Are You For Or Against Playful Hitting In A Relationship?

Question

For me personally, I think wrestling is fine but I don't like the whole playful hitting thing UNLESS it's spanking or something... Some of my girlfriends from school would punch, slap, kick, basically abuse their boyfriends... And the guys just allowed it... Just stood there and took it... And I thought to myself... I'm surprised he isn't hitting her back... Thoughts, Complaints, Gripes...

angecandy · Accepted Answer

Love is like a band-aid that makes you not feel the pain when the partner you love that loves you back hit you playful even if it can hurt physically.

When a women hit a guy she likes, it is like being hit by a pillow or feather.

When a guy hit a girl he likes, it is just like a little harmless push.

When a girl hit another girl she doesn't like, it is like leons fighting or cobras fighting or two crazy cats, and thunders between them, it is worse than when guys are fighting. Women are scary, but pretends to be weak. And also girls words hurts more than being stabbed in the chest.

When guys that hate each other fight it is like 2 strong elefants or 2 alpha wolf fighting untill death.

ariadneR · Accepted Answer

Playful hitting wrestling is fine by my books. That's what a girl grows up with if she has no sisters 😄😄
I agree with you though. The punching the slapping kicking their boyfriends disgust me. And I know I'm probably going to get hate for this, but he deserves to defend himself and hit her back.
I'm not condoning violence against women, but if you keep poking and poking a bear, you're gonna be sorry you did

Grond21 · Accepted Answer

I'm okay with playful hitting as long as there is no pain inflicted. Which means it's barely even counted as hitting. Anything slapping or stronger I'm not okay with. Just because you are feeling strong emotions doesn't mean you get to physically hurt the other person.
Men will often allow this because they know that they can take it. They also know that if they defend themselves, they can go to prison. It doesn't matter what she does first, even if he catches her hand and stops her from hitting him, he can go to prison for that. It's happened before.

longlicker6969 · Accepted Answer

I agree with you that wrestling can be fun. Grinding and holding can be super hot. Hmmmm... I absolutely started typing that hitting, playful or not, has no business in a serious relationship; but as I'm thinking through... who am I to say what turns anyone on. If someone doesn't respect you, don't let that shit happen; but we all have our own experiences/kinks from growing up and discovering sex. If you finds that turns you on, and your partner does it in a wholly respectful and satisfying way... Meh. Who am I to judge?

Neugier · Answer

I loved to lift my boyfriend, he didn't really mind too much at first, until he once said that I hurt him by not holding him carefully. I felt so guilty, after he said that. His body all of a sudden seemed so sensitive and fragile, because I didn't even notice or thought that I could hurt him by that at all. I couldn't imagine purposefully hurting him!! The girls who use their boyfriend as a push over have lost any sense of self-control.

SjE78 · Answer

bit of spanking and playful physical contact as long as it's wanted, sure... but not big on the whole idea of what i've seen some kinksters out there do where they get kicked and trampled on even punched...
tbh that isn't for me tbf, but hey if those people like it have at it

Funerestle · Answer

Absolutely play wrestling is fun, even if it is competitive is even better, with wresting holds, make the other gove up, and guys tend to go a little easier, which is part of the fun. I love it when it’s competitive, especially if the girl hates to loose. Definitely no punching, or kicking.

seanras · Answer

For. As long as it doesn't really hurt the person and they find it playful and fun as well. Of course should be in some moderation.. not like my girl keeps punching me every 2 minutes.

Guys "playfully" hitting the girl? Na, never a fan of that. It just seems bad.

Pete671 · Answer

I love being wrestled by a strong woman, preferably slim and petite but really knows her stuff, always had to pay for this though, I love being slapped in the face then spat on,,,

When I was 11/12 I got beaten up by a gang of girls in my sister's year, two school years above me, I'm sure it warped me lol,,,

But even at the time I thought it wasn't so bad,,,

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve play hit my ex before and he did the same to me. Barely hurt or anything. Like a slap on the shoulder or smacking each other’s butts. Not wrestling tho because I’d get destroyed even though it’s playing l. There’s a thin line between playing and abuse, and a lot of people either doing the abusing and getting abused like to use the excuse “oh I’m/they’re just playing”

Spleenz · Answer

I never tend to hit my girlfriend in any way except for lighthearted "slap" on the back of the head. Nothing with force but more of a playful "you really thought that, what's wrong with you?" Of course we would both laugh because of it. Spanking is the other playful hitting that we both do as a "catch me if you can" type thing where one of us spanks the other and runs away acting crazy, etc. Yeah, we are a couple of oddballs.

Felicityoyo · Answer

there's a very fine line. A playful slap on the arm is about as far as I'd go and even that is a bit concerning... and when I say slap I mean more of a tap. Not even enough to cause a sting. You should never hit anyone for any reason

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

The wife is against anything that's physical when it's playful , and just like you wrote (some spanking) none painful is alright. I wouldn't mind some pain in the bedroom (real pain yes) but other wise! Not so much.

jgirl99 · Answer

For it up to a certain point. Like if my guy was doing something to playfully annoy me, I've lightly shoved or pushed or hit him a little, but not like full of punching and shit and he's also spanked me when i was bent over or just standing somewhere

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Playful wrestling or spanking in the bedroom seems cool. Slapping or hitting in anger... get the hell out of my life, I'm calling the cops now.

Helpgirl31 · Answer

I think there’s a fine line! If it’s communicated that they like it or that it’s only playful then fair enough.  Otherwise it’s a no! Depends on the situation as well I think.

Momslife2018 · Answer

Playing fighting no because sometimes it might get out of hand, one of them might take it to far, or it might turn real not realizing it until it is to late. The only thing I might agree to is playful wrestling but than to u have to be careful with that.

Jjpayne · Answer

It depends how painful it is and how often. It could be fun but too much I agree would be too much... Agreements on frequency and strength would have to be discussed :)

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

As long as we're pulling our punches or limiting our shoves, playful "roughness" can be amusing & endearing.

Purplemonkey24 · Answer

I love to wrestle, flip me, pin me, put me on holds, but soon as I taste blood my temper gets bad if I feel it was on purpose. My ex hit me once, busted my lip and I slammed his ass.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

hitting? i dont think so, but wrestling sounds like fun because strikes can easily hurt someone... wresling is much better, less chance of inflicted pain... and could quite easily ESCALATE romantically

pleasestopthis · Answer

Against. I've seen too many couples hitting each other while throwing "jokes" and when someone points it out they disguise it as "we're being playful"... yeah right.

Raja1881 · Answer

They took it because they couldn't go anything else! Play fighting never ends well, with anything when it's good it's great, but when it's bad it's only going to go down hill

CharlieDMX · Answer

Anything is fair game as long as they both consent beforehand.

I once had a lover that loved me being rough. The first time I'd never done anything besides spanking. And she taught me how to turn her on by being violent. She loved the bruises

Knuxx · Answer

Wrestling would be fun cause I could teach what I know if she wants to learn too. But slapping must be asked for and only during sex and foreplay otherwise it's a turn off. And punching and kicking is absolutely out of the question.

EriFrancis1994 · Answer

Against. Wrestling is ok but hitting is out of the question even if it's playful

Surely · Answer

If it is a playful slap somewhere that it won't hurt or bruise, such as the butt. Why not, It can be fun!

Cmoreins · Answer

Against it. Wrestling is fine, but definitely not playful hitting or slapping.

Aislin9 · Answer

No, maybe the odd playful little push if I guy says something rude or outrageous.

shygirl789 · Answer

I've hit my ex boyfriends before. Not full force where it hurts though. As long as it's just playing and teasing. It's like flirting. nothing serious. The guys liked it and some laugh

ColHathi · Answer

As long as they have an agreement or there is an understanding, sure. I don't like it when it hurts though, lol. That's not playful to me.

ask4any · Answer

PLAYFUL hitting. It's not hard, abrasive, doesn't leave a mark, and makes you want to rip her panties off afterward. If she's wearing any, there's always that.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Playfighting is one thing, domestic abuse masquerading as humour is another.

Beauadult · Answer

Nope, It's not really helpful to hit your partner, because it will also trigger other end that he will hit you back, So please people you should not hit your partner depend on the grave of sin he/she have made.

humanearth · Answer

To a point, but sometimes it can gets out of hands and leads to someone getting pissed off

Wizzbang · Answer

I love play wrestling, tickle fights etc... and I like slapping her ass a lot 🙃 if she enjoys it

Malachi69 · Answer

Yeah hitting in my relationships is for girls not that they should playful or real I stay back. Although I just got out of a relationship where she would push the outer limits so I would take a walk

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I won't tolerate those unless I have a chance for payback in bed room 😜😜😜😜(spanking lessons)  Guys won't really hit back girls as it's not that cool and they are being playful

princessde · Answer

Yes but only if I get a kiss or good fuck immediately after that, it's a big turn on

worldscolide · Answer

Im against it only because even a light hit from me will hurt her.. i won't do that.

Akshayjosh · Answer

Not until it hurts, I mean I really want it to be literally playful

_SOARER · Answer

Against it. I am a man, and I expect respect. Its childish.

jogak86017 · Answer

Unless it's a consensual kinky hitting ei. spanking or choking.. violence is violence 😕

Unknown_User7 · Answer

Playful hitting is fine. Aggressive hitting... I'm calling the police.

Haya99 · Answer

To be honest as long as its just a joke its okay noting that we both agree on the idea that it is a joke and if ever something bad happens, hitting is not an option.

justcurious2019 · Answer

maybe playfully hitting on the shoulder ok anything more then that not okay

damaster · Answer

I don't mind the playful hittingde until it gets to a point where it'll really hurt. The only playful hitting I'll be doing is on her ass

Shadow96X · Answer

Unless it's some kind of sexually playful spanking, then nah. Even playful slapping from a woman still kinda feels like real slapping and I'd be concerned it can escalate into such (I would break up with a woman over even ONE act of domestic violence, cause there is no way I will stick around to be a punching bag).

AshleySeeks · Answer

If its playful, and while we're doing foreplay, sure. However if it's not sexual, then no, as it just becomes annoying

Anonymous · Answer

This must be a cultural thing, because the only women who've done this to me were black. It was playful, but not what I'm used to.

Tonythecreator · Answer

I could never hit someone I love. That being said... I could really slap a hoe !! (No offence)

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Play fighting is the best cause it always leads to other things

simplelikeme · Answer

Only if we are having sex or playing. Never in anger

berserk945 · Answer

I think this depends on how your personalities intertwine. I may do something similar with one girl but an other not at all lol

hwvzhssb · Answer

Not less agree with u  ( spanking allowed on in bed time)

Emperorxxxemilio · Answer

There’s a thin line between playful fighting and abuse, but I always play wrestle my girlfriends.

Pulseofsulfur · Answer

Play fights is one thing and spankings are only meant as either punishment or domination during sex

newguy41 · Answer

100% against no man should ever hit a woman it's just wrong women are a simply amazing

Benjr134 · Answer

As long as it’s playful and is ok with both of you then yes.

lolllly · Answer

I think it's kinda cute when a bit does that ;)

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I like playful hitting never mind it

KatherineJ · Answer

Absolutely against hitting.

Johnnyready · Answer

Against, the hitting is always bad

kauto_tonko · Answer

As long as it don't hurt much

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