Prolonged eye contact - does it always mean attraction?

[Anonymous]

I'm talking penetrating eye contact here 5-10seconds at a time, not even breaking eye contact from each other. This is between people that know each other but may or may not be actively in a conversation when the eye contact happens. P. s. This is happening with me right now! My gut instinct is that he's interested and doesn't know how to move things forward. But I keep doubting it - I don't know why!! 🙈🙈

[Carnelian47]

Chiming in with a dissenting opinion: some of us just don't have the same social upbringing.

I will concede that prolonged eye contact is a good indicator >80% of the time, but keep I mind that not everyone observes the same body language meanings/interpretations. I personally maintain eye contact as a way of showing respect that the person has my full, complete, and undivided attention. And sometimes, when I have to deal with someone I find physically repulsive, I make a point not to look away so as to make sure I don't behave rudely.

I'm certainly not suggesting this is the case here, simply counselling that prolonged eye contact is not a hard & fast sign. Two indicators are always better, three is optimal.

That said, one is plenty reason to go fishing! Good luck!

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion! Yea I am worried I'm trying to see something that maybe isn't there.. because I want to see it. I want the eye contact to mean something. He makes me go weak at the knees

[Carnelian47]

Like I said, go fishing. See if you can get him to tip his hand by provoking him. I'm almost certain this is something most girls can do by nature. If not, I'm afraid I'm not much help.

[Carnelian47]

If you're ready to be a modern woman, though, ask him out. You don't have to be blunt, just ask him to show you a decent place nearby. Coffee or whatever other mundane thing you can think of. Say you're bored with your usual place and wanted to know if he could show you someplace new.

If you're really daring, say that you'd like to see this one movie, but you want to find a theatre with a decent sound system and clean seats. Maybe make an excuse about your last trip being messy or disappointing. The clincher is what makes this plan tricky. To reel him in, you have to go out on a limb and say something like you need him to show you where because you get lost easily, or you (obviously jokingly) don't trust him to send you to a decent theater, so he better come with to prove that he's not lying. Something. It'll be a stretch, but the bonus here is that if he does like you, he'll either A. not notice the bait or B. won't care and will happily bite.

Good luck!

[Asker]

I think I can be provocative!! Or at least try!!!

[Anonymous]

i'd like to know the answer to this too

im as ugly as you can be, but the other night i locked eyes with a random (but very attractive) girl in a club. we literally stared at each other for what felt like a full minute (but it was probably more like 5 seconds lol)
i very highly doubt that she liked me, because im really ugly (im not fishing for sympathy, just stating a fact). i didn't catch her looking at me again after that, but i also didn't look at her very often, and sadly we left the club not long after that

[Asker]

I bet you're not ugly at all!! Don't ever say that about yourself

[Opinion Owner]

again, i was not fishing for sympathy! im not bothered by it. life goes on :) but i am most definitely ugly.

[Asker]

You won't be at all.

[Asker]

And it's not sympathy!!!

[Opinion Owner]

of course it is sympathy. you haven't seen me, so you can't factually state that im not ugly

[estoydorado1]

I do this all the time with friends if we're across the room and trying to crack each other up or if something crazy/stupid happens I'll sometimes make eye contact w/ another person and make a face lol. Interesting to know that's suddenly a sign of attraction.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

You can never know unless you ask 😏. Go talk to him!

[Enginerd99]

He's interested in you and what you have to say, not just your tits.

[Asker]

Although my tits are pretty good too 🤗

[burpzzzzz]

i stared at this married woman for a good 15 minutes. She was on her cell phone talking and I couldn't keep my eyes off her. lol

[Asker]

Haha! I'm curious to hear how this turned out!!

[burpzzzzz]

She knew it, nothing happened. She wasn't even annoyed.

[framboosperzik5]

Just ask him some questions like if he currently is seeing someone. It gives him the opportunity to let you know he's into you

[Slothium]

go for it girl! what do you have to lose? In 100 years we'll all be rotting in the ground, after all. take yo chance.

[Ron_NM]

there has been times i could not stop looking, and yes attraction, then i realized what i was doing and well mixed results

[hellacray]

Either attractions or there's something on your face.

[vyvyn]

It could be attraction in different ways, like the eyef*k.

[p3ster]

Can't you just ask him? Without blaming, just openly, yet without others overhearing.

[naraku]

He likes you but isn't sure if he should do anything or if you like him in that way too.

[sudhansh4u]

Yeah, just forget this activity and say hi, and start communicating

[Asker]

I'm so nervous around him, and I think he's the same. But the eye contact never eases up

[sudhansh4u]

Yeah that's why just erase it from your memory and find a way to normal communication

[Asker]

I'll try!!

[sudhansh4u]

As counting it will take you to physical relation and if u want so then send him request on fb

[Asker]

We're not friends on Facebook. Maybe I should

[sudhansh4u]

Yeah you got it , try to do so

[Tim80]

He is interested give him a chance to talk to you may be he is shy

[ChancellorCharemagne]

I stare at girls to guage them.

[Asker]

Gauging their interest you mean?

[ChancellorCharemagne]

The way they respond to my stare tells a lot of about them, their interest in me is just one small tell in their reaction.

[roy_ricky09]

You are absolutely right

[Asker]

I hope so! I just wish I had the balls (so to speak) to do something about it

[roy_ricky09]

Well it's a fact, girls are always right in such situations.

[Asker]

I don't know why I keep doubting myself! My guts instincts are always spot on. And yet with this, I continually question them and feel that maybe I'm imagining it and seeing what I want to see. Or that the eye contact doesn't mean anything at all

[roy_ricky09]

Well i see a doubt here.. So you are right again because you see something that doesn't fit the picture.

[Asker]

😢😕

[roy_ricky09]

Hey!!! Be logical its either black or white. If you keep looking at grey, you'd hurt yourself. First gain your confidence and power back and go with your decision without regret.
You are acting like there is no life left if this guy doesn't turn out to be the one you want.

[Asker]

I know things would be fine with or without him. But I'd prefer to have him first! 😉 it's annoying that I keep questioning it when I know what direction the signs point towards. I guess it's a self protection mechanism?

[roy_ricky09]

It is.. What exactly do you want?

message me if you want to talk about it.

[Asker]

Him. Ideally naked.

[roy_ricky09]

LOL... You want to Ferrari but don't want to buy it... Lol

PM me, if can't let me know.

[ItsYaBoySkinnyPen-is]

Means you're being creepy

[Asker]

Lol!

[Prof_Don]

Eye contact for THAT long? Definitely attraction!

[false]

you're 30+ get your shit together dammit

[NerdInDenial]

Smile and see what happens

[Asker]

More eye contact!!! It's always just the eye contact. He never makes a move

[aestheticsofty]

Multiple times? Yes

[tomppa007]

No, it also means confused for that people

[kilzit6]

Yes it does

[Asker]

That's good to know. I don't really know how to move things forward. He is the one that initiates eye contact and I can tell he's nervous with me (fidgets constantly), but I'm also nervous. It's madness - both in our 30s and we should know better

[kilzit6]

Do be nervous make the first move

[Anonymous]

It can also indicate profound mental illness...

[mmiittzz]

he's interested!

[Anonymous]

Not always means so