How many people have that ONE person they will always have feelings for?

[Anonymous]

I just want to see how many people (guys vs girls too) have that one significant person who no matter how hard they try they will always have feelings for.

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No matter how long you date someone else and how strongly you feel for that person.. in the end your feelings will never go away for the other...?

[Da-One-n-Only-]

I'd say my closet guy friend that I've known since grade school.He apperantly knew who I was but for some reason wanted me to figure it on my own lol.I didn't figure that out until high school when I put the whole puzzle together haha.

But back to grade school..he was the kid that picked on me to dang much it's like come on we are in the 3rd grade don't threat me lol but he moved so I didn't ever hear from him again.Middle school came along and there was this guy who seemed like such a player and someone I just didn't want to fall for..I didn't really know him but we got along.Me still not knowing who he was at the time didn't think about him much, unfortunately like every other girl in that school I fell for him.Fast forward to high school I liked him for a temporary amount of time because I found someone else and so did my friend.That was about the sametime that I found out who he was and he kind of bragged that he remebered me since he had first saw me and was supriced I didn't remember him.For some reason that got made are friendship closer and he was my escort for an event.All through high school we were close his mom met my mom and all these good things.When we graduated and up to this date we talk we are both single..and every chance I get to hang with him it feels right and my middle school feeling come back,I know he has a thing for me too but I don't think either of us will ever push it to the next level. I practically grew up with him and we've seen each other grow.THere is an attachment there and I bet if we were to go years without seeing each otherit would be like we never lost touch.

[vegdot]

That is an awkward position.

That is actually what is happening to me! Insane! : )

The guy I will forever love, is my brother close friend. Even if they lost touch, If I ever got a shot with him...Id feel extremely awkward telling my brother who I'm dating. I would hide it too.

In your case, do you think its too late to try an open relationship...or you wouldn't be up for it?

[Da-One-n-Only-]

Hey thanks for reading:)..I actually read your answer earlier as well

in regards to your question, do you mean like dating other people if he and I were togeather?

or just trying to be in a relationship with him?

[bubbles888]

I have someone in my life just like that. My ex boyfriend of 5 years. We have always been best friends even before we started dating and we still are. Our relationship was a bit complicated but long story short, it's because of the situation we are in, we will never work out as a couple. We've never been on the same page in the sex department, and there have been lots of other complications. It's been years since we've been a couple and I've been seeing other people, and I still see and talk to my best friend/ex regularly. Right now I've started to develop strong feelings for my current guy. But now when I talk to my best friend/ex, I still care for him very deeply. And the strong feelings for him are different than what I feel for my current guy. For my best friend, the feelings go a little deeper. Our personalities complement each other perfectly and we accept and love each other exactly for who we are. And I know that we will never be together, which is actually for the best. We have a sort of love/hate relationship. If we ended up with each other, we'd end up killing one another. Still I will always care deeply for him for the rest of my life, no matter who I end up with and I know he feels the same. It's like having that complementary soul in your life that makes your life complete as long as they are in your life. Without them, there is a void, or just something missing in your life when they are not around. A void that not even current boyfriends or future husbands can fill.

[Asker]

Wow thsi is actually a happy story when it comes to something like this and It makes a lot of sense to me because I've been in a similar situation. I'm glad to hear its not always bad when you can't be with them. Thank you :)

[vegdot]

Yes!

I have had an enormous likings to the same boy for 5 years now (2011 will be my 6th).

No matter what I do, I cannot stop thinking about him and saying his name.

I feel like no one else is worth my time or thoughts but him.

You know how they say, there is someone out there for everyone-meant for each other...

I feel like him and I were meant to be that pair.

Its unfortunate that my coyness will not let me tell him my feelings.

Am I so pathetic for still having feelings for him?

And no matter what, even if I did make a move and he rejected me...

I will always have feelings for him. And care and hope he is happy doing whatever he is doing.

[Asker]

No you're not pathetic every girl I've met has that one guy. my wonder is..do guys all have one girl?

i think you should go for it

i can't get over my ex and he screwed me over but sometimes I wonder what would happen if I gave him a chance again because I know id be happy. right now I can date people but ill always be emotionally cheating on them because I have feelings for him. I wish I had your opportunity

[vegdot]

Screwed you over...many times?

I think if your feelings for your ex are still strong, a second chance is never too late.

You should not give up on someone you want, especially if they make you happy like no other.

And as for the emotionally cheating...I completely understand.

If my feelings for him continue to strengthen, then I will go for it.

Thanks

: )

[Asker]

Its really complicated. My best friend is his sister & because of that we hid our relationship, I am aware it was a stupid idea but I was in an awkward position, I really did love him and didn't know what to do. To hide our relationship we told her we liked other people which caused so many problems so he screwed me over twice from my perspective. I've never heard his side of what happened. I know he felt strongly about me though and I wish I could see if it would have been different openly dating

[Asker]

Its really complicated. My best friend is his sister & because of that we hid our relationship, I know it was a stupid idea but I was in an awkward position, I did love him and didn't know what to do. To hide our relationship we told her we liked other people which caused so many problems so he screwed me over twice from my perspective. I've never heard his side of what happened. I know he felt strongly about me though and I wish I could see if it would have been different openly dating you know?

[Asker]

I don't know if anyone else feels this way.. but are you scared you won't feel the same way about someone else? I'm scared you only really fall in love once and if you don't end up with that person you "settle" for someone that's good for you and treats you right not the person that youve had so much "passion" for?

[vegdot]

That is an awkward position.

That is actually what is happening to me! Insane! : )

The guy I will forever love, is my brother close friend. Even if they lost touch, If I ever got a shot with him...Id feel extremely awkward telling my brother who I'm dating. I would hide it too.

In your case, do you think its too late to try an open relationship...or you wouldn't be up for it?

[vegdot]

It is quite scary to know that you may never love or even come close to feeling what you feel for THIS one person.

But I'm not sure what happens later on, you know.

Lets say, I am just infatuated with this one love ..only to know that you were meant to feel this in order to arm yourself for your REAL love- in the future.

I actually lost myself there. I didn't make any freaking sense! LOL.I guess cause it scares me too, now that I think of it.

I think if you love someone.Youll settle 4 no 1 else.

[Asker]

No way! I'm so excited to meet someone wos been in my situation nobody really understands it sounds easier telling them than it actually is. So we did hide it and I didn't feel strongly about him at first but we continued to hide it and before I knew it I really did like him and we were hiding it for a year.

I don't know at this point because of how much I have liked him and we ended things a year and a half ago and I would still do anything for him.. So I probably would be open with it

[Asker]

hahah no I knowwhat you're saying! My mom dated this guy though that she was completely in love with and things didn't work out so she married my dad who she loved as a person and who treated her right but she's never been IN LOVE with him.

What if I get the opportunity to get back with him and I don't take it because I'm scared and then I end up settling for someone in the future?

What if you get too scared to tell that guy how you feel and some day its too late he's with someone else so you settle?

[vegdot]

It is quite scary...to know that you may never love or even come close to feeling what you feel for THIS one person.

But what if ...we are just like infatuated with this person now...meant to lose that person who we believe is our love...in order to lead us to our TRUE only one later on.

Wow, I'm sorry- I made no freaking sense. LOL

i guess cause cause what you said is true.

I think if the love is strong for this person, we shouldn't settle 4 any1 else but him.

[vegdot]

Im sorry. I wrote a responce twice thinking the first one didn't go through.

But YES! I try to explain the sitaution but no one ever understood me until now.

1 year together!? LOVELY. I'm sorry to hear it was that long ago. But if your certain of his feeling and yours being equally strong and youd be up for an open relationship, why would you be scared and not take the oppurtunity? What would you be scared of to not take it?

Wouldnt your love for him surpass the scared feeling you might get?

[vegdot]

Do you ever ask your mom, does she regret not going back to the person she was in love with...even if they did have troubles?

And I see what you mean about settling for someone else. I never thought about that.

That is what I'm scared of too!

Im scared that he already has that 1 girl who he loves or that he wouldn't give me a chance. I think I would be happy that I told him rather than ask "what if." I don't know what would happen to me afterward. My reaction would show how strong my love was 4 him

[Asker]

I feel like it would but I've always criticized those girls who go back to the guy who screwed them over. And I don't know if I said this before but when we told his sister we liked other people so she wouldn't suspect he told her he liked his best friend and I started feeling like he actually did though he denied it to me and said he was in love with me. Then we ended things supposedly because hiding it was too hard and he was too scared to tell his sister. 3 Days later his best friend tells him

[Asker]

she likes him and they started dating. I was so hurt and I don't know if that was a rebound or what.. I've never understood what happened and I've never had an answer. he's actually a really good guy he's christian and all that and I was his first when it came to everything (we didn't have sex) and I know that meant a lot to him

not that this is relevant but two weeks after we broke up he texted me saying hey haven't talked to you in a while& I was really short with him & that was the last we talked

[vegdot]

Yeahhhh.

Oh my, I was always the one to look down upon people in relationships but NOW I want a relationship with this guy. It would make me feel like the biggest hypocrite if I dated him. But I think id be way to happy and grateful for making a move to care what others would say. I'm sure they would understand once they find their ONE love.

So you guys both agreed to end it, because it was too hard? And the friend he started dating...does seem like a rebound, especially since you guys lasted 1yr!

[vegdot]

She was easy and open, so he took it to let you go. It sounds like you guys were really in touch and as one.

Why did you keep it short! :0

Were you trying to get over him or were you hurt by knowing he was with someone?

Do you know if he is with someone at the moment..like through your best friend (since theyre siblings..)

[Asker]

We werent as best friends as they were :/ but the way he talked to me and looked at me was honestly like he was in love with me that's why its always been so hard for me to figure out what happened it doesn't make sense. I know he ended up really liking her for a while in their relationship at least, I heard about it from his sister that's why I'm scared I'm the new rebound since they too dated for 1year and broke up 3 months ago..

Yeah I kept it short cause I thought he screwed me over & was pissed

[Asker]

She hasn't said anything about him at all which is weird because she usually does. She hasn't said anything about him talking to any girl or trying to get back with her which if he made gestures too I'm sure id hear about, I just don't know if he's keeping it to himself

I totally know what you mean about criticizing relationships. I ALWAYS DO THAT. I criticize couples who text all the time and who are all lovey dovey because its annoying & I don't want that UNLESS its with him

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend of four years. It's been a while but not a day goes by without thinking about him. He's dating a new girl now all I have to do is be happy for him but I miss him. I have a new crush on a guy but nothing compared to what I felt for Louis.

[darlanoy0510]

My best friend's brother..we never dated it but he is my greatest innocent love.

[Asker]

wait seriously? that's who the person is for me.. can you tell me more about your relationship or whatever you had with him?

[darlanoy0510]

When I was 19 I fell in love with my bff's older brother. He was different from all the guys around my age; handsome, smart and funny. Our relationship was platonic but we flirted around a lot, he loves to tease me about things and he always looked out for me when I'm drunk or take care of me when he knows I needed helps. He took me on roadtrips or any places I want to go. He was there for me But in our heart we know that we can't be together because we both too much alike.

[papercut272]

i have noticed no guy has posted here

so I'm posting here to say "1st" hehe...

[Anonymous]

Though I was never officially with this guy, I will always have this guy that'll give me butterflies and if he asked to be more serious with him, I would say yes in a heartbeat.