Neither. If I was interested in dating, I would prefer him to not flirt with me and not send signals. I would not take him seriously and ignore him. I don't agree with dating before being friends for a long time first to get to truly know them. But if he can't be confident enough to say what his intentions are verbally I wouldn't consider him because he's hiding what he really wants. The best advice is this: observe the person's body language and see if they are receptive or not. If they are not receptive don't just do anything. Always be honest with it by being respectfully confident. Don't be lustful. Be friendly. Show that you're seriously invested in wanting to get to know her and only her.
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Subtle signs can be cute but only if I realise, if your just hitting in the dark and she's not realising then what's the point of being subtle? Really obvious things can be more attractive and helpful sometimes as well because there is no confusion and they can get to the point without stressing over your mixed signals. I have found over the past years that it also depends on if I like the guy back because obvious signs can be uncomfortable when a guy is forcing himself onto you but if you like him it can be really sexy.
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Obvious signs. I like guys that are direct with their feelings. That way I don't sit there and ponder the thought of "Do they like me or not?" Also if they show that they like me, then it sort of tells me that they are confident with their liking of me
I think subtle flirting sometimes makes it hard to tell if it's friendly or actually flirting. However I find guys who obviously flirt tend to be too pushy and aggressive. I think flirting is such an enjoyable process and the ambiguity of it is what makes it so much fun! Perhaps slightly more obvious but done in a casual, light way so that I feel the interest but it's not forced or uncomfortable?
Obvious signs so if I'm not interested, I can just let him know right then and there. If it's subtle, I might not notice and try to be nice back so I'd accidently be leading him on.
Define 'obvious'.
Smiling, being super-sweet, giving me their number and suggesting we go out for coffee or a movie (more than once)? Yes.
Shouting out whatever vulgar things come out of their mind? No.I like straight forward people, but some people prefer subtle. It depends on the girl but if someone you have know awhile, you might wanna use caution and subtlety give hints unless she can't pick up on them then flirt hardcore and see where it goes.
Obviously I don't want to be confused! Because then if I'm confused if you like me you're going to be confused if I like you. Be bold!
Obvious Signs. I hate Subtle Signs since I'm not able to tell if he's being friendly or flirty.
And for not looking like a fool I just assume it's being friendly.Really I'm past the flirting stages, and relationships to that point, just get to it and move along..
I like obvious more. Subtle is nice too for a short while only though. I don't like playing games and being unsure.
I can't tell if a guy is flirting if it not obvious.
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