.
I think earlier in life it helped me a lot. I was able to develop self-love and a confident sense of self due to how people reacted to me. Now, I care less about it. Very rarely do people look as good at 37 as they did in their early 20s. I've come to terms with it.
If something is fairly close they will go with the pretty girl. I'm very good at what I do but if I were ugly or I were a guy up against a pretty girl who was as good as I am or not even as good, I would bet she would have gotten most of the work. If she were not nearly as good I think I would get the work even if she were pretty.
I have a feeling that if not my foul mouth I would be much further :D
I suppose it helped me get my last job. I work in IT which is a very youth oriented career. People over 50 are routinely discriminated against. I have been told that I look much younger than I am.
Yes I'm sure there was a time when I got a job strictly because of my looks. I wish I would've exercised and kept my weight under control. I'm a beautiful woman still. Just getting older.
About as far as they would for any average looking person I guess. And my biggest facial flaws are the usual. Not enough symmetry, not enough harmony, not enough striking dimorphism, etc.
Not that far in terms of pretty privilege but I don't get in trouble when I do things cuz I look like a dork so no one ever believes it was me :P
Height to 6', not thinning hair, whiter teeth would have helped a lot.
That and not wearing EVERY emotion on my face. Want money? Play me in poker. You'll know every tell in 20 minutes.
Looks are 90% how we take care of ourselves. Most young people can look at least fairly attractive if they maintain a healthy weight, and good hygiene (hair, eyebrows, skin etc). There are thousands of young people who look good.
Looks aren’t everything! I had a guy tell me I was hot af but he wasn’t into me anymore. To me that’s probably one of the worst insults. Being called superficially attractive but not otherwise.
I think a combination of looks, intelligence, and hard work got me where I am.
I have no idea. I usually don't think about it all that much, but if I had to guess I'd say that it has made no difference whatsoever.
My trustworthiness has gotten me farther in life than my good looks have. People don’t think,” what about that good looking guy/girl” when they need something.
I paid my college tuition by being a stripper so I guess that counts. My looks did help with a lot of discipline on my diet and exercise
Erm... I have heard strangers call me Mr Bean. Enough said.
not far, I've looked the same since i was 10. plastic surgery would probably help
I am worried about where my heart leads, not my looks.
People are nicer to good looking people. I am not a likeable person but women are always nice to me as I look good.
My looks haven't gotten me anywhere lol.
Do not know, do not care. I am happy.
I've got what wanted at times.
Now where at all
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