Can't stop thinking about ex 24/7, what do I do!

[Anonymous]

i have a no-contact thing going on for a couple of months now since the break up. I blocked him on all social networks online. no phone calls, no text either.

however, we work together. we are civil but when he shows up unexpectedly, it's awkward.

anyway, STILL can't stop thinking about him 24/7. do I want him back? I didn't think I did, but maybe my heart knows something I don't.

am I gonna ask him back? no, besides he has a girl. a rebound literally like less than 2 weeks after we broke up.

I'm going out with friends, picking up new hobbies, keeping myself busy but no matter what he's in my head.

what do you do to get a person out of your head?

[Prometheus]

Usually our thoughts contribute to our emotions and stress levels. Your conscious mind is fixated on the break up, constantly analyzing situations, coming up with labels to describe them such as.. 'i'll never be happy again' or 'he/she was the only person who will ever love me'.. usually these thoughts are what stop you from being happy on your own but remember there was a time before your ex that you were happy and that you will be again. The more you focus on trying to forget someone, the more you end up thinking about them. Just try to stay busy, I fell out with the girl I loved 6 months ago, I did everything to try to forget her but the more I tried the worse I felt. I've just come back from a weeks vacation, new people, new places.. I feel much happier, I haven't been thinking 'i need to get over my ex' it just started to happen naturally.. I feel in a good place now. Try doing things that you really want to do for you instead of doing them to try and stay busy and get over someone.

Hope that made sense, I knew what I wanted to say just not sure it came out right lol.

[Asker]

The funny thing is I'm not thinking about "oh I'll never be happy again" or anything like that. right now I just don't trust people, because he we were very good friends before the break up. I'm in no hurry to date again. I totally get what you're saying about doing things for me. you're right I'm just keeping myself busy but I'm not really doing anything to improve myself.

[Prometheus]

I kept doing things to keep busy so I could forget the person I was hung up on. It didn't work because I was doing it to forget her. It's when I stopped trying to forget her and move on that I actually did.. I just started having fun and doing stuff for me. I'm not in a hurry to date again either, I fell in love with my best friend of many years.. we don't talk anymore. It sucks getting close to people because it never lasts.

[Anonymous]

it seems you miss him and you really want him back cause no matter how hard you try to forget about him or keep yourself busy your still reminded of him or are constantly thinking about him and it prob dosnt help seeing him at work I know I kinda feel the same now I don't see my ex but I still really miss him and can't stop thinking about him the other night I went to bed at 11 and didn't get to sleep till 830 the next morning cause I was thinking of my ex if you think he still has feelings for you and that its possible you guys could get back together then unblock him from the netwokring sites and stuff and talk to him as a friend at first see how he's doing and see if he replys to your messages and things and then eventually tell him you miss him and ask him if he would give you guys another chance

[Asker]

It's kind of complicated to explain but I don't think he's the best I've had or that I'll never find someone better. I still like him. it still hurts. I think my ego can't get over it. that he moved on so quick and is dating a total downgrade. if he quit the job, I'd never talk to him again. and I would get over him faster. you know what I mean? I don't want to get back together. my pride won't allow it. he'd have to beg me and I don't think that's gonna happen.

[lalalou]

hey, i am currently living the same thing... we are over its been 3 months now, but he's on my mind 24/7 no joke its not even overreacting.. the thing is im not even stalking him, telling myself i won't find better or anything, it just feels like a big black ghost behind my mind all the time and this big black ghost is him... how long did it take you to finally get rid of him in your thoughts?