People always talk about how much harder life is for unattractive people, but in some ways I feel like my life is so much more complicated because I'm considered really pretty.
Here's why:
Other Girls
Girls are more prone to be catty and mean to girls they feel threatened by. I have frequently been denied jobs I was overqualified for because the interviewer was a less attractive female that obviously disliked me. Once I even put in an application at a business and I sensed the girl I gave it to was intimidated by me/didn't like me... when I checked back with another employee about my application she had to look for it and it turns out it had been stashed away(hidden) on purpose.
Guys -
Most guys are using you like a trophy and never really even give you a chance because they chock all your value up to your looks alone.
Lots of guys want to sleep with me but they don't think of me like relationship material.
Guys stare alot, but because the nice guys are usually scared .. only the douchebags ever approach...which has given me a horrendous dating history with guys who simply wanted to hurt/use me.
Guys shout lewd/vulgar things ALL the time
Alot of guys don't want to feel like a "pretty" girl is getting one over on them so they are actually meaner to me than I think they would be to a more homely girl.
Other people-
People automatically assume I'm vain and base most of my value in my looks.
I feel like people think I'm less kind/sweet or caring because of my appearance.
My complex -
I can never talk about how people treat my looks with my friends or family because it makes me sounds vain.
Because I feel like everyone places my value solely on my looks...it makes me feel like that's all I'm worth. Therefore if I have an "ugly" day I instantly feel I'm worth nothing.
I'm shyer because I'm afraid of being used like I have in the past.
Now being attractive does have it benefits in that I know I sometimes get favors/etc. and I'm definitely not saying I have a deep desire to be extremely disfigured, but it certainly does have its disadvantages.
How do you feel about this?"
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