I go to the gym to work out, and I was of the understanding that women at the gym are there to work out, and not get hit on. Plus as a guy there seems to be the risk that if you try to hit on a woman and she doesn't like it, she can report you. Which will lead to the (at the very least) gym staff speaking to you about your behavior and what it can mean to your membership.
It's probably worth looking for some kind of social event that involves other gym members. In the city I work in I saw an ad for some kind of yoga event for singles. I won't be going to that, but it sounds like something you might enjoy trying.
They think they are too cool for that. Seriously, lol. Read some of the comments on the take I wrote about this:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22973-how-to-approach-women-at-the-gym
If someone catches your eye talk to them after you're both done working out. Sitting around hoping someone is going to approach you will only get you so far...
Because that not what im there for, but i usually workout in a park instead.
So then YOU go talk to them... If it's not happening, make it happen!
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Came across a question regarding this particular situation a while back.
Most of the women that responded seemed to say, "I don't like to be bothered when I'm sweating, yada yada..."
I think society needs to quit being so dense and break free from "traditional" rules when it comes to dating.
Even if I am literally covered in sweat, I wouldn't shrug off an adavnce from the opposite sex at the gym.
Just say "hi" to a dude you find attractive whether you're in line for a drink or waiting for a machine and see where he takes it, good luck.
Well I am by no means a gym rat but I do go three times per week for brief exercise. I don't approach girls mainly because I don't want my wife to get wind of it, lol (and I wouldn't anyway, haha).
I don't know about the single dudes but I suspect there is an understanding going on there that girls come to have a nice figure and get their exercise and the reasons for that could be anything -- to keep trim for a boyfriend, etc.. and that does NOT preclude them. In other words, I honestly think that in most of our minds it isn't any of our damn business and we mind our own.
If the gym you are at has social outings you can sign up for, then I think that is the way to do it if you are going to do it there.
Out of all seriousness... you will need to start approaching the guy first every time.
No guy is going to approach in a high-rejection area like a gym, AND risk being labeled as a harasser and getting his membership revoked or suspended... just to talk to a girl when there are plenty other places to do so.
The easiest way for a guy to open a conversation with a girl at the gym is if she is doing an exercise wrong and he comes to correct it :P When I am hitting the gym the only thing I am thinking of is working out.. Like I don't really give a shit about anything else. The other thing is that many people don't like being bothered while they work out. If you want to meet guys at the gym you could just ask for advice (even though I doubt you really need any from what you said) or for example if a guy is at a machine ask him when he is done with it and get the conversation going. Like he says he has only two sets and he finishes. Then you introduce yourself and next time you see the guy maybe greet him.
Cause girls will think they're creepy unless the guy is hot, but no guy wants to risk looking creepy.
It's nothing against you. Usually people are very concentrated on their workouts and don't like distractions. And they assume you have the same opinion. An option would be trying to socialize outside the workout room itself. are there any cafeterias or stores or something in your gym?
Im sorry, this is funny... its ironic as hell
@DarkHumorRUs told it as simply as ever... im 98% of situations, women just wanna be left alone to work out. and no one has time to go sifting for the remaining 2%. plus this is a GYM... with weights and stuff lol... funny enough, i read another article a few days ago saying how guys tend to approach women in the gym.. im dying laughing.
I go to the gym fairly often. I don't approach women there *probably* because I think they are there after work and they just want to unwind on not talk much. LOL Maybe I shouldn't think that way.
I'd say if you are interested in a guy there, find some way to strike up a conversation.
because I am busy working out. and in my experience the women don't want you speaking to them either. So I do me and you do you. Just ask them about their workout routine or what supplement they consume. You could also ask them to help spot you, then strike up a convo after do your set.
They most likely have zero clue that talking to you in that context is appropriate.
Well, for me, I am a weightlifter. When I go to the gym, and to be honest I do not give a damn about anything else besides my workout. I see a lot of attractive girls there, but my goals are really important to me
Are you serious? I usually figure women are there for the same reason I am, to work out. I often see women I would like to approach, but I feel like that would be invading their personal space and that they just want to be left alone to do their thing. Now if they smile and say hello in passing it might open the door, but to go up to a woman in the gym cold because I think she's attractive - no.
Look here, and start doing the approaching yourself.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a9876-why-you-women-don-t-get-approached-or-asked-out
Read this. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a23433-does-people-like-me-me-you-anyone by me. You'll understand what you need to do :D
Because there are usually draconian policies that state that you can have your membership revoked if you "harass" anyone, which is what you're asking us to do.
Hmm I'm not exactly feeling sexy when I'm sweating at a gym..
i hear girls all the time say they don't like being hit on at the gym... so like most respectful dudes, i don't. also, i'm there to work out. also, if it's that big of a deal and/or noticeable, you can go up to them. there's not a law against it.
Because the media shames men for "objectifying" women with the "male gaze". Ask feminists for more details.
Girls have more reasons to go to the gym. Boys mostly one. It would be a huge risk for a man to try to hit on a girl. It's easier for girls.
Well I can't speak for all guys on this but when it comes to the gym I am a very goal driven guy, I go their to work out and get my shit done first and formost so I will focus on myself and the trainning so thats my reason.
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