I exposed my view to my current girlfriend, but she disagrees with me.
What about you?
Make up sex or flirting after an argument - yes or no?
I exposed my view to my current girlfriend, but she disagrees with me.
What about you?
I exposed my view to my current girlfriend, but she disagrees with me.
What about you?
If you dislike it, it's probably because you feel like you're giving up leverage and getting manipulated by it because you are not getting to vent you're frustration the way you want. That just means it wasn't actually makeup sex because the argument wasn't over in your mind. If you were both done talking and she initiates it then she's legitimately trying to move on... But if you're still talking then of course you'd feel undermined.
Personally I rather have argument sex tbh. Not gonna drop the issue I was mad about so it might be (definitely would be) a little rough but sex shouldn't be used as a bargaining chip, a weapon or to avoid life problems.
Although I'm not sure why you avoid flirting while mad... You should always want to express your interest, especially during an argument... Helps show that you plan on moving past it, even if you're not ready to yet and that regardless you still love them.
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If we broke up, or you have turned me down previously, consider it a sign from God and move on! Stop hoping pandoras box was opened hope was released and well you guessed it! It's over! Find another! I wasn't that great a guy in the first place apparently!
I think it's smart to distract a grumpy person by being flirty and sexy. Like, 'I didn't do the dishes, he's gonna be mad... Unless I can make him forget he's mad'.
It's less smart to use it when trying to get out of a more important situation. If it's something you have to talk about seriously one way or another, having sex to procrastinate is not wise.
Having sex or cuddles after an argument can be a way to reconnect and regain closeness and fondness. But only if both partners feel ready to.
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I have witnessed that type of behavior when a friend of mine was with her ex. I'm sure it made the sex more intense, but I didn't feel like they were really "listening" to each other with compassion and working out a solution when they were arguing before. I had a feeling the relationship wasn't heading in a positive direction and that turned out to be true months later.
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As long as it's not a manipulation to forget about the problem at hand.
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Yes.
I mean.. if the argument is sufficiently serious or a ‘deal breaker’, sex hasn’t happened shortly after.
Often times, arguments that are on the petty side and turn cyclical will end in sex because sex is a great way to end the cycle.
Plus- it’s a matter of transferring one state of arousal (angry) to another (sexual). Which works concerning fights, breakups, etc.. -
After an argument, my partner and I try to solve it first and we have a very serious talk about it. We just don't want it to happen again, you know. And then, when it is solved and we are happy again, that's when we have make up sex lol but I think you should always discuss your problems first. Just healthier that way.
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I also dislike make up sex for the same reason; it distracts you and prevents you from focusing on the important thing - talking about your issues and actually trying to solve them.
Some people like it makes it more intense... but I regard it as something unhealthy.
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I think I'd rather talk it out, then hug at the end.
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I've done it before and think it's a good way to deal with the emotions involved since you still love each other. It should only occur after you've talked things over and come to some sort of resolution.
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I tried tell my lover the same thing. That it wasn't a good thing for us to that. So after she was done riding me we talked. 😜😎
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I could think of worse things to do as long as she ISN"T using it to cop out OR manipulate you OR to dodge an important issue.
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I always found make up sex extra hot. In a way, I could take out some frustration on their vagina. It was nice to be close to them again too.
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I hate it for the same reason you mentioned. My ex did the same. But damn is make up sex amazing. Like some how it's better then regular none mad sex. I don't know why though lmao
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Neither. After an argument i wouldn't even want to touch her for a bit.
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Well yeah I agree but if its over than its over u know n having sex I think is a bonus cause she n u didn't have to have it but hey y not if she or he is down for it really is there really a argument about sex?😁😂🤣🤣🤣
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It really depends on what the argument was about. Was it serious or something silly.
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Make up sex then I revisit what I demanded or make sure it was heard
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I would say yes, its best way to stick back together with more intensity.
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Well, as the name implies you're supposed to resolve it and then have sex. No matter what, sex is good but you'll have to talk about the issue regardless. If the sex is good though, it might make both parties more willing to compromise.
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No. If we've been arguing for a reason then sex is the last thing I'm thinking about
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If I'm pissed.. hell no.. but depends on how serious the argument was
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No. I'm against using sex on those premises. It devalues how sex should be.
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Make up sex is for couples who need the drama of fighting for some stupid reason.
Just communicate openly and honestly like adults and fuck when you want. It's really quite simple.
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