I can't tell if my boyfriend and my mom are flirting or its in my head!!! HELP?

[Carmenblondey]

So my boyfriend and mom really get along. Today was a bit much. They were talking and didn't include me in convo. My uncle was over and he was helping her put up something and my boyfriend was just staring at her or them. Then she was doing wash and I noticed they kept locking eyes. Also. There was condoms in my draw that me and my boyfriend put for us and I open the draw to get something out of it and he says " omg imagine if ur mom found these". Last incident she was expecting her boo over and yes i still live with her so befor we approached the house to go up my boyfriend say " call ur mom isn't she expecting someone? Make sure she isn't getting busy up there" . I said ew stop! He said what? It's nature everyone does it. Mean while I'm just watching and not saying anything when I go up... You can tell I'm sad a little cus im not smiling or anything. He comes out of no where and says " I'm glad ur mom is happy in this new house, I no u don't like the area but we make the best of it". I was thinking. Why r u so concerned with what my mothers happiness instead of mine. But I haven't said anything via I don't know if I'd look like a crazy girlfriend accusing him of liking my mom !!!

[Tanuron]

To me he sounds just considerate, cause he's thinking of you as well when he ask or do these things. At least to me it sounds like it. As I often thought and said, being nice have become so rare these days its often mistaken as flirting. So for the time being, unless he does something way worse, I would suggest to not jumpt to conclusions yet.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

if your mom made cookies and he ate one, would you be suspicious? you are being overreacting.

[abc3643]

You are WAY overreacting and, if you keep it up, you will lose this otherwise good guy.

[Carmenblondey]

Thank you I'm trying to tell myself this could really all be in my head. I don't know I think my past has messed me up for trusting anyone even my own mother. Man I'm messed up. I don't stay happy for long and things like this get me so sad and kind of depressed. This is crazy cus I can very well be making my self depressed but why am I doing this to my mind?

[Iamathinker]

I think you're definitely off the mark here.

[Carmenblondey]

What do u mean like I'm over thinking this?

[Iamathinker]

Yeah, like you are way off.

[Carmenblondey]

On what points? All? Elaborate please.

[Iamathinker]

On everything. When he's saying you should respect her privacy and he's glad she's happy where you guys are living etc. sounds as though he's being thoughtful about you both. Also often if 'mom's happy, then everyone is happy' meaning less problems and tension overall in the house, so better for you guys too.

[Carmenblondey]

Ok yea I see where you are coming from and I believe I should be looking at it the way u described. Thanks so much for your help I appriciate it more then u will ever no!!

[Iamathinker]

No problem at all. Good luck in your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Something weird is going on... dump his ass.

[Carmenblondey]

Oh shit. Thanks for the honesty

[Opinion Owner]

No problem, you sound like a genuine person with a genuine issue. I can only imagine how terrible it must feel to think of your boyfriend thinking of your mother in such a way. Our intuition as women is VERY strong, and we constantly do ourselves a disservice by doubting it. So trust yourself!

[Nicolás25]

Women line you two are stupid

[Opinion Owner]

shut up @Nicholas25

[Carmenblondey]

@Nicolás25 lmao why pls elaborate cus I don't know I may be stupid in this situation

[Nicolás25]

Because you are thinking of dumping your partner because of some imaginary scenario that went through your delusional paranoid mind

[Carmenblondey]

@Nicolás25 yea I might be its a big possibility I'm imagining this stupid shit !!! But y r some people on here reading the story and telling me to dump him and that there's something weird going on? I don't know y I can't see clearly and things like this drive me crazy thinking about them constantly staying up crying and confused going back and forth not knowing. What can I do to get clearing for my self?

[Carmenblondey]

And then think about it... I'm holding it all in cus I can't talk to either one. Cus if it is imaginary they'll both think I'm crazy and it will be weird after words for them also my boyfriend might dump my ass for being so insecure about my own mother.

[Nicolás25]

Why don't you ask your mom it won't be awkward afterwards if you ask her if she thinks your boyfriend is flirting with her

[Anonymous]

sounds like something weird is going on and u should break up with him

[longjohndan]

Honestly, it sounds like you are kind of paranoid.

[Carmenblondey]

I may be thanks for ur opinion u made me become at ease

[Whoooooooooo]

I think you're overthinking it.

[Anonymous]

Your mom a milf?/cougar?

[Carmenblondey]

Pretty face. Kinda chunky

[Opinion Owner]

Then maybe you have to worry, I mean, after all, just cause she's a mom, doesn't mean she's not a person. She's not married, right? Divorced?