I know this may be hard for you because your so into her, but try and hold back. Don't show so much interest in her. if she really honestly knows your into her she is going to do what she can and jerk you around, ignore her actions and her to a degree.
Do the subtle Hey hows it going, bare bones basic chat, give her a reason to talk to you again, don't go begging to be with her or for her attention, that means calling her and texting her every day or every hour of the day either. If your phone rings let it go call her back the next day, don't answer a text right away if even the same day. You give her minimal to NO attention and she will start wondering what's going on why isn't this guy doing what all the other do drooling all over me, and she will come back, and odds are be more interested in you because it will have driven her nuts.
Far to often females play games, for absolute no reason, why just to see if your interested. But when you get fed up with the games and walk away, she will just move on to the next guy and start the game all over again. Its ridiculous, child and petty.
Sense you didn't say exactly what "head games" she is playing with everyone commenting is only guessing including myself. In one case it could be she is one of those girls that just like having attention and could careless how you feel, a simple explame in the most basic form is girls on Instagram that have thousands upon thousands of followers because they post some what revealing/teasing pictures of themselves just because they like the attention but that is not so much of head but is a simple way they feed their crave for attention. Another reason could be she really doesn't know how she feels towards you but if that's the case then the "head games" should be more of her trying to figure you out just maybe in a different way then you would expect or are a custom to. In the end both guys and girls play head games for their own reasons it's really just a matter of what is your stopping point with the game because all games to a end because you either stop playing or win/lose (y'all get together or she gets with someone else). Just my "opinion not hate"
for me the guys I've known who liked me a lot were a total turnoff. they came off desperate, too eager and needy. and I am not looking for a guy like that. such qualities are so incredibly unattractive. needless to say, I NEVER feel the same way for them. I don't even lead them on or anything, but they keep doing all these things to make me go out with them or sth.
seriously. a nice guy with good qualities finds out where he stands with the girl first, if she has affections for him etc and then decides what to do from there. he is patient and gets to know her well before jumping into anything with her. come off too easy and available and you are not valued anymore. I prefer someone with some self-control, patience and mystery.
well I do it sometimes and that's just to see if the guy is telling me the truth and after if the guy still is crazzy for me I stop and if I like him I will tell him I do and see what the future has for us and if I don't like the guy I tell him straight up I don't even bother waisting their time with the mind games and majority of the time if the girl is playing games with you its cause she likes you too but just wants to make sure you can handle her if you guys ever try to go for the long run :)
Are you sure she knows you are absolutely crazy about her?
If she does and she's playing head games...you should "confront" her. She may be totally oblivious of her actions/thoughts. If she's pure evil, then, would you even want to be with someone like that? Maybe you're crazy about her because it's all confusing...step back and really evaluate what you like about her...
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Women do this for a variety of reasons...
The could be testing you like the other guy here mentioned. The could also be doing it because they get a kick out of messing with your head.
Women love to be in control. If she is doing this to you and pushing you away then she has absolutely no respect for you and only sees you as some doormat to have fun with. When a girl knows she has you, she will either wrap herself around you or screw with you. Seems like the latter. She's just torturing you because she feels she can. Move away from her.
it used to be believed that girls where testing to see if the guy would be loyal.
new research is showing that they do it to see how easily they can get the guy to submit or how easily they can get him to show insecurity and start competing. if he doesn't give way it's a sign that he's a strong, confident, leader, which had a lot of survival benefits for our ancestors.
kids do the same thing. they'll push your buttons to see how strong you are, it's completely necessary.
it isn't about childishness.. or fun. women are compelled to play these games because one they hate it when their rejection of a male has no impact, and secondly they are unable to keep their minds from dwelling. this is not restricted only to their dating lives but to every argument the get into in every facet of their lives.
in my time i was vicious enough to take it to another level. i was so insouciant about their actions that i led them to do things like.. and yes this really happened... ring my phone and hang up when i answered, text me incessantly when i clearly requested they not, and even go into therapy. this is not my statement of a power trip. it is an encouragement to all men to work this thing until women go mad over it.
Loyalty is being tested, like the other guy mentioned. Also to see if you'll come back to us if we ignore you for a little, making sure it's us and not our/attention you're after. I don't do it if I don't like the guy but as for the guy I like it makes me more mysterious and him more interested.
Yes to all of the above, sadly. For me atleast. It may not be true for your girl because she just might not know that you're into her :( I, on the other hand, think it builds up tension and anticipation if I tease the guy I'm interested in. Get him to see me with other guys, Pretend I didn't see him, and only make eye contact at the last minute.It makes him want me more, so yeah I'm up for it!
I used to play only mild head games with guys just to make sure they felt the same and see if they were really as into me as I was into them. Well I did until I met this one guy I fell completely head over heels for and I didn't even want to waste my time playing games so I just flat out asked him out. He turned me down... but it was worth it I think. Rather than me playing mind games with him and getting all bent out of shape analyzing all his reactions I just got straight to the point. It saved time and energy overall.
dude women are CRAZY...legit CRAZY...they like the fact that they know they have you around their finger, they like being in control...then they go for the douche bag, jersey shore looking weirdos with NOTHING to offer but an attitude and a chase...
they will realize one day that that one guy, who would have done ANYTHING for them was actaully what they really wanted in their future...its too bad they are like that...it really is...but one day my friend you will reap the benefits of a girl who wants to give you her all and her attention...screw her if she's f***ing with your head its not fair to you
if you really want her, play hard to get, show her that its whatever and you don't care...girls are stupis as sh*t man, literally when it comes down to WHAT THEY WANT...tehy say they want this and that and this and that...then they like the chase...its childish and immature...just look for a mature women who actually KNOWS what she wants...
A girl does that to test a guy if he allows it. I've been there before where a girl will tell me that she's not the type to play games then proceeded to play games. I've got to a point where I'm not afraid to lose anybody. she started playing hard to get, acting uninterested or flirting with another guy to see if I'm going to be jealous. when she realized I wasn't reacting to her nonsense, she came around then I proceeded to put her in a friendzone and move on with my life. I have built immunity over women's games to the point where the slightest games she plays, she's gone.
To be honest, the only reason why I would do that is because I'm not sure myself.Its not that I don't have confidence its just that I don't wanna get hurt.. Most of the time I'm wondering if he just wants in my pants or if he genuinely likes me. With a girl, if a guys done that to you before,youre just more cautious than usual. My first year in uni, there was this one really hot guy and he said he really liked me and all that and I was kinda happy, but then my friend is llike he does that to everyone. So I unno, maybe she just isn't sure?
I think you answered your own question, buddy...remember, too needy is a turn-off to anybody, too much overbearingly in love is too much...maybe try not to pour it on so thick, back off a bit, take back some control (and respect) and instead of slobbering over her, try giving her room and maybe then she'll come to you...remember, just because you like her doesn't mean she has to like you...
uhm guilty as charged. it's flattering when a guy gives you his full attention and treats you like a queen. ;) but I am not an asshole who doesn't reciprocate his efforts because I give him hugs and reply to his emails in a nice but not leading him on way. but he knows he can never have me because I am taken. and I told him we can never be so its not like I'm playing games with him because I warned him beforhand. but he knows I like him but not love him. :)
I swear only some girls do that not all. I just want to take guys that do that and pair them up with girls that string guys along and make them get married and one less thing I have to worry about. I know I am guilty of doing it but I know that I am not trying to.
A girl can be turned off if she knows a guy really likes her and he makes it obvious. This isn't to say she doesn't like him back. You need to back off abit and let her chase you, if she really does like you she'll be wondering why you aren't paying her loads of attention and will chase you.
girls do it to see how long would it take for a guy to break and also to see if he could handle her
it sounds like someones doin this to you if they are simply tell them how you feel and ask if they feel the same way so if they don't you don't waste anymore time on them
We don't always mean to. Sometimes we are just as confused as you are. I've been told I test people, but I'd never do it on purpose. I do it because I've been a hurt a whole lot and my trust is hard to get. But in some cases, it's because the girl has nothing better to do.
You know what's funny.. you never mentioned how they are head games? we don't know what she is doing so we can't tell you why honestly.. just presume we know the details..
Well I torture the guy who likes me. But it's never on purpose.
Not all women (girls) are alike.. Sometimes we are not aware of how deep the feelings may be that guys have for us...
We're all different, you shouldn't group us together.
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