Why would you bring up a boyfriend in casual conversation?

[superdudeman]

I understand the logistics of this, but why would you personally do this?

Would you do this to a guy you liked?

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for instance you said "my boyfriend wears his hair like that... " And not being rude or mean. Its casual its not abrupt either. Ill stress this again, its casual and not the focus or topic of the conversation.

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Its funny too, sometimes ill be at work, and fat and ugly girls who I never talk to EVER, will bring up that they have a boyfriend in casual conversation. And no, I am not showing interest, they are hideous and revolting creatures of the bog.

[Eilonwy]

Well, yeah. If I'm talking to a guy and maybe flirting a bit it's not that important but if he gets the impression that I'm really interested then I would. And for some girls like the "hideous and revolting creatures of the bog" you mention, maybe because of people like you they have low self esteem and very little confidence and therefore having a boyfriend is important to them, and it's also to show people who put them down that they don't matter and they can find someone who likes them for who they are

[Anonymous]

They might think you are showing interest and are subtly trying to let you know they have a boyfriend so don't go there. Even if you aren't interested sometimes signals can get misconstrued and they might think you are when they're not. I've had it happen to me, I was like "WTF man I am NOT interested I was just being friendly!"

[jackiewackie10]

good question why do we bring up ur bfs in casual conversation's maybe beause we think you guy's are hitting on us or like us so we talk about ur bf's to let you know we have a boyfriend and are taken by the fact that we metion or bf's we think you might like us

[Anonymous]

Usually they wil say it if they are not interested, if you want to have some fun with it you can start talking about him, like great we just met and your telling me about your boyfriend, he's great right, so when are you getting married, or if he great he won't mind picking you up from my place or making us breakfast in bed...

[mysmileyface]

dude it kinda happened to me today and I was kinda liking the girl and I didn't even know she had a bf, but when she said those two letters to me in a text, its like cupids evil brother came by and stabbed me with his dart. fail!

[tropicalsecrets]

a) We're still not over him.

b) You remind us of him.

c) We want to make you jealous.

d) We bring them up to make us look good. We want it look like other guys like us and that we're capable of getting guys.

[mukheef]

I think she feels that you are coming on to her and she's letting you know that she's seeing some one.

[landingsight]

This is something I'd do if I felt like a guy liked me and I wanted to put a stop to it then and there.

[superdudeman]

So you would never do it because

A: you wanted to tell the guy that you had a boyfriend because you wanted to cheat and wanted to tell him so that he would be discreet about it?

B: wanted to tell him so that it shows that you are actually wanted instead of some lonely girl in a house that never dates?

C: To test him to see if he's the kind of man who won't get fazed?

D: Would never say "i have a boyfriend" in an abrupt way to get him to go away.

[superdudeman]

E: tell him because you don't want to blow him off, rather its because its information because its part of the conversation. like you might have well said "i like peas."

[landingsight]

A: No way, never. I don't cheat. If I say I have a boyfriend and you're hitting on me, it means "back way up, son"

B: No. I have a little more self-confidence than that, honey.

C: No. See A.

D: Generally not. I'm more likely to just ignore the guy completely or walk away than say something abrupt to get him away from me.

E: Sometimes. If I feel it's relevant to the conversation, I'll mention it, but I don't like name-dropping my boyfriend just for the sake of doing so.

[superdudeman]

A: The context is in regular conversation its not actually saying "i have a boyfriend." Those were not the words that were exchanged. _and what if the guy is NOT hitting on you. And actually considers you repulsive?

B. That's you. good for you.

C. Again, many women do.

D. So walking away from a guy talking to you is not abrupt. umm ok.

E. How would you name drop for the sake of name dropping? "you know I have a boyfriend btw.." Or just saying the word "boyfriend" the end.

[landingsight]

A: First, I understood the context. Second, If the guy is NOT hitting on me, then I wouldn't tell him I had a boyfriend UNLESS it was relevant information.

C: Please don't assume all or most do, though. It'll only make you look like an a**hole.

D: It's not *saying* something abrupt.

E: Name dropping for the sake of name dropping would be situation B or a variant of it. I personally don't talk about my boyfriend unless I feel it's relevant because of that and because it's a personal thing.

[superdudeman]

A:.Based off your other comments it sure doesn't seem that way. Either way its a good backpedal.

C: Actually most women do it, in some point in their lives, please don't say no women do it ever, it will just make you look like a bitch.

D: Either way its still abrupt. It suggests that walking away or ignoring them is less rude than saying something abrupt.

[landingsight]

A: I'm sorry you read them incorrectly. I replied with your context in mind.

C: I certainly believe that some women do it. In fact, I know some people who have either done it or some variant of it, but I wish they wouldn't. I don't believe in lying to "test" someone, because then when you meet someone who's telling the truth, it causes incorrect assumptions to be made.

D: I never said it was less rude. It's still very rude, but it's not confrontational, which is what I generally go for.

[superdudeman]

You do realize that some guys are going to be confrontational even when you walk away after talking to them. And some will yell at you and call you a bitch.

If you simply just said you had a boyfriend, even when you didnt, some would understand and leave you alone. They would not think you were a bitch, they wouldn't tell their hot guy friends that you were a bitch either. So its not a better option. at all.

[superdudeman]

A better option than both is a combination of saying you have a boyfriend and then walking away. Because then you get the guys who keep persisting on talking to you to stop, and the ones who take the first sign of resistance to not feel bad. Plus no one thinks you are a bitch. And its a time saver because you can't talk to everyone.

[superdudeman]

Thats what I do when gross women hit on me. I say I have a girlfriend and leave.

Always works good for me.

[gravygirl]

It can be a stop sign or it can be just something that comes up in conversation. I've said it both ways.

[Eloquencia]

It makes us sound more desirable. c;