Do guys like it when girls open up their emotions to them?

[crrazaylove]

Like if a girl has never cried in front of you and when your just friends with one or secretly are crushing on one and if she's having a bad day and she is telling you everything that is happening and starts to cry, does that make you wanna throw up or just hug her and listen and help her calm down?

[acousticguitar1]

To have a girl open up and share her emotions with me is one of the best feelings in the world. It's also one of the best ways to feel really close to each-other. Sharing emotions and inner thoughts is a big aspect of a real relationship, and if it's never been done, the first time is like crossing an essential line to a strong, healthy relationship.

Men are problem solvers. We see something wrong, and we have an internal need to make it better. So when a girl pours her heart out, it's only natural for (good-hearted) guys to do whatever he can to make her better, even if it's just truly listening to her, and offering a shoulder to cry on. It really helps us to get to know the real you, and what runs through you mind. As every girl knows, we are not mind-readers, so I definitely appreciate knowing how she feels.

Finally, if you do pour your heart out, and the guy is generally uninterested, doesn't give you the attention you deserve, is checking out other girls in the room, or you scare him away, don't blame it on yourself. You are being you, and if he can't handle that, do you really want him to be the one you're with when other problems arise?

[G-Daz]

Regardless of if that was my girl or not, I think it would just be a courtesy to her that I comfert her and listen to what she needs to say. but yeah, I think its a good thing to know when a girl is so comfertable with you to know that if she is going through any problems, she won't hesitate to tell me and come to me for comfert. if she cried in front of me and wanted to convide in me, I would feel really good to knwo that she trusted me enough to cry in front of me and I would deffinitly just do what I could to make her feel better so id hug her for as long as she needed and listen to see if I can help with anything.

[askanythingxo]

Aww! I wish all guys were like you lol

[G-Daz]

Haha thanks!! (=

[soslin711]

Awwwwwww :)

[crrazaylove]

Thats really sweet :)

[G-Daz]

Lol, thank you =)

[crrazaylove]

Your welome sweetie :)

[Mcstarr]

Im so with askanthingxo wish all guys were like you and not jerks

[G-Daz]

Thanks!! haha

[sqenixs]

Almost all guys are like this on the inside, and if they don't show it to you it's either that they are hiding their true feelings around you, or they don't really like you.

[SimonK56]

I'm the same, whenever I see a girl crying, I get this very strong feeling in my heart like a big part of me wants to comfort them and give them a nice big juicy kiss and a cuddle, just to make them feel better, I'm a Virgo guy by the way, you know, I can actually feel a girl's emotional pain in my heart, I guess that makes me an Empath.

[Anonymous]

I lashed out at one of my best guy friends so when I apologized I told him just to tell me to shut up next time I'm being a bitch. Wanna know what he said? He said (practically yelled) no. He says I need someone to vent to and if it's him it shows him that I trust him enough and can be myself around him. He said it's a big point in our relationship that I feel ok breaking down all the walls around him. He was so sweet about it and remembers what I tell him is wrong so he can fix it. He is always there for me and tries to make everything better. Almost all the guys I know well are there for me when I need them, although not quite to the extent he is.

[crrazaylove]

Thats good :)

[shf84]

Your lucky, you can talk to me you can confide in me you can trust me but you lash out at me you go and find someone else to hang with because were done.

[crrazaylove]

What are you talking about?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I know I'm just crazy lucky! I still can't believe he said it and he really meant it too! He always knows when I need to vent. The one time I lashed out at him he was setting it up for me to yell at him and said that really pushed me too far. He still forgave me and encouraged me to vent at him. He's just amazing and that's why I love him!

[Anonymous]

Great question, really helped me out.

My last boyfriend totally screwed me up because he never was there for me and practially always told me to suck it up. What a douche! But now I'm scared to open up to anyone...but all the guys's positive reaction to your questions really encourage me to do so with the guy I'm just dating who seems to be totally different to my ex.

[SimonK56]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with opening yourself up to someone, never be scared about it, you deserve better than that last boyfriend of yours, you deserve a guy who will always be there for you no matter what, don't lose hope because there are lots of decent guys out there for you.

[bytesunfish]

I like it when a girl has a heart to heart with me, assuming she's sober. It's nice because it means that she's comfortable with me and looks to me when things aren't going her way. It's flattering and fulfills that manly need to take care of a woman.

[crrazaylove]

I love that manly feeling when I really need it. Just to feel arms around me and holding and protecting me. It makes me feel so much better.

[mikess314]

I don't know that I "like it". As with most men, my natural response is to just try to make you feel better and stop crying. But there are more ways to show emotions than just to start crying. I do feel privileged when a girl thinks enough of me to drop the act and start telling me how she really feels.

[crrazaylove]

Thats good :D

[BlackSuperman]

it's been done in the past... Helen of Troy on down to New York... Women's emotions are very powerful. More so in our society, because of the chivalrous nature of the men (for the most part). Yes, guys like it... it's almost instinctual that we tend to get involved in some way when we see that- and that sometimes gets men in trouble...

[crrazaylove]

How so?

[miscellaneousman]

I am probably one of the shyest guys there is, and I've never had a girlfriend. In high school there was a girl crying who sat next to me in class so I went up and got her a tissue. She never forgot it. It seemed like the simplest thing but I just couldn't help the urge to make sure she was alright. I have no problem comforting girls if they are feeling down and would do it for anyone, any day without expecting anything at all in return. The opposite applies as well, I like a girl who is willing to listen to my feelings when I'm ready to spill out.

[SimonK56]

That's awesome, I've been without a steady girlfriend for most of my life, so I can relate to that, girls like it if a guy does something nice for them, it doesn't have to be anything overly complex, something as simple as offering a girl a tissue can say a lot, it shows the girl that you care enough about them to want to make them feel better.

[xremz1217]

Of course. Especially if I like the girl. Even if we are just friends, I'm still going to do what I can to help and comfort her. Like one of the above users said, it's a nice feeling when a girl comes to you and opens to you.

[crrazaylove]

Im glad you feel that way. :)

[shf84]

If someone has died or she has a bad medical diagnosis or she's crying over some incident of racism or other human rights issue she witnessed. I can understand that and I will offer what ever comfort I can to her. However if she starts crying because her car broke down or something I'm going to think she's a sissy or mental and it's going to kind of creep me out.

All that about men wanting to be "chivalrous" or needing to take care of women is bull sh*t

men like that have been taught that their self worth is in their sex and that being male is something special any thing that makes them feel like they are fulfilling the role that society has pushed off on them at threat of violence or ostracism is such a relief to them that they think they really have it made "wow I really am a man after all " it''s sick what a dehumanizing gender segregated society has done to men and women alike.

[2Mysterious]

hug her and listen and help calm her down. It's a nice feeling when girls confide in you.

[crrazaylove]

I like that a lot :)

[BurningHammer]

Definately the latter. What such a situation does is that it triggers a hard-wired pscyhological instinct in men to protect those they care about-and no man deserving of the title can be an emotionally crippled weakling and sit idly by to do nothing. On a personal level, I would like it when girls show me their emotions because that would show they trust and respect me enough to be honest with me.

[mikedabomb000]

It depends on whether or not the guy actually cares about the girl. Personally, I like it when a girl shows me that she trusts me enough to tell me about her real feelings, but I have friends who would strongly disagree.

[SimonK56]

For me, whenever I see a girl crying, I get this very strong feeling in my heart, it's like a big part of me wants to hold them close to me, and give them a big juicy hug and a kiss to make them feel better, I can actually feel a girl's emotional pain, I'm a Virgo guy by the way, giving a girl a kiss and a hug is one of my ways of showing them that I really care about them.

[allenz]

yea, if he likes you, then he'll love it. If he's just a friend, make sure he's gay... lol

[crrazaylove]

I've told how I feel to guys who aren't gay. it kind of shows a more sensitive side of a guy when I do.

[JBird1000]

Having a girl open up to me about her emotions feels great. If she cries, she can just have my shoulder to cry on. its also great if I want to vent, because I listened to her so she can listen to me.

[chiefnavarro]

i like to be comforting. so they tell you all there secrets. then if its to much to handle I can leave them.

[Splash13]

Bastard.

[chiefnavarro]

Why is that a bastard

thats how you know if its gonna work or not

[pmnao]

NO. Makes us feel in the friendzone.