Why is my ex flirting with me when she doesn't want me back

[stevejuk]

I was married and had a daughter together, she had an affair so I divorced her. I went through hell to see my daughter, my ex made it so difficult, I fought really hard in court and all I got was 1 hour a week at a contact center. I never gave up on her though I went every week for my 1 hour, it broke my heart because she used to cling to my leg crying when it was time to go. Six months went by and time moved on and I met someone else, I was so exhausted and emotional it was hard to say no. She moved in with me and she fell pregnant. A year went by and we split up because an old school friend of hers came between us and she said that she didn't love me anymore, having a baby is hard work and I spent all the time I had giving her a break. She moved out into her own house but now when I go round there to pick up my daughter she flirts with me, cuddles me and gives me a kiss on the cheek, she asks me if she has lost weight and does this lipstick look nice on me that kind of thing. I know that she is seeing someone else because she is always on her phone texting. When we do spend time together she looks at me and I look at her but as soon as I make a move or ask her she says she is not interested. I do love her so deeply but I suppress my feelings because I don't think that she wants me. Why does she flirt with me does she want me back ? or is she just doing it to make herself feel better ?

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[yosemite321]

Hi, I think that your ex is just wanting to feel good about herself as well. Its possible that maybe if she was or is in another relationship with another man, she is not getting that attention and in the back of her mind, she always knew that she could get that attention from you. so now, here she is, acting all cuddly and asking about her lipstick color and then playing hard to get by saying she is not interested! It seems like all this is just a big game for her; I really think she acts this way because she wants to re-boost her own self-confidence. Perhaps, she wants to know, whether she still "got it" or not? and meanwhile, I think this woman is not being very considerate about your feelings and/ or emotions. If I were you, I wouldn't give a damn about her and when you go to pick up your daughter, don't pay much attention to her. Don't give her what she is looking for; I read your divorce story and I must say, that woman doesn't deserve your attention at all. I know its hard to do, but remember what someone once said, "if you love somebody, you set them free." Besides, you seem quite good-looking and seem quite understanding just by the way you write; you deserve a lot better, my friend. You deserve someone, who not only loves you, but also treats you with respect.

[ragazza91]

girls do that to mess with guys because they have low self esteem, its very immature of her. answer mine its the second question under my questions

[sexmachinee]

i think she's doing it to make herself feel better since she says she is not interested. So don't even look at her face and don't even want to know her name. you deserve waay better my man I could tell you have a great heart by the way you talk. a lot of beautiful girls out there would be dying for you. don't give up man I beleive in you

[Tphilly187]

i think you know the answer to that one