How to flirt with a conservative girl?

[Anonymous]

Yeah I need advice on this. We went on one date, I really want to move for a kiss and try flirt with her, but she is really conservative.

[ArtistBboy]

Let her make the moves on you instead.

Show her the willingness you exhibit to proceed; however, show her that you respect her and are in tune with her feelings. Let me explain:

Rival her feathers and hint towards kissing

- (when hugging her stop for a second before going for the hug and let your foreheads meet gently while keeping your lips back).

Then after rivaling her feathers and pushing her for something she wouldn't otherwise give naturally (except in a long drawn out process) sit back and act like nothing is bothering you, because truthfully, it shouldnt. You're not trying to PUSH her into anything - you are merely showing her that you are ready and intentful to strive for that kiss. You know what you want, and your fighting for it- but your being respectful to her thoughts and feelings.

In due time, if she feels appropriate, she will let you know when it's time and ready for a kiss

- Needless to say, don't make it a game. Have some fun though. Show her who you are and what you want, but be respectful and mind your manors.

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

[ArtistBboy]

Here's a different way to interpret what I meant:

- Set the mood. The way things feel and are surrounding you. Get those butterflies and share them with her. Flirt with your bodylanguage and the way you say things to increase those butterflies for her.

Read HeartsonFire's advice- it's very detailed and thorough.

[heartsonfire]

I'm from a really conservative family... though not so conservative myself, I can def relate.

best things to do...

the fact that you got a date means she really likes you. next date... hold her hand! its all about baby steps.

flirt with your eyes.

whatever feelings you have for her, show her with your eyes, and by being honest, and calling her when you say, etc. and if you're brave enough, after a few more dates, use your words and tell her you're really interested.

Don't play games. these kinds of girls know what's up, and don't like it.

in general, though they may physically want you to kiss them, they probably won't let/emotionally want you to, until you guys are an official, exclusive couple. and she probably won't wanna wait around forever for that to happen.

physically, don't go past flirting by holding hands, eyes, hugs, or a shoulder punch kind of thing.

players be warned.

[ArtistBboy]

Omg that's amazing advice - I got chills reading this stuff. Ahhh it makes me wanna go see my potential "other half" and enjoy the rest of the night. Thanks HoF =)

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

[heartsonfire]

Thanks dude! good advice from you too :)

[redwingz]

Nice answer, but what do you mean by: "they may physically want you to kiss them, they probably won't let/emotionally want you to"?

[heartsonfire]

Like... they're physical self is saying yes to a kiss... they want one, but they'll tell you no, because they don't want to go too far. its the whole purity thing.

girls really do want to kiss, makeout etc., as much as guys, but we usually hold off more because we don't wanna get our heart wrapped up in someone who might just wanna use us.

a really conservative girl would do so even more.

[Snugarbum]

@redwingz I can confirm. Honestly I want to get to know someone before becoming too intimate too early. I want to take things slower despite absolutely wanting to jump a guy's bones because I'm not looking for a lay, I'm looking for long term. Ya know? If you're dating a conservative gal, just talk to her. She might be shy but she'll probably be honest about what she's ok with and not ok with. From there it's up to you to decide if the terms are feasible.

[ANNEM]

Start off slowly. I have friends who are like. Go slow and start off by holding her hand first. If she seems into it get a little closer. DONT GO IN FOR A KISS UNLESS YOUR 100 PERCENT SURE SHE WANTS TO. Because if she's not ready for that she may think your pushing her beyond her comfort zone and ditch you.

[ixi10]

try small things first just to see what her reaction will be. you could start by hugging her or putting your arm around her when you're walking. or even put your hand on her lowerback to guide her. if she doesn't push you away, then she'll probably be ok with a kiss