Will it always be awkward around the guy who rejected me?

[Anonymous]

Well I made a bold move by asking a coworker out on a date couple of months ago, and he rejected me. :( And ever since then I can't act normal and the way I used to before around him. Like, I don't hold a grudge really, I got over it and I still like him as a person. But I guess we will never be as it never happened. I just can't see him equally as everyone else anymore, he always stands out. We do act as if nothing happened, but I wonder if it's really like that for him? What do you think? And do you think that I'll always feel this weird tension with him?

[sjoes006]

Well you don’t really go into the specifics but even if you did we can only guess.

You say it was bold, that could be bold for you because you thought he was flirting or maybe he actually was or you just really wanted to think he was because you were focused on him.

As a general rule, I don’t date coworkers or even people that work in my same office building. Don’t shot where you eat kind of thing.

This is my personal preference mainly because my professional reputation is important and in a small specialized part of my industry.

But I did still land myself in an awkward situation with a guy who worked in my same plaza downtown years back. We worked for different companies and in different departments but sister companies that shared common amenities including a fitness center, indoor pool and exercise classes throughout the day.

It got to that do or not do stage because other people were noticing, mainly our female trainer and encouraging. But we kind of liked what we thought was low key attention neither would act on.

It got weird once we were kind of forced to acknowledge nonverbally that sparks were there upon the outing by others.

After that, I was weird, he was weird. We got it back together to be just normal for a while. Kind of felt like the air was cleared.

For months things were neutral between us and he had other friends in the group. But he found out I had entered into a serious relationship by way of hearing my convo with a friend whilst the group we on a run.

I didn’t see him often after that. Pretty sure I was the asshole in that situation, so fuck me.

If you are rejected by someone or have to reject someone, either way both parties will be awkward it not corrected for.

Find out how you acted differently around him because of the crush and turn that part off.

Give space for a week or two the just treat him like you would anyone else with the same banter.

If he’s weird give him more time to accept that you aren’t pining and have moved on.

Once you do, don’t make it public or run it in his face, that certainly wouldn’t work but I’ve seen people try.

[btbc92]

If you personally know him it will always be awkward no matter what you do. At the end of the day you need more time for yourself, you just go do that. If he can't learn to be civil around you, the net is personally his problem. Just don't allow it to distract you from what's important in life. Especially when it comes down to your work life. As long as you don't have a grudge against him just don't worry about it. At the same time you can't necessarily get upset because you're not friends with him, you don't really know him. You should take it as a learning lesson to not just ask anybody out on a date when you don't even know what they are looking for. You want something serious you got to be serious by cultivating relationships first. Not asking random people.

[Ms_brownybrown]

Yes you will cause you think hr is amazing. The moment you start thinkinh he is completely like others. you will not be much attracted towards him. Try thinking about someone else to just divert your mind. It might help

[NEOTUNIA2U]

when a guy reject me, it is not meant to be. Thoughts about him cease.

[NEOTUNIA2U]

it will stop being weird as long you accept the fact he is not into you and not for you.

[dadsfgasg]

As long as you, or him make it awkward.

Usually when I reject someone, I pretend they don't exist. Even if I see them, I look at them as if I've never met them.

Now, when I get rejected, I handle it differently. I create massive distance, but still maintain some semblance of normality so as to not stir up any awkwardness between me and the woman. So, if I had long conversations with her before I asked her out and she turns me down, then I'll keep it light and airy. Just "hi" and "bye", throw in a smile and give off comfortable body language. I'm quite good at this.

What I have noticed though is that when I act nonchalant with a woman who previously turn me down, she acts weird around me. Gives me dirty stares, gives off an air that she quite frankly doesn't want me around. I don't know why though. I don't harass people so...

Anyways, the point I'm making is that it's completely up to you how you act around someone who rejected you. I'm proof of this.

[Sharknado88]

I've had it before with a co worker that I liked. I hinted that I was interested and flirted with her for a good while but one day I found out she had a boyfriend through one of her friends (she never told me herself). After I found out it was a bit awkward for a time but it was all on me cause she didn't know I knew about her boyfriend so I guess I had an easier time to get over it but it was still weird. To be frank though I am surprised he turned you down. Just the act of a lady asking me out would make her 1000x more attractive, i would almost always give her a chance unless there were some serious red flags that went up when I was getting to know her. But to answer your question just give it some time and maybe find another guy and you'll be over this dude in no time! Good luck!

[xCherryKizz]

I get it too but i just focus on my work and everything will be fine. he's not the only fish in the sea, find another crush :3

[markscott]

It's only a couple of months, and still fairly fresh. In time, it will fade to almost nothing if you let it.

[Steve_Case]

Only awkward until you find another guy that doesn't reject you. Then you will busy dreaming about the new guy and this will be a distant memory.

[PrincessGrail]

Eventually it will fade

[buttcrackjoe]

It could be weird but so what eventually one of you will find another job

[Anonymous]

You still have a crush on him probably and it will continue to be awkward until you get over him

[ZELLxoxo]

Maybe I don't know. Time will tell

[rae0154]

yes unfortunately move on look for other guys

[Gedaria]

No , ignore him and move on ...

[anametouse]

Yea it's weird I agree

[Wowgirl30q]

Yes it will