Why do girls act really interested one minute then completely disinterested the next?

[AARON9890]

This girl i met on holiday popped up on Facebook a few days after i got home and started talking to me. She messaged a lot and told me a lot of personal things about herself and generally seemed interested in me, especially considering she initiated conversation a lot. But some days when snap chatting or talking to her she seems a bit off and just replies one word answers and does nothing to carry conversation. Yet on other days she messages loads and says how she wants to travel to the city i live in soon and wants to go on a holiday with me some time. When i acted disinterested one day (didnt reply to her snap chat selfies) she kept sending more and more and seemed more keen. I really dont know what way to take her, i enjoy messaging her and i think she's really attractive but i feel like im getting mixed signals and i dont like it. Do you think she likes me or just wants to flirt. talk to someone?

[btbc92]

There is no mixed signals. She more and likely just wanted somebody to talk to. Nobody don't just tell something personal if they don't trust you with that information. She may like you, but is still figuring herself out wither she likes you in that way or not. So she's slowing down so it won't cause this friendship to end on the account of her no knowing. Also, she may not be ready to date you or anybody yet, and it sounds like to me she is the type of person to be easily get attached emotionally.

[Anonymous]

Hmm it sounds to me as though she just likes you as a friend. She's probably fond of you and enjoys talking to you, and would like to develop a friendship with you, but not date you.

If I talk to a man a lot, it means I just like his personality and like talking to him. If I fancy someone I hold back a lot more.

[AARON9890]

im starting to think this is the case as well from the replies im getting on here. I wouldn't mind this really as i enjoy talking to her but i really dont get what the flirty snapchats are about if thats the case. Why would she flirt with someone she only wants to be friends with. I really dont understand it. Sending me snaps of her in the bath and going to bed at night... like why do that if you only have friendly intentions with a guy.

[Opinion Owner]

I hate to tell you this, but some girls flirt just to get attention, especially younger girls in their teens. It probably makes her feel pretty and gives her a boost, especially if you give her compliments. If a lot of her profile pics look posed, showing off her body or pouting etc, then she is probably one of those girls.

We're not all like that though, so just keep looking and you will find a nice girl who really likes you :)

[Shorty1991]

Well everyone can have their off days, they can't always be all singing all dancing. Sometimes I have days when I'm really jovial, in a chatty mood and I'm laughing and joking with people. Other times, when I'm jaded and happy in my own company, I dont really feel like talking to anyone.

[TheLovelyMaddie]

That's what girls do. They send mixed signals. Seeming really interested one moment and disinterested the next is supposedly a way to flirt with guys. I dunno why because all it does is really confuses guys.

[anonman32]

yes it really does.

[AARON9890]

getting mixed answers here as well haha. Womens behaviour really is hard to understand...

[BlondeGirl_]

Its not a way to flirt in all cases. Its also possible that she isn't sure if she's into you or not. I had that with one guy. First i flirted with him and the next dat i thought he was annoying af and the day after i flirted with him again. I dont know man. Women are confusing. Sometimes they themselves dont even get what they want or why theyre doing something lmao

[yucel_eden]

Because she isn't interested in you.

But girls want attention. So she wants you hooked and giving attention. But doesn't want you in anyway.

Just using you to boost her ego.

[AARON9890]

sad really if she's just wanting attention i suppose but each to their own i suppose.

[somanybugs]

That's just how girls are. Some of them do it purposely to see if you'll keep giving her an attention and others do it because, well, they feel like it.

[sammieeflint]

Believe me, it's not a gender thing (my now boyfriend used to do this)

I think she's feeling it out, and trying to figure how you communicate and react to different responses.
Or she might simply be busy or in a bad mood on the days she doesn't act interested. Mostly everyone have days where they're not as communicative as normal.

[Chantel77]

If I'm shy and don't want him to know that I like him because he might not like me I'll act wishy washy

[CityBoy773]

Either having an off day, cause I admit I do that sometimes when I'm not in a good mood, or trying to see if you're really interested.

Or just sending mixed signals, how about you ask HER?

[Naughtygirlishere]

Let me give u a hint
Girls only go after things (das more of a challenge)
If a girl like u and u show interest right away she will lose hers... u see we girls likes to chase BUT do not like to be chased... we want things da we feel like we can't have...
Lol

[uhhihello]

She's probably unsure, or doesn't want to seem too clingy, some girls including myself get kind of turned off if a guy is way too into me, so there might me a lot of reasons.

[Kristal04]

1) Playing hard to get
2) She got bored
3) She only talk to you because she is bored

As a girl, I am guilty of doing those things before. Sorry to say this but she was not even slightly interested in you...

[orphan]

ask her out on a date, that'll tell ya if she's interested or not.

if you don't think you wanna go out w/ her because she might be interested, than you're wasting your time altogether.

[Fathoms77]

It's what they do. It's part of their DNA. And in a way, I find it kinda sexy. :P

[akadatank44]

How often are her short answers kinda bluntness? Sometimes she could be having a bad day. Ask her on a date in person.

[Keepcalm89]

When this happens I just assume she's not interested and move on

[ZellRocx666]

We have slot of people to pay attention to.. Not one.

[BackAgain]

She could have changed her mind

[Anonymous]

Bitchness, immaturity and to k u.

[AARON9890]

what is ku?

[Anonymous]

Because she's really not that interested.

[AARON9890]

I have thought this as well tbh. If she isn't interested i dont understand why she wastes her time with me though. Why does she want to constantly talk with me, it just seems bizarre if thats the case. I dont understand girls tbh. But i do think you could be right, i just dont understand her behaviour

[Anonymous]

She's nervous awww

[Geminiwolf21]

Why do guys do it?