" I never lost feelings for you." Do you & he/ she, mean the same thing?

[Anonymous]

Tell me what you would mean if you said this, & then without thinking too much, tell me what you would HEAR if someone said it to you. what you would hear if someone said it to you.

( You can draw on real experience, or improvise - either one is fine)

[raabzbaby89]

If I said this to a guy, it would mean that from the moment I started liking him, I never really stopped. Through all those months/years/whatever, it could mean that I've always strongly liked him or that I have tried to get over him, so I denied my feelings at times but underneath everything they were always there. Maybe the feelings have been stronger at some points than at others, but they have always been there in some way.

If someone said that to me, I would assume they meant what I have just described.

I assume you are looking for a guy's point of view on this. I do remember a guy telling me once that he liked me when I started liking him, but kept me in the back of his mind for a few years until he decided he wanted to seriously pursue me. So I guess it works the same way for both of us.

[Asker]

Thank you.

Yes & no. I want to understand what the guy meant,

& I want to know what people think in general

The guy who said this persued me as soon as we met -

i really liked him, but I left & he left & I came back it was hard for us to talk,

& it took like 9 months to really start hanging out.

Its just he said this midst a bunch of other explanations about the past 3 years.

We also almost had sex because he thought I wanted to

he didn't know I was a virgin-So we stopped.

I thought maybe-

[Asker]

He just said that ,because he did not want to feel like a player, like he thought I wanted to hear that or something...idk,

-He kept saying he felt really bad, because he really wanted to tell me for a long time,but he thought I was mad at him, & did not want to talk to him

-but if he wanted to that means he thought I wanted him to,

-so he had no reason not to tell me.

>I would only with hold that if I thought the guy did not want to hear it.

So am not sure if he means it ,or just feels guilt

[BlueGriffin]

If I were to say it, it'd be meaning I hadn't stopped loving the person, perhaps after a break-up. If I heard it, I'd think the same thing, probably.

[Anonymous]

I'd be meaning that I never stop feeling love over that person.

[Asker]

If someone said that to YOU, do you think you would you hear the same thing?

thanks for answering btw. :-)

[Opinion Owner]

For sure...lol now I want someone to tell me that..and no problem.

[Asker]

Lol.. Funny.

Well what I was in that situation once- which inspired my curiosity.

When the guy I liked for 4 years, said that to me ( & he sounded a little p*ssed lol, it was weird)

What I heard was :

" I USED to have feelings for you, back then when I HAD them... (Implying he doesn't now) NOt a lot of people agree with that.

I was trying to figure out why he didn't just say he HAS feelings for me, I talked myself out of listening basically, tho I'm still not sure....

[The_Box]

It's pretty literal, actually.

[Asker]

Well, I heard it as 'i used to have feelings for you before in the past back then..i never lost feelings for u.

cause if it is NOW why wouldn't someone say NOW - I have feelings for u.... not many people agree with me-but my cousin does & another girl says she would only say it to someone if she felt guilty

- ANYWAYS I asked what you would mean & what you would hear - I don't know what literal means to u.

What does it mean to you why would you say that.

like I might say : well I didn't but NOW

[The_Box]

I would hesitate to proscribe connotation to such a statement.

[Asker]

But, lol THAT was the question.

I'm asking for YOUR opinion, NOT the absolute answer... get it?

:-)