I really like this dude but majority of the time I’m around him, I have to wear a face mask. How do I flirt with him while still wearing this torture device?flirt with a face mask on?
It is harder to read people with a mask on but I've always read people by their eyes. It's about using your brain to be playful with words and the lilt of your voice. Also, it is about having happy eyes when you are saying whatever you are saying. Body movements make a difference. With masks we have to get back to basics and for some people it helps with the insecurities they have about their looks.
I'm adding a movie clip to show that flirting can be playful and free flowing. During this movie Gregory Peck who was recovering from his divorce was quite taken with his co star Audrey Hepburn but he had a girlfriend so it never went anywhere.
Funny story. We wear full PPE (suit, cap, respirator, face shield, gloves, etc) at work and this guy I was checking out and eventually got close to recently admitted that he has spotted me on the first day we met. He said although he couldn't recognize me, he was drawn to my eyes and tried to look me up on social media but to no avail (I was doing the same thing).
Then one time I had the chance to invite him and his partner for lunch so we got to really see each other's face for the first time. Suffice to say, we've started seeing each other outside of work.
Probably my take home here is to work on what the mask doesn't hide lol. 👀
Sounds about right lol. I think the PPE we've been wearing since this pandemic are originally made for heavy duty work such as that. Mad props for being able to wear them for long periods of time on site.
Hard hat safety glasses Ear plugs high vis shirts and steel toe boots 12 hours a day 6 days a week. But none of that compares to the mixer... 2 solid hours in full suit face shield gloves 2 shirts n95 mask safety glasses under shield in cramped enclosed space at something like 90 degrees prob 70%+ humidity.
Took us 6 hours once... I took a sick day the next day due to heat exhaustion and dehydration. The kiln can be bad too. Prob 90f 90himid with a thick heavy fog... I was top a ladder once fixing a kiln door when I got dizzy... slid down the ladder and crawled outside and blacked out... you ain’t been scared until you’ve nearly drowned by air
Lean towards him look him I. The eye and smile.. mask or not people can tell when your smiling. It makes you feel happy and gives you more energy. And emotions are more infectious than covid-19... emotion positive negative or neutral. Happiness, sadness, boredom, irritation, nervousness, confidence... also if someone is having a neutral feeling like their nervous and you have a positive one like showing confidence it’s a huge turn on. Especially if their opposite feelings.
Also Eyes convey feelings. Keep eye contact while he’s talking and maybe look away a bit shyly while your saying something.
When it comes to non-verbal communication: Your eyes are your best friends here. Simply smile with your eyes while looking at him. You can do things like remove a "little hair" or "some dirt" off his face. Don't be distant. When he closes in, don't back off. We men notice these things.
When it comes to verbal: Pay interest in him. Ask him questions about himself. Don't let it all be about you. Compliment him, but not too much. So all you can do really is engage in your interactions with him.
If your eyes are the only part of your face he can see, make sure to wear mascara and bat your lashes, smile with your eyes, and MAKE EYE CONTACT. Eye contact says you're listening, interested, and confident. Men love it; and if you dont believe me, ask a man how he feels about a woman looking up at him while she's performing oral sex... anyways, my point is that if you 'only' get one facial (or possibly any) feature to work with for the sake of flirting, you don't really need more than your eyes to get the message across.
Your eyes aren’t covered, he can still tell when you’re smiling or giving him a look. Joke around with him, laugh, talk to him, and if you’re not too concerned about the 6 foot thing, touch his arm during conversation or something. Playing with your hair a little can also maybe work, like look at him while you twirl a little strand of hair around your finger, I think that’s a flirting technique. I don't know the main thing you’re missing with a mask is biting your lip but there’s so much else you can do that it’s okay.
Torture device huh? A small patch of cloth, how do you feel about torturing the surgeon who works on you often for hours at a time?
I am sure you'll survive it. Besides, and I am just guessing here, but I don't think you'd find a respirator to be a better option.
And give some empathy a bit of excercise. Imagine being a woman in say saudi-arabia. their whole head and face must be covered all the time lest they get taken to the city square for a public flogging or worse.
Try using your big girl words, you'd be amazed how successful talking to people like an adult can be.
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It’s impressive how triggered you got over two words.
When you’re wearing it for 8 hours at a time in the middle of 90-100 degree heat then maybe I’ll think about having an actual adult conversation with you. But right now I see no evidence of that as you have nothing better to do than bash someone half your age, rather than hold an actual conversation to express your opinions and beliefs. Have a good day.
I work residential care, do double shifts. 13 hours at a time. play your own miniature fiddle. And I am not fit, so rushing stairs is fun, but I still keep with it.
slowing down disease and saving lives is torture huh?
I never thought I'd say this, yet from my experience. Men who enjoy flirting will let you know it. I don't know if the whole pandemic is creating a more obvious way of flirting or I'm being now more mindful reading clues. Yet I've seen guys, literally giving me direct eye contact and chatting out of nowhere when I'm doing daily groceries. They will let you know through their voices and eyes.
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“This torture device” 😂🤣 Flirt with your eyes, run your fingers through your hair, find a way to playfully touch him, laugh at his silly jokes (but not every single joke or you MAY come off as kinda thirsty. A part of flirting is teasing so yeah laughing all day at his jokes may not be it) you’re soooo lucky you still get to see your crush. I haven’t seen mines in months. I miss flirting with him.
eyebrows. Those are the flitting weapons we have now. The thing is, I never flirt but have flexible eyebrows. I haven't tried it out, but I think you can be seductive/flirty with eyebrows. Otherwise you should use your eyes. Try to communicate what you feel with your eyes.
It is complicated to be honest. Flirting with a mask on has been the hardest thing I had done. Like I can’t tell if the girl is smiling or not or if she is laughing you know. They can’t see that either, so it sucks. I wish I can stop wearing this horrendous mask.
Every heard of flirting with eye contact. You can grab attention by waving at home and showing you're waving at someone behind him. That ways he will notice you and then just sit across and play the eye contact game. He won't be able to resist if he is also interested.
I feel you.. I also have this guy I noticed on the train a few times now.. My friend told me to smile to him next time... well, I cannot with the mask xD. I did try to give him some flirty looks already, but did not get much of a response.. maybe he just thinks I am a creep.. I give it up for now and if it is meant to be I should run into him somewhere without the mask haha
You'd be surprised how much of someones facial expression can be understod just by seeing someones eyes and how the face wrinkles around the eyes when you're smiling. Eyebrows help a lot aswell. If you have eyecontact he should be able to see that you're smiling and feel the intensity of your stare.
Take him somewhere in the middle of nature, at a calm spot and take them off. I would not flirt around of course, the more social contacts you have the bigger the risk. Also, don't take them off at a busy place, that's where face masks have value. Some months with corona measures have learned you sometimes have to deal with them in a wise way: be disciplined, but continue to live as well 😀
Flirting is not a face It can be expressed verbally and with provocative indications from the body The masks seem to have made us focus on the eyes Historically Eyes were the main form of flirtation The masks enhance the expressions of the face So in short Masks will aid flirtatious behaviour
Take the stupid mask off. Masks are designed to dehumanize people, not to protect them from a cold virus. And of neither of you are sick, there is no danger. In fact, at your age, there's no danger anyway. Like zero danger.
People underestimate how much gets communicated by our eyes. Without a mask, when someone's smile looks "fake," it's usually because his/her eyes and mouth aren't communicating the same thing.
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