Would you avoid someone you like?

[Anonymous]

If you're already close friends and you develop stronger feelings, could you possibly avoid them after giving every sign to the girl that you're into her?

Why then be aloof?

[Anonymous]

I HAD THAT & I HATED IT.

& as for guys who say girls do not like guys that are available or whatever. I like guys that I an TALK to, & who do not stare at me one day like I am the only one in the world, then ignore me for two days after that, then come talk to me, ONLY with friends, then IGNORE me then TALK to me, then repeat this forever, until we finally talk, but they confused themselves SO much that they do not think I LIKE THEM, & they feel rejected , hurt, then the fun starts... They get MAD & they ignore me, but not to get me to like them just to not talk... Until they decide that it is dumb to be a baby - HOPEFULLY. & We hang out as friends that would have already been in a relationship.

& NOW everyone is too battle scarred to really make a move without retracting it twice as hard, so e start t hate each other & we never even got to go out to a movie... YEAH, I HATE THAT.

But I know what you mean about not being able ot talk. Are you saying that YOU have made every attempt, or that you think the GUY has, & are / is about to give up.

I di both, I gave up & decided that HE gave up... Turned out that we were both in love for like three years but by the time we actually TALKED - well he talked I listened, I was about to leave , s we could not really be together anyways.

I ave never been in love like that, & I spent most o the time , not talking & trying to figure out WHY HE WASNOT TALKING TO ME.

I was nit worried about saying anything about liking him,I mean I could handle ONE SENTENCE lol... It was the implication of it. I did to want him to assume I meant something more then I did, & I did not want him to assume that I thought HE MEANT more then he did.

& I did not want to ruin the possibility of friendship, cause I REALY liked him as a person.

I still do not know if it would have worked if I TOLD him. He said he wanted to tell ME, but that is in retrospect... So I think if you like him as a friend, & you think he will continue to be a friend, even if you SAY something- the GO FOR IT.

But if you think he will be too overwhelmed, well give it some time.

Did he actually DO anything to indicate that he did LIKE you & then DID NOT?

Or if you are talking about your own actions, then is there anything that you did or are doing that should make him think one way or the other?

[Darknut]

What did I just read? Interesting read though. PM?

[Reeses-pieces777]

I'll give a guy space so he doesn't think I'm clingy but if I liked him then I'de want to spend time with him.

[Subotai]

Yes. Well girls don't like nice guys. Sorry its true. So he has to be sort of scarce and unavailable so you wonder whether or not he likes you and then you try to find out or even make him like you. Just following around a girl all the time and "chasing" her rarely ever works. He's gonna send mixed messages you probably will too that's how the stupid game works. If you like him try to do what you can to get that sh*t over with and just end up kissing already. You know don't seem like your purposely available just coincidentally make yourself available. Make yourself easy to talk to so he's not scared to ask you out. If that's what he wants you to do. If you see him hanging around near where you are and he glances at you and is pretending he is busy but doesn't seem to be doing anything get yourself away from that vicious pack of giggly girls you are with, there like hyenas only cuter, he won't approach you around your friends. And guys also learn all kinds of silly rules like the 3 day call rule and stuff. The fact that you are asking the question shows that what he is doing is starting to work

[GIntrovert]

When I was under 16 yes. I didn't understand the feeling of wanting to kiss her and hold her, and frankly I didn't trust myself. I might have embarrassed me in front of a large portion of the school, by openly confessing my crush on her and being rejected.

I suspected that I would be rejected because she never show any interest in me in that way.. but I could never see it while I was in front of her. Only when she was out of my sight and I could not hear her voice, I could properly analyze her behavior and realized she treated me just like everyone else.

This was way back when I got shy and nervous around girls I really liked.

[Asker]

The same thing happens to me! when I'm with him I just know he likes me but then when he's not around and he goes hot and cold it makes me second guess myself

[GIntrovert]

Horrible times for me, wish I had my father around to talk about it, but he never seen that interested in being my dad.

I will not let my son go through that without my help.

[stevo]

I've done it before, to keep her from finding out I liked her. But it was a long time ago.

[Anonymous]

Not really.