Someone who doesn't hug people and if they do it's awkward and they keep a lot of space between them but they always give me a full body hug like these.
Hugs can be platonic, but the typical American platonic hug will have a slight separation between the pelvic regions: the "A"-frame hug, with a limited contact primarily above the navel for both parties.
A flirtatious hug tends to involve contact below the navel. A female flirtatious hug will typically include a change in the pelvic angle that encourages incidental contact below the belt.
The male flirtatious hug has to develop that contact differently in order to not come off as "creepy": a hand lower than normal for a hug is the typical leading indicator (displayed in image 3, compare to image 2, imagine where the female navel is in both). This typically brings her lower body closer than might be normal for a typical A-frame hug.
An alternate male flirtatious hug is when he keeps his center of gravity back, with his spine straight. If she is shorter than he is, this puts her into a position where she has to stretch up, possibly to tip-toes; that pulls her lower body in closer to his than is typical A-frame. (displayed in image 2, compare the man's posture to the posture in image 1, where the man has leaned his center of gravity forward, bringing himself down to her level and allowing her to maintain the distance).
The last male flirtatious hug is a hug with his forearms in a more vertical posture than displayed in any of your images: his elbows may be lower, down near her navel, but his hands might meet at her neck. This position keeps their lower portions in close contact while emphasizing by posture the strength of his biceps.
If any of those describes his hug, let's go with flirtatious.
If there is separation below the navel, and he is leaning forward and down to you, allowing you to also lean forward, that's a much more platonic hug.
If you're describing somebody who is on the Autism spectrum, however, all of that goes out the window: a hug means something completely different to somebody on the spectrum. It is, first, a sign of a huge amount of trust in you understanding his boundaries and "getting" him. It is a source of comfort in a very uncomfortable world, and he is not even considering the flirtatious overtones of a hug.
If it is making you uncomfortable, he should respect a "Please ask first," or if the duration is uncomfortable, you might suggest a time limit (a count of five, ten, twenty, whatever is okay with you). Consider it coaching him in how to hug in a socially acceptable way.
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Self admittedly probably on Asperger spectrum. He's high functioning with stuff most people don't notice. Like it applies but it doesn't. Lots of other flirtatious things he does only with me but I specifically wanted to know about the hugging aspect. Hugging him is a full body thing. Like bodies pretty flush against each other. But your explanation has given me some insight into why he's been the way he's been about approaching things with me so thanks!
I'd been giving the flirtatiousness of hugs some thought, recently, due to a hug I had thought was platonic taking a surprising turn to the sexual. It was helpful to me to be forced to reduce my jumbled thinking to a more clinical and neutral description and the inverted perspective.
maybe not by itself but like i said long hugs that last longer than normal with paired with other stuff. I wish I could age restrict my questions because he's not nearly the same age as me. And I already got my answer I wish I could close the question but I think it has to be 24 hours before you can close it.
People got there favorites. I hug this girl from behind. Wrist near her breast and rock side to side. She said she like that. Guess what. I ain't got her number, she don't want to hang out, and she giggles and laughs every time I do it. I hug this girl I don't know my right hand be on her lower spine near her butt. Then I slide back up to rub her back. Nothing pop from it. Only seen her twice. Side hugged this one girl yesterday and she lead her head on my chest. And said awwe. I have different hug for different girls that don't meean nothing.
Okay if he hug you in the pictures above but no one else he jus wan to hug you. But I doubt he don't like touching people. Cause we all act one way when we are around people.
no, as i said his hugs with other people are only if they want to hug him and they're awkward and a lot of space. I'm the only one he hugs like that and the only one he will choose to hug. Hugged me three times in 20 minutes one day.
Guy chooses to only hug one girl= means nothing sorry no that's not the general consensus from the people i've told about it. And it wasn't the question I asked. I really wish I could age restrict questions.
Wow, here's another unhelpful anon on the internet! Yeah if a guy is on the spectrum doesn't like people touching him or touching people yes I thing that's significant. Douchebag.
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