I hooked up with a good friend of my best friend’s husband at their wedding. We had met a year before& he did all the instigating at wedding. He was so drunk that at the lobby bar after wedding I walked in and he grabbed me and made out with me. Anyway I slept w him& ended up texting him a week later apologizing for leaving in a rush& that I had a bad hangover. He’s reserved& seems nice& he was so understanding. We chatted a little &I stopped responding because I couldn’t tell if he was interested. This past Friday he texted me saying “hey! I hear you might join us Saturday night!”&I was like “I have no idea what you’re talking about lol”. long story short our mutual friends from wedding were setting up dinner w their other couple friend&inviting me& this guy bc we were all
In the same town. I felt this was my chance to get to know him soberly &do everything right since he showed some interest after we slept together at wedding which I was mad at myself for bc I never do that.
Anyway, after the dinner he wanted me and him to just get drinks. Ans I had already met my friends out for wine prior to the dinner. I was ok the first two bars, met some of his friends and then we were alone but then the last bar things were rlly fuzzy and I ended up naked in his bed the next morning. We were cuddling but when I realized what I did I was so mortified. He was leaving early for golf so he told me I could sleep in and I did bc he knew I was hungover. He texted me a bit later and said he should’ve said this before and then offered me towels in his closet if I wanted to shower to which I thanked him and said that i already left. He said “okay sounds good, fun night!” I just said “it was!” But I’m so mortified and so bummed. Haven’t heard from him since. He was not a big texter after wedding anyway but do you think I blew it? So disappointed and mad at myself.
In the same town. I felt this was my chance to get to know him soberly &do everything right since he showed some interest after we slept together at wedding which I was mad at myself for bc I never do that.
Anyway, after the dinner he wanted me and him to just get drinks. Ans I had already met my friends out for wine prior to the dinner. I was ok the first two bars, met some of his friends and then we were alone but then the last bar things were rlly fuzzy and I ended up naked in his bed the next morning. We were cuddling but when I realized what I did I was so mortified. He was leaving early for golf so he told me I could sleep in and I did bc he knew I was hungover. He texted me a bit later and said he should’ve said this before and then offered me towels in his closet if I wanted to shower to which I thanked him and said that i already left. He said “okay sounds good, fun night!” I just said “it was!” But I’m so mortified and so bummed. Haven’t heard from him since. He was not a big texter after wedding anyway but do you think I blew it? So disappointed and mad at myself.
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That I get! But I just don’t know why that rules out hanging out again and getting to know me. I did this with one other guy in my life and after 2 years of friends with benefits we became a couple. But that was such an exception. Just makes me feel so bad anout myself and so used.
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He knows he going to sleep with you when you are all together. But don't think he interested in anything more
Why are guys like this? Like I understand typically it’s better to wait to have sex but there’s so much more to a person than sex. It’s frustrating and such a double standard.
You are blaming the guy when you got drunk and slept with him twice. I don't understand?
I’m not blaming him necessarily. I’m
More so asking why this is? Obviously I am still interested in him even though HE slept with ME twice. I don’t automatically assume that he does this with every girl.
He has your number he text if he interested
I feel like you’re misinterpreting what I’m saying. I very much know that he has my number and if he’s interested he’ll text me. Obviously I’m bummed about the situation and what I did. Just don’t know why guys have to have a black and white mindset about booking up
You looked good. He wanted you and got you into bed. Men are pretty simple and straightforward
That I get! But I just don’t know why that rules out hanging out again and getting to know me. I did this with one other guy in my life and after 2 years of friends with benefits we became a couple. But that was such an exception. Just makes me feel so bad anout myself and so used.
Not used both wanted sex clearly. But if you get sex easily most don't see the point in a relationship.
It's inconsistent and illogical to acknowledge that sex alone can't sustain a relationship during a breakup, yet use easy access to sex as a determinant for disinterest in a relationship. The contrast highlights the need for a more holistic understanding, recognizing that a meaningful connection involves various facets beyond just the physical
Not really you put out so guys going take you to bed
I get it
:/ so it
Would be best to not
Contact him and leave it be
Leave him be