What to expect after a second date?

[Anonymous]

Everyone, so I've been on a couple of dates with different girls and somehow they don't end so well. I'm trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong.

To elaborate on my question, I met this girl at a bar last to last weekend, we talked for like an hour, I asked her if she wanted to go to a different bar or my place and chill out. She declined. I got her no and set up a coffee date with her the next day. We met for coffee, decided to watch a movie in the week, ended up planning to go for some show Friday evening for our second date. The show ended around 10, and I asked her what she was doing after the show. She said she had plans with her roommate to go downtown, just to some bars. I asked her if she wanted to join me and my friends because we were planning to go downtown too, and she refused. I felt let down, its a second date, I was at least expecting something. What does it all mean? I guess she lost interest and we are done? What I'm unable to figure out is where I went wrong, or if it was just lack of chemistry, or was I expecting too much after the second date and came on too strong? Opinions ?

[TC123]

Don't listen to the girls that posted.

First off, don't go into it expecting anything. Just try to have a good time.

Second of all, you have three dates to take things physical. Holding hands, kissing, sex, whatever if you don't do any one of those things in the first three dates you won't have a fourth. If it doesn't happen then just move on. Talk to her on occasion, be friends but don't go out of your way for her and don't expect anything. Maybe she'll come around later, start thinking about you, what you're doing but like I said don't expect anything.

As for that girl, she doesn't sound interested in you. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Idk I don't think your done jus because you didn't get action on the second date as long as she continues to go out with you when you ask...if she declines more dates then she's not interested and maybe she jus had plans afterward or something and doesn't wanan ditch her friends nahmeans?

[vmw2008]

I wouldn't make any assumptions at all. It's only the second date! She could just be the type of girl who makes plans with her girlfriends and doesn't blow them off for a guy she barely knows. From a girl's standpoint, that's a great friend to have! Don't let it get you down, I think your expectations were too high for a second date. If you like her and want to see her again, ask her out for another date. Go slow. If she keeps going out with you, she likes you. Don't start worrying unless she says she doesn't want to date you anymore.

[helplessromantic92]

Well, expecting something after a second date is a little presumptuous. Yall barely know each other! She may be wanting a real relationship where the guy takes time to know her before they do stuff.

Are yall seeing each other again?

[sschic]

Not big deal. Maybe she's still considering. Maybe she doesn't want things to go too fast. Maybe she just wanna spend time to know you more. Its only 2nd date.

[slynchice]

She is definitely interested in you if she agrees on going out on a date with you! Some girls (like myself) like to play hard to get and want to be chased. Be a man and initiate contact! Ask her again