Do guys get nervous / awkward, around girls they're NOT attracted to?

[KezHarris]

Yes, they can get nervous

No, it doesn't happen

Only if the guy is already socially awkward!

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A guy seems nervous around me, but always stares at my face (mostly my eyes) and checks out my body a bit. But I'm wondering if he's been acting WEIRDER around me, because someone told him i like him, but he doesn't feel the same way? But i dunno, cos he always stares & looks away nervously when i catch him. But i dunno, maybe he just checks out every girl that walks past him? Cos he seems uninterested when i talk to him. He never flirts, apart from smiling, but he smiles at everyone.

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He doesn't know me that well, so he wouldn't know my personality very well. So he's probably just physically attracted?

[PumpkinKiing]

This can definitely happen.
It's usually guys that are just shy in general, but it can happen to most guys, even if they won't admit it, or don't realize it.
There are many reasons he could be acting like this:
He might not really like you, but is still considering the possibility of trying to "get with you". This is relatively common for some guys, but those kind of guys would usually be more open about checking you out, and probably would NOT be someone you would call a "good guy" or want to try and date.
Maybe he never thought of you as a possible love interest until he found out you might like him. This is common if he has lower self esteem, is oblivious, or is a more carefree type of person.
He could have just been caught off guard by the possibility of you liking him, and that made him act weird.
He could be shy, even if he doesn't usually show it. For example, I'm usually a very outgoing kind of guy that spends a lot of time around girls/women with little to no awkwardness. I throw massive parties with hundreds and even thousands of guests, and most people would never guess that I am actually a really shy guy when it comes to someone I have a romantic interest in. This can cause me to anything from saying stupid things or making really lame jokes, to acting exactly how he is, or even avoiding the girl completely.

*Can you answer a couple questions for me so i can give you a better answer?
Do you know for sure that someone told him you like him, or is that a guess?
If someone definitely did that, did he actually say that he doesn't feel the same way?
If he did say he doesn't like you, can you describe how he said it? was he hesitant and took awhile to say it, did he look shocked, did his eyes dart around like he was looking for someone to save him, did he stutter or fumble his words, or did he calmly say "no, i don't like her."?
Do you know if he has ever had a girlfriend before?

Knowing these things can help me be a LOT more sure if he likes you or not. But based on what i know from your question i would have to assume he is shy, and that he likes you.

[VIVANT]

Wow how nice of you to be so thorough !

[PumpkinKiing]

@VIVANT
haha thanks, i try, and i enjoy helping people.
and, i mean, the girl is looking for help. i don't wanna just be like "ya, he likes you." or "naw, that guy's just a creeper." when i don't have enough info to come to a definite conclusion. hopefully i gave her some info that will help her figure it out, or she will reply with a bit more info.
either way i hope things work out for her

[KezHarris]

Well, he never mentioned it to me. But im sure someone probably told him. He just always checks me out and then instantly looks away when i catch him.

[Monalisa77]

would you mind looking at my qs? am in a similar situation lol

[Anonymous]

I usually don't get all that around girls I do not like. I would still look I might like the view, but not all picture...

In his case he could like you so much so he does not know what to say and afraid to mess it up.

Could be generally shy and/or have no experience with all that...
In this case you might need to do all first moves...

Just ask him what he thinks about you 2, as he should know you like him, just do not do it in front of everyone...

This is just my opinion, he might be not in to you at all and I might be wrong.

[Soft4u]

Trying to figure out why a guy acts a certain way is impossible.
Guys are nervous around girls, attractive girls mainly the guys who act confident are probably more nervous inside they just don't show it.
Don't try to read what he does and when he does it and what he's looking at, it's a guy thing to check girls out from head to toe, they look more closely at what they'd like to play with.

[BrittBratt2416]

No. unless he's super introverted and shy type but often they don't. When a guy isn't attracted to a girl he will act like himself and feel more relaxed cause he's not trying to impress her. When a girl he does like comes around, then their personality switches and he's either becomes super nervous/awkward or extremely outgoing around her.

[BrittBratt2416]

In this case it sounds like he's nervous/awkward around you. It seems like he does like you other wise you wouldn't keep catching him staring at you. Holding eye contact when you're not conversing with one another but just happen to look up and see he's looking at you, is usually a sign that a guy is interested but just doesn't know how to appoarch.

[Jjpayne]

Yes. To guys girls are special and unique. Like fine art, look but don't touch. Sometimes and especially with a girl you have not met yet, there can be a lot of anixousness and tension.
Why? Because, girls interactions with a guy is all dependent on her response. She chooses to allow him to connect or she can choose to want to avoid him.

However, in your case, this is a special problem with a different kind of guy.

There is honestly not much of a way to gauge him.

Best I can say, he likes the way you look, you are attractive to him but he does not want anything past that, he just enjoys looking at you as weird and creepy as that sounds.

[Levin]

I think guys are more awkward around girls they're more invested in (ie they fancy).

Bear in mind that flirting is not necessarily something that all men do, because of idiotic messages men get from women growing up about having to be 'good' (despite that not creating any sexual attraction/tension).

All in all, it's likely he fancies you.

[purplepoppy]

I've noticed that too particularly with unattractive girls. Men behave in a way almost designed to be as unappealing as possible. It's like their trying to stop her from being attracted to her. There's definitely a zone of attractiveness that men feel most comfortable taking to

[Nohbdy]

Well for me yea because while im not i might start thinking about it and then probably get awkward eventually probably so better to talk normally then move on. i dont know if girls think the reverse of this, but i think guys naturally likes girls so its kinda inevitable to start looking at girls if that makss sense in a way not bad way if you know what i mean...

[ImagineSketchy]

Not unless he has some form of social anxiety, is shy in general or uneasy around strangers.
The guy you mentioned in the update seems to be interested in your overall appearance, but not necessarily you. When you catch him looking, he looks away to not just outright look at you with no care.

[Jamie05rhs]

Maybe he is interested in her, but when she tries to talk to him maybe the things she says aren't interesting to him.
In other words, she's trying, but she isn't making a connection. Yet.

[willzjohn87]

No, when men find a woman beautiful, pretty, cute, hot, sexy... he will get nervous! So only reason he acts that way around you is because he likes you. Men don’t get nervous around women who they don’t like.

[ChiTown33]

only if i think they're attracted to me, and i'm not attracted to them, but they're a nice person.

[ChiTown33]

If he keeps staring still he's interested. If he wasn't and he knew you liked him he would be doing the opposite. He wouldn't want encourage you if he wasn't interested.

[KezHarris]

Thats true. But as soon as i catch him, he looks away instantly, so maybe he's trying not to encourage me? But then again, i caught him staring at my 'crotch area' when i was adjusting my jeans and he was staring at my bum for ages. He also stares at me when I'm talking to other people, its like he's interested in what im saying. But i dunno, maybe im reading too much into it.

[ChiTown33]

I would say the odds are more likely that he's just timid. Obsevre how he interacts with other people specifically women. If he's much more timid interacting with women there's your answer.

[KezHarris]

Well, he seems confident around some girls. But other girls he seems nervous. Other people tell me that he's awkward.

[ChiTown33]

are the girls he's awkward around more or less attractive than the others?

[KezHarris]

Ermm.. slightly more attractive, but not by much. Maybe he's nervous around girls who are above average looking or the ones he thinks are out of his league etc.

[KezHarris]

But there was one attractive girl, who he seemed really confident and friendly with. So i dunno.

[KezHarris]

But he's definitely more confident around uglier girls.

[ChiTown33]

I'd lean towards him being timid. I know timid guy i am one. lol
But just cause he's timid doesn't mean he won't reject you.
Walk by look at him and smile. The next you see him smile and say "Hi". the next day maybe you ask him a simple question something you'd think he'd know the answer to. basically slowly desensitize him to you. don't be surprised if he makes a move. if he doesn't and you feel it's been a while, and you feel gutsy you do it. It'll lessen your chances of rejection.

[KezHarris]

Thanks!

[ChiTown33]

np good luck!

[Monalisa77]

what if theyre playing that person though?

[ChiTown33]

@Monalisa77 that's pretty devious. Odds are more likely he doesn't know how to react. I remember asking a girl out once so sure that she'd say no that when she said yes and asked me what i had in mind my mind was a blank slate so i told her the truth uhm, i hadn't thought that far ahead. She looked at me like i was retarded lol.

Have you had many guys play timid? Because i can't imagine how that would be a successful move. Lol

[Monalisa77]

the first guy I ever liked was clearly messing with me as he was gay. People do it , not every guy will be nice enough not to mess with us.

what do you mean by timid

[ChiTown33]

@Monalisa77 Well i assumed you were continuing on what Kez and i were talking about. And i was suggesting the guy she's interested in was timid. Yeah i didn' get how what you were saying fit into what we were talking about either. I thought you were suggesting he was feigning being timid.

[Monalisa77]

cos u said a boy wouldn't encourage us if theyre not interested which I don't believe is true. I dont know what timid means im not very smart lol

[ChiTown33]

@Monalisa77 are you sure you're not projecting? Sometimes you get feelings for a person and you see things that aren't there ( both men and women do this) i would NEVER intentionally lead a woman on. It's just not a nice rhing to do. And i would at least like to think most guys think similar to me.

Timid means just lacks confidence

[Monalisa77]

no, the guy i liked asked me for my number after months of having *tension * , we where what i thought was texting but he never done anything else after and he turned out to be gay. some people are that horrible. he knew what he'd done cos id seen him a couple of years after and i was the only one he told he was gay

[ChiTown33]

@Monalisa77 But that's what i'm saying. Maybe all that time it was serious for you but not for him. But he never realized you were serious.
I'm not saying this is what happened or minimizing your pain. I know what it's like to ne on your end there. I'm merely pointing out the possibility of the misunderstanding between you two.

[Ductile]

Well you've got two options. One is to talk to him about it and release the tension, because he either already knows you like him but he's not interested. Or he does like you but doesn't know how to bring it up.

Your second option is to not talk about it to him and move on.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I usually get nervous around a girl whether i like her or not
Most girls i turn down are ones with a poor personality , ones
who are mean, sarcastic in mean way.

[sean1234]

Yes, I did. Even during my most shyest days, I was only comfortable around girls who were comfortable around me. Ones who were really nice.

[PrincessGrail]

He likes you, but he’s either not good at flirting or he likes you but also doesn’t like you at the same time.

[scooogy]

I get nervous around my ex crush since she became really creepy

[KezHarris]

🤣🤣

[Jamie05rhs]

No, I don't believe so. If I'm nervous and awkward, it's probably because I find her attractive (and the more attractive she is, the more awkward I will be). If there's "nothing there", then I can act normal.

[WhereAmI]

I get nervous if she’s crushing on me and I need to get away from her. 😂

[KezHarris]

Even if the girl didn't say to you that she likes you. And it was other people telling you?

[WhereAmI]

Yeah, that too since she’s too shy to say so herself most times.

[PumpkinKiing]

That can be an awkward situation, regardless who the info comes from

[ccal28]

I felt really awkward this Friday when my friend tried getting me with this older girl, who I wasn't attracted to at all, simply cause she kept steering the conversation in a sexual direction trying to get with me

[Finchie40]

Its possible their r guys thatb r nervous around all women , so it can be a bunch of reasons way he is nervous around u

[geo_logy]

No, if a man likes a woman he gets nervous for her, if he is not attracted then he doesn’t mind her.

[BeMuse]

Shy people and people with social anxiety get nervous around all sorts of people.

[Secret6620]

Yes you can get nervous around any girl just depends on that girl I guess.

[Clarity01]

Yeah, some guys are shy or have social anxiety. Also some girls might be creepy or awkward as well