Shy guys... Level of confusion? Nervousness? Stuttering?

[Anonymous]

Do you have certain levels? Do you do any of the those at a higher level the more attracted you feel for her? If you are starting to feel a little more comfortable with her and talking is there something that will make you go backwards a little with any of those signs? (I. e. Maybe she chooses a really sexy outfit or maybe you start to get the idea she's attracted to you?) gives us some examples and situations.

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I'm asking whatever signs you show... Confusion... nervousness... stuttering... rambling... etc.. Is it worse the prettier you see her as? Or the more you like her? Better? Or how does it work for you?

[Anonymous]

I'm really shy and I remember fantasizing about all these conversations and couples things amd sex with my crush so much that when I was actually around my crush (who I had it really bad for and most recent) I would have a blank mind and would stammer and not know what to say at all. If I was around her friends I would be rendered almost speechless from anxiety and sweat dripping from my forehead. basically if your guy is shy and is a trainwreck when he's around you but is normal/jokey or somewhat comfortable around his froends then yeah he's got deep romantic feelings that he is too afraid to talk about,

[Asker]

Lol! I love it... But he's a lot older than you... So not sure all that would apply to him.

[Asker]

Well... I saw him today at a gathering so lots of people around... He did walk by and he actually spoke to me. Instead of his usual head nod. He said hey... And later he passed by again as I was leaving and he said hey and my name... He like has never used my name... So good? Or bad?

[Anonymous]

Guys don't get nervous necessarily because she's pretty, they get nervous because they like her. I have no problem talking to any pretty girl, but if I am asking out a girl I like then I'm a train-wreck.

[Asker]

Well.. We are assuming you find her attractive if you like her... But I said the more you find her attractive OR the more you like her... does it get worse... stay the same or get better? I'm sure if you don't get nervous you prob stutter or ramble or something if you are shy...

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not really shy, but when I really like a girl I sometimes stammer or take longer than usual to come up with a witty response to what she said.

[Asker]

Lol! I don't expect witty... Just that you pay attention and respond or leave if you don't care.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, it's what changes for me if I get nervous around a girl I really like. I like what the other guy said: "basically if your guy is shy and is a trainwreck when he's around you but is normal/jokey or somewhat comfortable around his froends then yeah he's got deep romantic feelings that he is too afraid to talk about," SOOOOOO TRUE, like 10000000% THE TRUTH, GIVE THIS MAN A COOKIE HE NAILED IT RIGHT THERE

[Asker]

Would that apply to men in their early thirties too? Just wondering if any of it has age limits...

[Opinion Owner]

That depends on how a guys personality changes over time. But mark my words, if a guy is relaxed, funny and comfortable around his friends/coworkers but starts stumbling over words the second you walk over, you're either his boss or his crush.

[Asker]

Well... Its not the former... We don't work in the same town much less same field or even building. Lol!

[Opinion Owner]

Well yes, if you worked in different towns I'd expect that you probably work in different buildings :p But if that sounds like your guy make sure he knows you like him. If you have a mutual friend (female) maybe have her tell him directly that you're crushing on him (but not that you told her to tell him, that'd make him think you were insecure, he'd need to think it was her idea to tell him).

[Asker]

I saw him today! It was at a large party so no chance for chit chat but he did actually speak to me!!! On his own! He said hey and then later said hey again and uses my name... For the first time ever... I was beginning to think he didn't know it.. or forgot it.

[Opinion Owner]

Good to hear

[Anonymous]

As a shy guy, it takes a special girl to have me open up. Only a few have successfully gotten me to open up with them.

[Asker]

So how does that relate to your level of confusion when a girl talks to you? Or nervousness, stuttering etc... Do you do any of that? Is it worse the prettier you see her as? Or the more you like her?

[Opinion Owner]

It's really the aura she gives off. These girls all SHOWED me they liked me. Shy guys like humble nice girls because we feel like they won't judge us or be harsh if they deny us. When I'm shy with a girl I'm usually quiet and stutter a little.

[Asker]

Ok... Well... He's seemed ok with me one time like touching me and great eye contact and the next time... He stuttered and rambles a bit and seemed little shaky... And didn't maintained eye contact and no touching... He stood close but no touching unless you count reaching over me to shake someone else's hand... so just trying to figure out what the deal is.

[Opinion Owner]

That's pretty common, he probably likes you but is uncomfortable with you.

[Asker]

? Explain? It's not like we don't talk. He prob honestly knows a lot about me since he listens well.

[Opinion Owner]

He's uncomfortable with you, I didn't say he didn't like you. When I mean uncomfortable I mean he's just really nervous with you. It takes a special girl to deal with a shy guy honestly.

[Asker]

Hmmm... Well I can't tell. I have no problem helping him along.. But I don't need him to do something... Anything... However small...

[Opinion Owner]

What do you need him to do?

[Asker]

Give some sign that he wants anything with me...

[Opinion Owner]

Trust me he is. He is giving classic examples

[Asker]

He spoke to me today! Twice briefly... Lots of people at party... He said hey and then used my name the 2nd time... Is that good? I'm sure he noticed the effort I took to look really nice...

[Opinion Owner]

It's not a bad sign, try to push the issue with him

[Asker]

How should I do that?

[Opinion Owner]

Ley him know you like him