Yes. They matter to *most * people. I'd go so far as to say the overwhelming majority. I would also say that *some* (with the emphasis on some) people are virtue signaling when they tout how looks don't matter to them.
For some reason, there have always been people who go out of their way to tell us that it's shallow and ignoble to desire someone for their looks, or *not* desire someone for their looks. We see it in the language; shallow and superficial to describe physical attraction and deep to describe emotional attraction. I sometimes wonder if this is just a passive aggressive shaming.
In our folktales, falling in love with someone who is ugly but has a wonderful personality is considered moral. Beauty and the Beast is a great example. Belle is considered noble for falling in love with the beast. I thought she was noble, but only because she said, "He's no monster! YOU are!" to Gaston. That line demonstrates that she understood Beast to be sentient and capable of feelings and character, including goodness and kindness no matter what form he's in. And when she said, "I love you" to Beast still in his monster form, I honestly thought she meant that she loved him as a friend and a person, not romantically (indeed, the witch never stipulated which *kind* of love was required). In fact I still interpret it that way. The falling romantically in love came after, and it's entirely possible that the romance was a result of she liked what she saw when he became human. That wouldn't make her less kind or less moral or less deep. It makes her human.
My friends, the feeling of romantic love is *not* a kindness (and please note I said *feeling*, not the corresponding actions). It is simply a feeling. No more noble than hunger or pain. And for more than a few of us, very often what tips us into romantic love is the desire we feel towards that person, which is often tipped by the way that person looks to us. There's nothing shallow or immoral or ignoble about it. It just is.
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"I don't care what my partner looks like. See, here's my husband, and that proves that I am not interested in an attractive guy."
Have you shown him this post?
Looks matter a lot to me. They aren’t everything but it’s a main part of attraction and I expect the guy to have the same opinion. As long as you aren’t vain there’s not harm in wanting someone as good as you
Your husband is beautiful, just like you and I love to dine at restaurants and would love for lock downs to end so I can do a sit in instead of take out.
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If I can 100% honest... no.
I much prefer someone whom I can be in complete synch, whom I completely understand and that in turn completely understands me, rather than someone who can be really beautiful, but completely without any chemistry or mutual understanding!But really is important to me and what really matters to me is who they are on the inside if they have a beautiful heart they're happy they can smile they're confident that's what I really care about and that shines to the outside of that person show me the outside is just a bonus it's who they are on the inside
Yes to some extent. When I married my first wife, she was about 130 pounds and sexy and cute. After 18 years of marriage and 4 kids she weighed over 400 pounds and just looking at her revolted me, seeing her naked made me want to vomit. I divorced her and vowed to never date or marry a fat woman ever again and I didn't.
My Present wife is 65 and has gained some weight but she is what might be called chubby but not fat. Doesn't bother me a bit as long as she doesn't gain any more.To some extent yeah, they at the very least need to put in effort to their looks and hygiene regardless of looks.
As a man suggesting to another man I suggest your husband ditch this mutton chop beard look he's got going on out of respect for you and himself. Just saying...Looks are critical. For love can't start till attraction does, and then there needs to be a conversation.
No one gives a shit about your guy drinking a beer.Looks matter to everyone. You have cared, personally. You found him physically attractive on a basic level.
I'd say I have a 65-35 split in favor of personality. So yes, looks matter to me, but not as much as personality.
Yes fortunately they matter just as much as personality. Although personality is very important, I will never date someone that I am not physically attracted to but that is just me.
he's not bad looking
I just don't like the beard choice lolSomewhat but not as much as other things, looks might be #3 on my list.
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looks do matter yes... but to me they do not matter TOO much, and they're not my priority either.
Uhh duh... and from your profile pic I see that you married up. Congratulations.
They do matter. It sounds shallow but it is definitely a factor.
my wife's looks grabbed my attention, sure. but it was her heart that wrapped itself around my soul and hugs me all day.
I don't care as much as people do. I care that she is within my type which is average.
It won't matter unless it is at the extremes then it would matter.
It matters, as long as she takes care of herself thats great.
To a certain extent but it should come with a nice personality.
No they don't matter to me I think a person can be ugly with how they carry about them selfs around people if I do go thing good things will come u do be bad things always fallow and that's karma
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