Would you flirt with someone on public transportation?

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LegendarySir · Accepted Answer

I'm too much of a chicken to flirt with someone in public transportation, but I've thought about it and wanted to do it, especially when she checks you out.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

yes I flirt wherever there is a flirtee. It's sort of like sprinkles on ice cream.

StingRayxoxo · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't seek an attempt to flirt but if someone caught my eye that was easy to talk to, I might make conversation.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

Living in NEW YORK, ON and OFF, It Happens. xxoo

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would not. I remember years ago I was chatting with a friend from school and I told him I met my friend at the bus stop and his response was "never be friends with somebody you meet at a bus stop." I believe the place you meet somebody will often determine the quality of your connection with them. Some of the most amazing people I've ever met were people I met while attending charity events. Some of the worst people I've ever met were those I met at pity parties designed for people with problems.

ElissaDido · Answer

It happened to me before but i never initiated it. I wouldn't flirt with a stranger.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I love this question. I would love there to be a bunch of people who take the position: "I would totally flirt with him/her, if only we weren't on the bus." but I doubt it. Sure what's wrong with a little public transportation flirting.

Wemix · Answer

Don't know if you can call it flirting but I had a crush on this guy who was a grade over mine in high school. When he graduated I didn't see him anymore and slowly forgot about him.
However, I had a training period during that last year, and the bus I had to take to get back home everyday happened to be the same as his.
One day I took the bus that came 5 min earlier then the one I usually took and that's when I saw him sitting in the back (the stop before my workplace was a UNI so I guess he studied there). I kind of stared as I was like "is that him?" before looking away when realising that yep that's him, but the shocking thing is that he had the same reaction, like he also recognised me when I thought he never noticed my existence at school.
And so, I made sure to take the bus at the same time as him everyday to steal glances and a smile he returned. One day I was sitting in front of the doors to exit, he came right in front of me and stared with a smile. He was so lost in looking that he forgot to click on the stop and had to awkwardly scream at the driver to please open the doors when we arrived to his destination. He got out looking down while blushing cutely and that's the last time I saw him as that was my last day working there...

Hidden_P · Answer

Personally I think it depends on you’re definition of flirt.
Flirty comments, clearly being socialable but breaking the ice is fine. Being flirty like you want to date forever more no.
I’ve always made cheeky comments and that’s been fine and responded to similar but if you expect a relationship... relationships are more than “was your ass sticky after being on that seat”

Apope16 · Answer

I already have. Its not like I planned it when she sat down. But she seemed to be talking to me and I could tell she was wanting me to talk to her. So I started flirting with her by telling jokes. She wound up giving me one of the candies that she bought. I think it was a chewable laffy taffy. Strawberry flavor. I have posted about this also... I have about a week ago sat down to eat pizza with a total stranger that was a pretty hot girl who was eating alone. We had a good conversation. Because do such a thing is so creepy usually. I never ask them out or for a number. I try to present as if I have no agenda. So I am relaxed. Its worked out pretty good. But I dont think it is cool to just ride transit and badger the girl next to you. You say hello. Tell a joke. If they smile then you shut up. If they return with a random comment then it might be an invitation that they are attracted enough to want to chat.

gorman24 · Answer

Public transportation is already kind of a creepy place, and I am sure flirting with someone would definitely raise their guard up a lot. Unless they knew you and were comfortable around you. So I guess it depends on the circumstances. If a girl started flirting with me when I am already feeling gross riding public transportation I wouldn't take her seriously anyways. (Gross being I am pretty poor, or car is in the mechanic and I am forced to use public transportation and am already in a bleh mood)

Neeliexxx · Answer

I often travel on business, and on flights I find most times the man in the next seat strikes up a conversation. So long as there are no sexual undertones or a surreptitious attempt to touch, it's fine. Otherwise I make it clear he has transgressed boundaries.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

ehhh I don't know, probably not? Didn't flirt a lot growing up and the thought trying to flirt with someone makes me want to cringe. lol Anyway, no... it's kinda embarrassing with other people around, especially if you say something cheesy or stupid then everyone else witnessed it.

turd_of_warning · Answer

Have done it a few times. But as a guy, you need to be careful not to make her uncomfortable. Don't make her feel boxed-in with nowhere to go. Be aware that she might feel embarrassed at being hit on in a crowded carriage, and not want the spotlight on her in that way. It also goes without saying that you should not creepily follow her home in the evening.

But sometimes someone will glance at you flirtatiously, and you can try saying hi and seeing where it leads.

Lipsy1 · Answer

If your only chatting to a guy and he seemed ok or nice then i would uplift the convo abit. I am quite a dirty minded girl and wouldn't think twice of saying something to mean in a saucy way. Its how you feel, and obviously being a stranger not everyone is going to feel comfortable in flirting on transportation..

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

No. I wouldn't want to make anyone feel uneasy or trapped. Say I flirted with someone and they didn't like it. Now they are stuck on a bus or train or whatever with me. And they might worry that I'll follow them when they get to their stop. I've heard way to many horror stories from women of men doing stuff like that.

GraveDoll · Answer

No. Close quarters at that. This Would be an extremely uncomfortable ordeal. No matter who hitting on who.

Passinggas · Answer

I have a big mouth irl and I talk to anyone while I am traveling. I told someone sitting next to me once that you watch we will turn this 6hr flight into a short ride and we did. Talking and talking continuously. Hell, I talked to a woman for 9hrs on a connect at a hub. If a woman turns it to flirting sure I will. If she takes me in the gutter I will probably follow her there too.

Moonchild714 · Answer

Yeah, I have many times. Dated lots of guys I've met on public transpo.

serenaluna666 · Answer

Yes, unless the person seems to be on a rush or something like that. There isn’t the right time or place to find love!! Peace

cth96190 · Answer

No flirting. No interaction, unless it cannot be avoided. Since Feminism and @MeToo, normal social interaction between men and women has become too dangerous for males.

Daisy007 · Answer

No.. if i ever take public transport it's to go somewhere not to far (like 10min max) & usually there's older people on transport in LA.

FancyPantz · Answer

We had a very friendly banter going for 45 minutes and then he got off the train and I never saw him again. I'm unsure if it was flirting.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

I have once. It was one of the first times I ever approached someone and I was trying to be more active and take initiative.

The issue is that if there for more than 5 minutes, then if it fails you're stuck there with them and that was my experience. Very awkies.

T-Willy18 · Answer

Probably not. I'm about as smooth as a brick, and I'd hate to make some poor female uncomfortable because my game is garbage

Izumiblu · Answer

Nope. I wouldn’t know how to flirt even if I wanted to.

DakotaNorth · Answer

We wouldn't have met otherwise.

dublin_sexyeyes0 · Answer

Yep. Did it with this one girl id see regularly on train to work and one day it happened... swapped numbers n became sext buddies.

Pink2000 · Answer

Never. If he and I are both using public transportation then we’d have to be in pretty bad shape. I live in Oklahoma where a car is required.

Anonymous · Answer

It will be too weird to be flirting on public transportation because all I will be thinking about is the things I got to do when I get off this public transportation.

menina · Answer

I wouldn't do that, unless he was flirting with me (which is impossible at this moment 😅 ) .

marleyanna2016 · Answer

No. I’ve had someone do that to me once and it made me extremely uncomfortable.

webcamgirl · Answer

It depends on if they're really hot and i'm looking for some fun

Commander_Red · Answer

No, no, and nope, and if you did that to me on a train, I'd get up and walk to the other end of the cart.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I don't think so... I'm usually in my own world and enjoying the ride.

moonpie89 · Answer

I almost never take public transportation. Even then , I'd have my headphones plugged in so I wouldn't be bothered to flirt.

datgirl · Answer

Maybe. I mean i wouldn't initiate it. I've had guys flirt with me on public transportation tho.

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

I did it yesterday at the train. This incredibly cute girl was giving me lots of stares, but looked down when I looked of course. Fidgeted, removed her jacket exposing her upper body, even bit her lips. So of course I reciprocate at such invitations.

slatyb · Answer

Depends on her body language. If she looked receptive as opposed to closed, then I might initiate conversation.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

I have only done so twice.  Because both women were so beautiful I felt compelled to give it a shot I dont really flirt, I just strike up conversation.

Lance1965 · Answer

Done it many times. Have to kill that time somehow.

TexasBorn217 · Answer

No way. I always assume the worst. I'm the quiet type that looks from afar.

Wowgirl30q · Answer

Anywhere but a funeral

spartan55 · Answer

I think I would include this in my personal 'off limits' zone. Gyms, work functions, and libraries are some others for me.

LinkxPeach · Answer

No, not really. But, then again it sounds like a good idea.

Ayer93 · Answer

I don't see why not. If you click, you click. You could have the most stimulating and interesting conversation with someone you just met on the bus. Anything can happen any time.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't but I have been flirted with never great usually trying to get to work etc. Have earphones on I don't want to be bothered

Thatswhyimhere · Answer

Maybe. If I were single and she didn’t have a ring on it is possible.

someginger · Answer

I try to avoid contact on public transport by all means!

Anonymous · Answer

No, I feel it will be interpreted as creepy, because you can't escape until the next stop. Also you can be easily accused of harassment.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, and often do. Great place to meet pretty girls tbh. Especially the train, where you're assigned seating so you end up next to strangers anyway.

allo111 · Answer

That's only if the transport you're on doesn't have that many people there

sean1234 · Answer

I get the impression I flirt with women sometimes without thinking about it.

Shields0509 · Answer

I have a couple of times and I was glad i did otherwise id have missed out on some very fun times!!!

FatherJack · Answer

No , never , I have earphones in and my Spotify tunes on... I don't engage with any strangers , it is not appropriate anyway.

Piteka5 · Answer

Not really, I have to know the person at least somewhat. I sometimes talk to strangers on public transports, but most people don't seem interested in talking so I ususaly just mind my own business

DWD94 · Answer

Nah fuck that. Women these days aren't approachable, especially with all the #MeToo stuff goin on. I'll stick to tinder

Anonymous · Answer

No nigga bc I wouldn’t be on public transportation in the first place that’s some broke hoe shit 🤣

Athína98 · Answer

I have on subway on way to work also while at work.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Sure.. because she's probably a crack whore and I have some crack.

needadvice1245 · Answer

Years ago when I was on the bus I asked a hot girl for her number and she said yeah

Zerstörer · Answer

Only if there was some hint at a chance first like I don't know eye contact at above average levels.

ShyJenii · Answer

I did before. Life is life.

Tigers123 · Answer

Yeah why not. If they were cute and wanted to talk

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