The friendzone for men and women are 2 totally different things. When a guy friendzones a girl, he intends to be her friend. When most girls friendzone a guy, she has no intention of acting like his friend; there's this abusive, manipulative side to it, and guys don't do it the same way to girls
When guys get upset about being friendzoned, there's usually another angle or component to the situation that adds an extra little layer of manipulative fuckery. A lot of women will straight up flirt with guys (because it's fun) and then pull the "oh I just see you as a friend" card when he wants something more. Other girls will play dumb, while the guy bends over backwards for them; doing her favors and buying her things, only to shoot him down later. Some women will even do things like accept date offers and then try to act like they didn't realize it was a date.
When you see guys getting upset about being in the friendzone, there's always a situation where the guy was really obviously interested in the girl romantically, and she just used and abused his affections.
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I can't speak for all guys, but I imagine it's because getting friend-zoned is like getting rejected. It's basically just a blow to the ego, which isn't a pleasant sensation whether you're a guy or a girl.
But I see what you mean by your description. Generally, I'll get to know them better and when I'm interested, I'll make an attempt to flirt. So if we're sitting next to each other and watching a movie, then I'll perhaps rest my head on their shoulder or maybe inch myself closer to them. If they reciprocate, then this'll indicate that they're interested.
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This answer comes a bit late, but I want to add to the two (at the time) I see here. It is also quite long. This is a complicated question to answer because an accurate answer is strongly dependent on individual personalities, which differ amongst different people (both guys and girls):
To summarize: Guys feel hurt when they get friend-zoned by girls due to misunderstandings by one or both of them on the nature of the relationship. This is in turn due to conflicting definitions of friendship by girls and guys, misinterpretation of chivalry, ignorance of intentions, and what I call ignoring the realities.
To elaborate in detail:
1) Conflicting definitions of friendship: Guys and girls generally have a different relationship with their friends of the same gender. Commonly (or perhaps stereotypically), girls are far closer (connected?) in their friendships with each other than guys are with each other. A girl would be very emotionally caring and supportive of a good friend in trouble but a guy would (likely) not be. For example; A girl whose female friend went through a breakup might spend the night consoling her friend, talking, sharing pain, etc. A guy might care for his friend in this situation, but is unlikely do these things, instead giving his friend space to think, or taking him out drinking to feel better. For many guys, giving and receiving emotional attention on the level that girls give their friends is a relationship-level thing, or what you get from your mother. So when a girl does this to a guy, he'll likely feel that they have a special connection beyond mere friendship, and inevitably get hurt and confused when he learns this wasn't the case for her.
2) Misinterpretation of chivalry: Simply put; many guys are taught from a young age to be chivalrous, and do things for girls, especially those they are attracted to. If a guy buys a girl dinner, comes running when she is in trouble, and goes the extra mile to help her, it is not out of mere friendship. Very few guys would do that for a mere friend. Guys who go out to eat with their friends either pay for their own meals, or split the bill. They'll more likely not help with stuff for free, and will more likely give advice than personally come running if a friend is in trouble but didn't request their presence. This is similar to what @winterfox10 says here. A guy doing these chivalrous things for a girl means he desires more than mere friendship. Chivalry is how he shows he will be a good, caring, supportive partner. He is understandably hurt and angry from being friend-zoned in this case because he feels cheated/manipulated by the girl for accepting (expecting?) these things from someone she considered nothing more than just a friend (since he would never do these things for mere friends).I have never been friend-zoned cause I've never tried too hard for any person. But when you'll friend zone only then you'll understand.
Girls don't get friendzoned nearly as much, and girls definitely get hurt. That's why they don't get friendzoned as much. Too scared to even make a move or just refuse to.
There is no such thing as a friend zone though.No such thing as the "friend zone"
I GUARAN FUCKING TEE ITI guess it's just hard with us girl you love and care about and she doesn't want to be with you
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