Why do girls not respond to my DM's?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I dm a girl on Instagram they never respond. I've only had a couple that did respond and when I asked for their number they never responded back. What should I do?

[Nicu11]

Here are a few tips that I have learned from online dating,
1) It's pretty hard to get a girl to answer, as they are probably getting spammed a lot
2) ALWAYS start by complimenting their style, hair style, clothing choices and etc. DO NOT COMPLIMENT HER LOOKS. it's awkward and too sudden.
3) Don't ask for her number until you've talked for a while, and use "could we text over the phone? instagram isn't always displaying notifications" or something among the lines.
4) SUCCESS RATE IS RATHER LOW. Cause some stranger texting on instagram is pretty creepy, try online dating.

[Asker]

I'm only 17. What sites are there to use?

[Nicu11]

okcupid is actually good, no pay to talk BS.
and then there is tinder, but that one you can't chat unless they like you too when swiping.

I've seen some girls before who select "18" and write in description that they are 17, so might work!

[davidpossey]

depends what are you saying? are you texting them hey or how is your day going or some overused shit like that? if you are then it ain't gonna work lol try this lines you could say hey there fancy face or say something funny like hi im gay and looking for experience with women lol this onr works really well pick a famous song like hot line bling or hello and say you use to call me on my... and send that try it out

[RJGraveyTrain]

Uh because that's weird and creepy?

Hi. Number?

You may actually want to try to get to know people instead of acting so desperate.

[akadatank44]

Hi. Number? 😜😛

[Asker]

But I am desperate. I've never had my first kiss and girls don't want to meet me in public so what else am I suppose to do?

[RJGraveyTrain]

Like I said: talk to people and get to know them. If you try to just go in for the kill it comes across as: weirdo.

[Asker]

Yeah not only is that the problem but they also think I'm unattractive. Everytime my friends put me on with a girl the girl always thinks I'm ugly. Unfortunately I can't fix that

[RJGraveyTrain]

Are you sure that's the problem? You don't look ugly to me. Have they told you this or are you assuming that? It's more likely in the way you act. Besides, you're young and kids are going to be awkward and picky. There's no rush to be in a relationship kid trust me.

[Asker]

They don't tell me themselves. They tell my friends and my friends tell me.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Then they're clearly girls you don't want to date.

[Asker]

But that happens with every girl I'm attracted to. I've even lowered my standards and it still is the same.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Well maybe try focusing on other things like your studies and things you enjoy instead of solely worrying about getting a girlfriend? Any time someone has taken a liking to me it's always when I haven't been looking for someone. Sometimes you just need to allow things to happen organically.

[ratboyscum]

just start talking to them normally and be funny and interesting

[Yellow_]

Don't DM for numbers.
I don't respond to those either.

[chrischandler94]

I'm a guy and I refrain from ever spontaneously messaging people because its just weird. I'm not trying to offend you or say that you're weird, but girls don't like that. If you really wanna talk to a girl, do it in person first, and then get her snapchat, phone number, or whatever it is you want.

[Moose2coolvargas]

I feel like my account is broken lol nobody ever writes me back lol, no big deal but I do wonder sometimes

[Yumix]

asking random girls for their number... what did you expect? -_-

[Asker]

It was a last resort

[shiller]

Maybe because you're not the only guy doing these bait manoeuvres.

[ArtDent]

There is something better going on in their lives at the moment.

[APRU5]

Is it bad i found out what DMs are this past week. I dont have instagram or any of that stuff.

[AzureGirl]

Stop asking random girls for their numbers maybe?

[Asker]

Then how do I meet girls?

[AzureGirl]

The same way you meet anyone.

[Asker]

Well I'm not good at talking to girls in person. They don't give me the time of day

[AzureGirl]

Well you have plenty of time to get better at it.

[Asker]

I don't see the point if they think I'm ugly and not worth their time

[OphieWilde]

Honestly, girls get weirded out by that stuff man.

[akadatank44]

Lol get to know them first!

[Asker]

Tried to do so. Didn't work

[akadatank44]

You don't ask how they are doing? Where they are from? Normal small chat?

[Asker]

Tried that. They usually don't respond

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Stop being a creeper pretty much

[Asker]

I try not to be

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Just go out there man, meet some girls at school or other functions

[Asker]

I don't want to date girls at my school because girls at my schools think I'm weird and I can't change that

[Anonymous]

Because instagram isn't the place for that.

[microcephalicguy]

Because ur not handsome

[Jared____]

Not message random girls 💁🏻

[takumii]

Well stop doing that.

[Polocrew]

Slidding ems dms with a1 noodz

[Anonymous]

Because that's where it goes down

[Dog19]

You ignored me