Have you ever told your crush you liked them?

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I've only ever told one of my crushes i liked her. I had got myself into such a state, crying almost everyday. That i felt the only way to move on was to tell her how i felt. She had a boyfriend at the time who she lived with. I eventually got the courage to phone her and spent 2 hours talking to her about how i felt. Immediately after i felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of my shoulders and felt happy for the first time in weeks. But the next day my crush feelings came back. It took me a few months for me to completely get over my crush but at least i was able to see light at the end of the tunnel. I heard from a friend that knew my crush that she would have thought about getting with me if i was better looking. So it wasn't really worth wasting all of that time over her.

sunshinechyk · Accepted Answer

I too developed a crush for a co-worker. We developed a close friendship. Had very private conversations about family and life problems. Conversation was great and easy. We hung out together outside of work. He would often hug and kiss me on the lips. Nothing sexual but who kisses on the lip unless they dig you? I was in such a tizzy crushing on this guy for like 3 years that I finally told him. Yes - a huge weight was lifted. I should have told him sooner. Nothing came of it. He either did not feel the same or did not want to ruin our friendship and because we work together... you know. I got over it pretty soon after I told him so I am glad I did otherwise I might still be crushing on him and we are still close. I wouldn't call him very attractive or hot. He is 13 years older and quite overweight but because I got to know him that did not matter to me. It was about who he was as a person. Your crush sounds shallow. Life is short - you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Tell all of your crushes how you feel.

writing_essays · Accepted Answer

I did once 13 years ago and it was a terrible mistake because his best friend liked me and told him all kinds of lies to prevent the guy from dating me. He ended up making all these terrible assumptions about me that weren't true and he even told me that I wasn't "allowed" to talk to men anymore. Now I hate him and I am glad that after drug use in his early teenage years he is infertile and will never be able to have children.

Anna96 · Accepted Answer

What a b*tch... If she liked your personality, why even bother about the looks?
I haven't told a guy yet because I have bad experiences with confessions. Two guys confessed to me in the past and I turned them down for several reasons. So I fear that it'll happen to me in turn now. Looking back I shouldn't have just turned them down like that.

Tephra · Accepted Answer

Yup, I have and regret how and the timing of it all. Basically had the balls to tell him when we were both drunk and it wasn't taken seriously.. that whole night turned into a fling and literally wanted to kick myself. What a shit time to say how I felt lol

Dim_121 · Accepted Answer

Ouch poor guy. You should have just worked on getting over her yourself.
I have told 3 of my crushes how I felt and I lost 2 of them as my female freinds one of them faked being my friend for a year only to betray me emotionally black mail me and then she tried to make me feel guilty about it all. The last one I'm actually still friends with. I guess that she did not get them memo to shun any guy that tells you that he likes you cause he is just trying to get into her pants.
It is hard having a crush and painful. It does feel like losing a weight but you still do have to get over her after. It usually is not worth crushing over a girl for more than a month. I try to start flirting when I know that I like a girl so I can ask her out a month or two after it starts.
Good luck with the next one mate.

SwissMade · Accepted Answer

Sounds loke a waste, wouldn't want to be with someone who just deems physical appearance as such an important commodity in a relationship. Granted physical attraction has to be prespresent but isn't the only thing that makes a relationship song and fulfilling.

Sonjita · Answer

Naah I always try to sneak in their mind so that they end up trying to seduce me :D A couple of times I wanted to say it but something always came in the way so I guess it's a kind of a sign not to do it. And sadness over some guys was drowned in coffee, writing poems, dating others, and travelling.

kellyg83 · Answer

I told him. I regretted it after. It wasn't because I told him either. It was because of everything that followed. The only good thing I got out of it was that I lost my fear of rejection. Now, I can tell a guy if I think he's good looking or not. If he doesn't like it, that's cool too. At least I said what's on my mind.

BrighteyedAsh · Answer

Haha in like... the 7th or 8th grade my crush knew I liked him. There were a couple of times afterwards that I crushed lightly and it was reciprocated (we developed some flirtation) so it was easy to tell them. I haven't really had any crushes like that I can recall since like... junior year.

colourz · Answer

If you were better looking? dafuq? She definitely wasn't worth the fuss.

Anyways, no, I never told my crush how I felt about her. But I ended up messaging her on facebook a couple months ago.
I said something like this, "I noticed your relationship status is on single now ;) ;)" she never replied lol

I wonder what she was thinking because she didn't even reply to it even though she accepted my message request.

So in a way i did i guess :)

I still like her lol

genericname85 · Answer

Yeah I have. She was taken when I got to know her. But i fell hard for her. Then she broke up and I spent more time with her alone ( without her ex who was usually around). So after a lot of time I told her that I liked her much more than a friend... guess what. She didn't.

mostwomenshouldstfu · Answer

Yes. Parlay that confidence and find a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend off the bat. Then you won't waste time. Keep other relationships with taken girls as plutonic, asking if they have a boyfriend is usually a big enough hint for them. They'll come to you if things change.

CHRIS11796 · Answer

Ya I've told my crush I've liked them before, but it never went anywhere because i either waited to long and they list interest or they weren't interested. But you know what? It's over with and I'm not going to let this one girl stop me from going after other girls either just because she was my crush.

felchiq · Answer

No because it's either I'm pretty obvious when i have a crush or my friends would tease too much and made my crush know i like him. Lol as of now, i dont really have crushes anymore. It's kinda sad. Hahahaha

Patmedley26 · Answer

I think I've told at least 4 girls i've liked them. One was completely creeped out even though we were good friends, another started to avoid me, another acted like she was interested but really wasn't, and the last one thought i was kidding lol. I'm forever alone XD

Justin101 · Answer

If a girl only likes you for your looks she's stupid af
I told my crush i liked her... well she already knew. She likes me. We dated for 2 months then we broke up because i wanted to focus on my education more
and i was literally scared of being rejected but my friends kept saying that she liked me and that we should be together. If you get rejected just get over that person and like someone for who you are not how you look.

Hopefuldreamer8 · Answer

No. It's not that I fear rejection, the worst thing they can do is say no. It's the fact that I am ugly, and so I think I am wasting my time. I know they'll say no so there is no point in trying.

palek · Answer

If someone has a "crush" on someone they should always let em know. There's nothing to be lost by it, and everything to gain. Why look back when your older and think "I wish...

Heythere2013 · Answer

Never! Unless we started dating I have never told a guy that I liked him. For me that would make things really awkward.

springocelot · Answer

Glad you got it out of the way. It's often better getting certain than assuming. As for me, no. Always been too shy.

elbicho · Answer

Numerous times. I'm only gonna live once & I'd rather regret something I did than something I haven't. You never really know unless try.

LincolnClay · Answer

Yes i have. In highschool. Didn't pan out so well, and i wished that i never had. It has left a profound effect on my life.

Sephora_Addict · Answer

I always told my crushes I've liked them, some said they didn't like me, some said they didn't want to lead me on and some liked me back. You really will never know unless you tell them how you feel.

Smmyskittles · Answer

Man I'm currently seeing is bold and told me first.  Previous crushes, yeah, I've told a few.

rogers121 · Answer

In my past. you must not do it again! the best option to know is the way they talk to text you back or when you ask to hang out and the refuse.

Rainie_ · Answer

Yes I have but due to circumstances we couldn't be together, but he's still a good guy friend of mine.

Rahdle · Answer

Yeah and it worked out great! Well, for a few years. Then she cheated on me and never wanted to see me again 💔

SuperNovaRoyalty · Answer

Yes and it was horrible. But at least I knew the truth. But I still want to know, why he didn't like me back? @txdiie_ find out please

SarahsSummer · Answer

It's always better to tell a crush how you feel. Regardless of the outcome.

Cosytoasty · Answer

Yes, but unlike you, i got shot down so hard it was funny. She was so blunt that she earned my respect for the savagery.

falafelany1 · Answer

I have and it sucked because I was rejected each time I did it.

BeautifulPromisesx · Answer

The last time I've had a crush was when I was 12 lol.

Sami365 · Answer

Once, yes. The crush being my best friend. It was nerve-wracking, but I'm glad I did that.

Jake7o7 · Answer

no i haven't and i've been crying about it everyday for almost 3 months. (i've never felt so bad). Maybe i should do something about it. like, tell her i like her. But every time i try to talk to her i end up speaking about something else

sjoes006 · Answer

I answered no because I'm unfortunately pretty obvious.

Pedro_N · Answer

I did in the past. It did not went as I wanted tho :P

JoyGirl · Answer

My first crush yes. 😊  My second crush, heck no. ಠ_ಠ I just watch him from the side ☺, so I don't mess things up. 😅

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

Yep. I flat out admitted I had a huge crush on him. #awkwardbuttrue

Goldilocks24 · Answer

It's better to know where you stand with them rather than always wondering.

LittleSally · Answer

Of course I have... How else should you live your life?

Sunflower19 · Answer

Yes... I don't regret it but I should've kept my mouth shut.

Anonymous · Answer

I've had 6 crushes in my lifetime before I met my husband, and I told 3 of them.. First 2 I told didn't work out at all. The 3rd one, didn't work out with him, but it led me to meeting my husband!

Negrodamuss · Answer

i have yes. Sometimes it works out, other times not so much

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

Yes, it's better to let them know and seek a response then to never know whether they feel the same way.

PizzaPrincess · Answer

No, I didn't have to. Everyone knew I liked him. 😂

Phoenix98 · Answer

Like every one of them and then I dated all of them.

Luvme66 · Answer

NO because m first crush apparently has a boyfriend

Decentguy · Answer

yes, and it was a very big mistake. and it was very awkward

Anonymous · Answer

I haven't said it in so many words but id be surprised if he doesn't see it at this point!

Anonymous · Answer

i have told these things as well and have not regretted it.. even tough nothing ever happened

Vostock · Answer

yeah. all of them. I ended up hurt because I rushed things

Tony1974 · Answer

Live and learn my friend. So THIS crush wasn't fro you.. perhaps the next one will.

NikoTam · Answer

I'm not. If they tell me first than I will tell them back

sp33d · Answer

Of course, how else would I move things forward? Telepathy? Well, I can't do that.

Omar5881 · Answer

I don't actually crush on people , if I wanna talk to her I just do

_rachelle_17 · Answer

am in the process of trying to ask him out

fauchelevent · Answer

Only after I knew they liked me back.

ManOnFire · Answer

Yep, almost all the time.

Blonde401 · Answer

Yes. My ex was my crush and I asked him out.

jeannine22 · Answer

No. I was to shy for that.

SoWhAt249 · Answer

Still afraid after all these years...

Mustachekitteh · Answer

In the past I've done it more than once.

txdiie_ · Answer

Yeah and... it's never as bad but ya know

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

When I was in 7th grade.

Andruu4u · Answer

I know its a sad life

BobbyC65 · Answer

I'm to shy when it comes to that.

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