This guy doesn't belive I'm bisexual? Guys help?

Question

I am bisexual, but, for a while (it's been 1 year now) I tend to want only relationships with girls. However this guy told me he likes me, and I said that I was really sorry but for me it wasn't the same. He asked why and I told him all the situation. 
And then he said 'well you don't seem lesbian' so I told him what bisexual meant and he said it's not possible and that I was just making up excuses to not go out with him. So what should I do to make him stop thinking I'm lying?

SodaCheeks · Accepted Answer

That's just rude. You open up to someone (which I find really brave) and he just starts acting like he knows you better than yourself. I think it depends on how much this guy means to you. If you don't want to lose him as a friend I'd say try to explain it to him one more time and ask him to actually listen to it with an open mind (even tho that's hard for many people). Tell him it's not a phase and that this is who you are and how you feel right now. He can accept you the way you are or not. But in the second case he'll probably lose you. If you don't like the guy anyway, I'd say it's not worth your time.

strangytie · Accepted Answer

He’s biphobic. He literally doesn’t believe it’s possible to be attracted to multiple genders. He knows you’re not lying because he doesn’t think it’s real. He’s not worth arguing with. He also thinks lesbians look a certain way so that explains a lot. He thinks there’s gay and straight and that they look a certain way. Tell him your bisexual and when he says it’s not possible then tell him you must be magical. He’s a dumbass.

bente2 · Accepted Answer

Just tell him:
Look, if you don’t think this is real I’m not going to put in the effort to make you believe me. Just because your opinion is wrong does not mean you can’t have it.

I’m not interested, because of this. And I really shouldn’t even need a reason, if i’m not interested that’s that. Stop begging me.

HungLikeAHorsefly · Accepted Answer

There's a lot of different reasons why he might say that, but to be honest at your age a lot of people think having a non-heterosexual orientation is "just a phase".

If that's not the reason, he may just think you're saying you aren't into guys to avoid going out with him. That is, he might think you're playing hard to get.

At the end of the day, you don't really have to explain why you don't want to date him. Telling him it ain't ever gonna happen and to fuck the hell off works for 90% of guys. The other 10% aren't gonna get it no matter what. So just ignore him.

BlueSpark · Accepted Answer

First of all that wouldn't even be an excuse not to go out with him anyways otherwise it'd make more sense to act gay. Second of all you don't have to "seem" gay or bi or whatever because it doesn't always affect your personality anyways. This guy needs to be cultured a little bit and if he honestly won't believe you you're going to unfortunately get some other people or research to back you up

Gedaria · Answer

I had simular problem when i met my second wife.. She told me she was bi sexual but never gave it much thought until we were out for a meal and one of her friends came by and they kissed i nearly wet myself it was so horny. It gave me a lot to think about. She was a fantastic woman in every way...

Xasildo · Answer

He's not saying you're lying, he's just in denial about being rejected. You don't owe him an answer about why you're not interested in him and if he doesn't believe you that's his problem.
Doesn't speak well of him as a person if this is how he reacts to you being honest about your sexuality

JackD1984 · Answer

There's no particular reason you need to convince him. "I don't need an excuse, I was just telling you what was going on. I'm not interested in dating you, sorry." And then you walk away.

itsme123456789 · Answer

Yeah ignore him, or to get the point across about you being bi but not wanting him just say "I like dick but not yours, fuck off" lol

Hal2002 · Answer

Ignore him, this guys is a moron. If he will not accept what you are telling him, you are wasting your breath trying to convince him of something he is not willing to accept.

100lbguy · Answer

Well tbh, my first girlfriend was bisexual but I didn't really believe hwr but then I met her ex girlfriend and also her mates who told me that they had a lesbian threesome together so than she told me that I was her first boyfriend so my advice is to prove your bisexual by letting your friend or ex or to tell the person

DizThaWhiz · Answer

Why do you care? You are who you are and you owe nobody an explanation about how you think, what you do, etc.

ryancg · Answer

The guy's just an idiot, you've got nothing to prove to him. Tell him to fuck off, that's all you really have to say.

Lottifan · Answer

You’ve told him how you feel and he can’t accept it. Just get rid of him and move on.

MrOracle · Answer

Don't bother. He's not going to accept your answers because it isn't what he wants to hear.

Meninist · Answer

Don’t waste your time trying to convince him, what happiness would you get out of that?

BobbyC65 · Answer

Get with your girlfriend and have sex while he watch's.

Anonymous · Answer

to be fair, i dont really believe any one on here, soooo

50kill · Answer

Nothing, leave him. He is just dumb 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Ignore him and move on

shubh2708 · Answer

Go fr threesome doesn't sounds cool🐵🐵

KevonO · Answer

Find another girl and prove it

Revolver_ · Answer

he's very dumb

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