Is this weird? to keep running into the guy that rejected me?

[Anonymous]

i keep on running to an old flame, not really an ex because we were never official, but I knew him for years and he showed interest at first but it died down, and he played mind games and basically toyed with my heart...i had a crush on him for years...I've been doing well and was over him but I keep on running into him in my neighborhood and school...and the moment he sees me he immediately recognizes me and makes eye contact..other times he gives me an attitude, other times he comes up to talk to me but then rudely ends the conversation and takes off...why can't he just leave me alone? its like he's stabbing my heart that's already dead. =[

whats his problem? if he rejected me why is he still looking at me and stalking me, but then other times giving me mean looks and ignoring me? he knew I liked him and I asked him out last year and he made an excuse and basically said no.

[dunc17]

Confront him about it! Next time he comes up to talk to you, be like, oh you're going to talk to me now?! That's funny because yesterday you ignored me...etc. etc...I had a guy do this to me and it got on my last nerves! I did this to him and he was probably shocked but I haven't heard from him since! ha he was a creep though...wanting nothing but physical it seemed like...I never gave him any reason to think I would give him anything but he's too full of himself!

Idk why he does this but if you want it to stop, tell him to leave you alone if he's gonna be rude.

[Asker]

Youre right. ill show him who's in control. hmph.

thanks so much <3

[dunc17]

Definitly! Show him that you don't need him or his mind games. You have plenty of guys out there to choose from I'm sure. It just takes confidence and a strong personality to have this mindset.

haha you're very welcome!

[MissGuided]

He honestly is just playing. He's not stalking you, he probably just happens to run into you. He knows he's in an opportunistic position, so he's using his power to mess with your brain. Move on. I know it's hard, trust me, I've been that girl. But he's keeping you at bay as an option, don't be his option. Don't flirt back, but don't be a jerk. Be polite, and move on. Keep yourself open to other options, I'm sure someone who's ACTUALLY worth it will come along.

[Asker]

I know, you're absolutely right. But its like he's mocking me and still poking fun at me by continuing these games of his. He has stalked me, he followed me home one time and looks at me when I talk to other guys at school. He got mad at me when I blocked him on MySpace and came up to me in person to 'talk'. He's such a jerk. and rude. he didn't hold the door for me when we walked or cared to ask me about my life. I think its gonna be hard to be polite I hate him so much.

[MissGuided]

Ok, that's just messed up. He followed you home? Tell him to step. He can't do stuff like that. If he harasses you too much, you can actually get him in trouble. But for now that's a little extreme. Tell him to back off. If he looks at you when you talk to other guys, let him look and remember to NOT look back at him. Carry on in confidence. He's insignificant in your life. If you'll believe it, he'll start thinking it too.

[Asker]

Yes ma'am =] thanks so much

[MissGuided]

No problem girl! Keep smiling!