How to ask out the bartender?

[Anonymous]

I am a regular so I would like to let her know I like her in a way that does not make either of us uncomfortable.

[jolee1]

I am a female bar tender hoping that a certain customer will ask me out at the moment. He asked if i was single and if he had asked for my number i would have given it to him. But they best way to approach is come in on a weekend night when you know she is finishing before the bar closes and then ask if she wants to go out after with you for a drink. Or even better if your with friends ask her to join you and your friends and tell her to bring a friend or two. Guarantee thats a safe way. but to show you are interested look but not too much. If she is catching your eye often i guarantee you that she likes you.

[MikeH702]

I am a male patron who has a female bartender with whom I am getting much, much friendlier. We only met about 3-4 months ago, via a mutual eye lock and friendly smiles. Since then, we've gotten to know each other better, and still are. I've given her my number, and we agree we want to get together. She's still doing the feel-out, and lots of people she talks to know who I am. In fact, she went to the bother of asking around about me. Even gives me free drinks. So, I agree with you when you say to show interest but not too much, until reciprocated. Worst-case scenario: stay friendly and let the other women at the bar see you hanging out with a hot bartender. Best case scenario: You get together and have a good time, preferably more than once. In my case, she's been quite overt, and so have I, yet, there are still times when we have to pull back, either due to heavy business, or her boss keeping an eye out. Also, don't get bent out of shape when she flirts with customers.

[SuperCurious]

Try striking up a convo with her and if she seems interested or makes an effort to come back to you when she gets a spare moment , if she does, before you leave call her over and tell her you really enjoy talking to her and would like to take her out then hand her your number on something unique so she will find you more interesting haha

[madmisskelly]

Dont go there. Bartenders get hit on and asked out all the time. They flirt for tips because that's their job. Sadly, she may just see you as just another customer hitting on her and not accept the invite.

[MrEM4N]

That must be a lonely life for bartenders.

[burningquest]

I totally agree. She's hitting on you for a tip. And don't worry, I guarantee she's not lonely. I bet you anything she doesn't date customers. It ruins her chances at good tips from other guys. That and can you deal with the jealousy? They'll be a lot of men hitting on her and shell probably accept it and flirt heavily back too.

[madmisskelly]

I got hit on all the time working in retail, and to be honest, even though I didn't get comission, you bet your ass I used the flirting thing to sell them stuff they didn't need. Some of my biggest sales came out of guys who I convinced to buy whole outfits.

[mikewnaz]

give her your email address to add you on Facebook as friends. if she is interested id think she would. you then can verify that she is single. and I wouldn't ask her out unless you don't mind finding a new bar where you can be comfortable. she flirts to make tips

[ianm91]

Try buyin' a drink for her sometime when she's off her shift. Like make a polite gesture/offer and smile when you do it, that way if you smile, it won't be an awkward rejection really.

Good luck though.

[Anonymous]

Get to know her first. Make sure she is interested too. A lot of female bartenders flirt w their customers for tips. At the end of the day, they don't like anyone or have someone on the side. A friend of mine asked a bartender out not too long ago and got his heart broken because she just pretended to like him because he'd leave her 10-20 dollar tips. Just be careful and make sure!

[kriskiss]

be like hey can I buy you a drink or wanna go out for a drink sometime...get it.? if not wrote a note on your text dollar tip like wanna go out or I gotta crush on u...make sure its in marker and quite visible.

[MrEM4N]

Dude your profile pic is f***ing dirty. Noone wants to see that prepubescent patch of fur you call pubes.

[MoreThanLuck]

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[Cailleach]

lol.

[Shaun]

Bartenders get hit on all the time, they work for tips so of course the good ones make you feel at ease.

[Anonymous]

They have something special bartenders...i had a crush on one...a guy and he was so flirty and I didn't even tip...maybe he was into me lol

I would say try something different because she heard it all before...

[Anonymous]

I honestly really advice you to not do it. It could just end up in a seriously awkward situation that neither you or her would want to be put into, and it could end with you not going to a bar that you really like anymore.

[Anonymous]

Hmm...she's probably used to getting asked out all the time. so I wouldn't hit on her or use a pick up line. instead try talking to her

[ThattGuyy]

Get drunk off your ass and whatever she says, you won't remember :P If she calls you, you're in. Well, anything else really is out, use your imagination :P

[Anonymous]

She's probably had this happen numerous times before you. Ask her like you'd ask any other women.

[Anonymous]

buy her a drink that she made.