I think I blew my chances with a great guy :(

[Anonymous]

So met this guy online. We had been talking for like 3 months online and on the phone. He lives in another state then me. So I asked him if would like to come stay a weekend with me so we could see if we still felt the same in person. He said yes and flew down for 3 days. The first 2 were amazing; we had so much fun 2gether. But the 3rd we didn’t talk much, because we were on the move a lot to different museums and art galleries. Now here is when I think I blew it. When I get nervous and really start to like someone I tend to get scared and start a fight. I know super dumb! But at dinner our last night, I told him that I didn’t think this would work because I thought he would get bored of me quick and that I thought I was falling harder for him then he was for me, and that he lives so far away, I didn’t know how this would work if it takes him forever to see if I was right or not. He didn’t get upset; he asked if I would take a walk with him. I explained some of my past relationships to him and why I did what I did. He said he was happy I did. because now we could talk about it. After we talked and he told me how he felt about it, it all seemed great again. But when we crawled in bed we cuddled and he kissed my forehead, not my lips my forehead, what is that? When I took him to the airport at 3 am he kissed my lips and told me that he had a nice time, and that I shouldn’t worry about us that his feeling have not changed, and that he would call when he got home. But he didn’t he just text to say he got home, that he had a nice time thanks. That is it. Now what should I do, leave it alone or call him? Please help I don’t want to make any more of an ass out of myself! Sorry it’s so long.

[Slugworth99]

I hope you didn't have sex with him, otherwise that may have been all he was after.

It sounds like your past relationships are sabotaging any chance of having a good relationship with anybody. You need to treat each relationship as something new and not a rerun of an old fling.

Isn't there anybody, singles groups, church single groups in your area to find a nice, local guy? Long distant relationships are tough for a couple who is already established. Starting a new relationship that is already classified long distance - odds are NOT in your favor.

I used to get hung up on past relationships and how they went bad. It is hard, but you have to quit carrying them on to the next guy you meet. Best of luck to you!

[Quadrophonic84]

Basically, you pushed him away and showed him you're not too stable of a bet. LDRs are hard enough as it is, you know? If you want to make it up to him, you've got to go visit him and show him you're serious about wanting him and willing to do work too. He did a huge thing by flying out to see you.

[Thiezz]

I think you're over-thinking this and you should just call him.