I would say if you are doing this while in a relationship then you are focusing on DUMB SHIT. If you catch your partner doing it then you need to reevaluate your level of standards and decide... is this what I want in my life... somebody doing dumb shit?
If I were in a relationship with someone and she flirted with another, there would be no relationship. I would end it; the flirting would defeat its purpose.
Depends on the level of commitment and seriousness of the relationship generally I would say it's a bad thing, unfaithful and frowned upon. It just puts you a step closer to cheating. But being friendly is something else.
I'll throw a curve ball in here since I didn't see any below.
Early in a relationship, no, that's not good. Security for female is huge as it is for the guy. Probably a rare person that can feel secure and even better if you flirt. I will say though that women love it when a guy is socially proven and has other women who also wanted him... it makes her feel she won a prize. That's called Social Proof!
Professional Flirting...
Here's the kicker, as relationships start to go flat, you may need some inspiration to see the amazing person you have, who is now dull to you. Imagine someone comes up to you and your spouse and says "Wow, how did you catch her? That is one fine sexy woman, you are so lucky!". It's an ego pump! Of course, you know how her humanity, but it's a stimulant, yes?
I wonder if it helps to have some, shall we say, safe and respectful flirting with the intent of re-enlivinging the relationship. Call it a professional flirt who will not do harm, but enliven! A term for this would be Monogamish... monogamy with a kicker to stimulate interest.
You don't want flirting outside of that as signals get mixed up and you can trash a relationship fast! Must be safe!
I'm not 100% sure on this... it's triggering jealousy and inspiration, some of this may not be good. You have to do what is right in your relationship. But having someone else express how amazing your spouse is sometimes may be helpful in stimulating a fresh set of eyes, that's the point...
That is the very first step to be unfaithful, perhaps not yet physically but mentally.
Flirting, by definition is "... a social and sexual behavior involving verbal or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, either to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person...".
Thus to me a red flag, a no go and a reason to break up the relation. Someone that has committed him-/herself to a flirt has already cheated the partner, regardless of the outcome.
That is a person that is not worth trusting in my eyes and that has not earned my respect.
What's the point of flirting with other people if you already have a partner? The whole point of flirting is seeing if you guys feel the same way and take it to the next level. I don't see how flirting while in a relationship could ever be a good thing.
It's disrespectful toward your own partner. When you're agreeing in having a monogamous relationship, you should know you've only one partner. If you stop being interested in Them, you should do a break up.
definitely bad. a guy flirted with me once in front of his girlfriend! I felt bad for her she looked pissed off, I reminded him he had a girlfriend. honestly guys like that aren’t even worth your time, it is disrespectful.
That's something the two partners have to talk about. Everybody feels different about these things and every couple deals differently with these things.
I think it's something you should discuss with your partner before it becomes a problem. Nothing wrong with it if you both agree it's ok and it is kept to just playful flirting and goes no further.
Of course it's bad. I never flirt with anyone when I'm in a relationship. Just think of how your partner feels when he knew you were flirting with someone else?
Hahaha !! I love watching my girlfriend tease other guys, knowing she's messing with them and what we're going to be doing later !! It's very entertaining.
Have seen to much and understand enough to know better. If you play with fire you get burned sooner or later 😉 Also people that's really in to you deep enough with most of the feelings doesn't have a need to flirt with others unless they are poly, but even then the same when enough of the different feelings are deep enough. Think on that.
@crazy8000 "Also people that's really in to you deep enough with most of the feelings doesn't have a need to flirt with others unless they are poly" ... really professor? First of all, your English is terrible. Second, your personal accounts of how YOU'VE been treated mean nothing for me and my girlfriend. You got burned at some point, so you're bitter. You don't know her, or why she has a blast doing it, or how we laugh about it. It has zero to do with sleeping better, so take your judgment somewhere else.
Also wrong tree to bark on about have been burned.
Think little on it, your defense mechanism gotten triggered and begin to attack on a personal leve. people tends to do that when some believe gotten threatened that also are a conflict within themselves because it's a self deception to fool the parts that doesn't really agree, very common thing created by some parts of our feelings to do to justify. Anyway. If you really like it goo with it.
@crazy8000 Actually, my ignorance radar got triggered. That doesn't mean you're a totally ignorant person, it just means you're ignorant on this subject. Everyone is ignorant on certain subjects. Your judgments were sweeping, presumptive and subjective. You presumed to understand, and evaluated, my girlfriend's behavior and THEN assigned motive to it, even lack of character. You're entitled to your opinion. I'm just telling you in my case, and her case, it's inaccurate and without basis.
Still if you really like how our relationship is go with it.
Personal would I dig to see why she really are doing it since it's a sign of missing deep connection of some (missing feelings) sort to have the urge to do that, to get it from somewhere else. Even a specialist in the subject will tell that when they are brutal honest. To many females are in relationships due to convictions of getting loved get attention closeness confirmand and claims they are in love. Some are in love of getting love and all around that but aren't in love with the person (in love with love). Every relationship there you have the stereotypical there the female comes with that females are always right even when they are wrong, happy wife happy life, tries to shange the other one... and a lot of other one sided nonsense, are a convenience relationship of some sort. The other party sees what they want to see when feelings are flaming (becomes blind, comon sense get blocked or tricked by their emotional part).
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