I cheated and I feel absolutely horrible about it. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Honestly when I think about it now I don't even know why I cheated, but here's the story:

Ok so my boyfriend is away working at this camp for 6 weeks well he's going to be back soon but like this past week I was just upset and stupid and whenever I was texting this one guy it was late at night (and I tend not to think too clearly at night especially when I'm tired) well I was texting him and I kind of sent a picture of myself n.a.k.e.d to him (but the picture didn't have my face in it) anyways I thought about everything I sent him over the past week (although there was only one picture like that but still) and I felt horrible about t all. So last night I texted him saying that I don't think I should talk to him like this anymore because I do love my boyfriend and said that I don't know why I even sent him that picture I just wasn't thinking clearly. I know that's no excuse for what I did, but I really do love my boyfriend and don't want to lose him.

Also my boyfriend and I are having a baby we didn't plan it, but it just kind of happened, and I found out that my boyfriend is friends with this guy over facebook. Which makes me feel even worse about all of this. Does anyone have any ideas about what I should do I really don't want to lose him.

[ShesMygirl]

Most often, telling someone you cheated is a 50/50 thing. You think they deserve honesty, but at the same time you want to be forgiven.

Honesty is VERY important, but the guilt is yours alone. You have no right to screw up and then throw it on someone else just to make yourself feel better. Telling him isn't going to undo anything, and it is going to hurt him.

The problem is this is someone he knows.

This is why that voice telling us something is wrong should ALWAYS be considered.

I get how easy it is to mess up. I get that with the baby on the way hormones are running all over the place. That doesn't change the fact that you did something you can't even explain.

You have two choices.

1 Tell the other guy you can't tell your guy, and why. If he is willing to never say anything then keep your mouth shut and carry the guilt. Perhaps it will keep you from EVER doing something this foolish again.

2 Tell your guy, and hope that he doesn't just walk away for good. There is a good chance that is what he will do.

This is the same advice most counselors will give you.

[azzhole725]

First of all, this isn't even cheating. You didn't physically have sexual relations with the other guy. Thus, why even tell your boyfriend? Secondly, don't give people the bull sh*t excuse that the "baby" just kind of happened. If you didn't want to have a baby, then you would have used a condom and birth control pills. Anyway, relax and concentrate on becoming a mother. Forget this incident even happened.

[Asker]

I just said the baby thing just kind of happened because I didn't know how else to put it honestly, but you're right. thank you.

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[GIntrovert]

I think you should stop texting when you're tired and horny.. I don't think it's a big thing, just don't lie about it if he brings it up... He probably will get upset if this guy shows all his friends/family your naked picture..

Though I think there are some deeper problems you need to figure out...

[AustinMan]

First of all: Do Not Tell Him. Learn from your mistake and don't do it again. If the other guy is scum enough to tell your guy, then you'll have to confess and beg for his forgiveness but if this other guy is stand up and keeps it between you, then learn from this and let it go. For sure, don't send ANYONE compromising photos. If this other guy is a complete dirt bag and tries to blackmail you for sex or money, tell your guy right away.

[Asker]

ok then thanks.