How do you ask a guy for drink?

[Anonymous]

So I’m interested in this one guy and he seems interested in me. We match each others energy pretty well. I mentioned I was single without basically saying I was. It went a little like “Drunk me is pretty entertaining but I’m surprised she doesn’t do more stupid shit like text guys.” He laughed thinking it was funny and then after that he asked what my favorite college football team was and I didn’t want to tell him, but eventually he got it out of me. I also did tell him about an airstrip that was close and he said he was going to fly to it, until I told him that the landowner is an a**hole. Like I said he seems interested, but I could be reading the signs wrong. I also want to be careful just in case he does have a girlfriend. So I’m thinking afterwards just saying “Thank you so much for all your help, I feel like I owe you a drink.” But is that too much or do you think that would work and again I want to be cautious in case he does have one.

[GallopAcrossEurope]

I know this might seem simple, but... just ask him if he wants to go for a drink. "Hey, you want to grab a drink together sometime?" That's what my girlfriend did. You might think it's not cautious, but it is - you don't want to spend too much energy to hook him in for no gain.

And it's not like you're asking him to do something too outrageous like sleeping together. There should be no real harm done in asking to go get a drink together and talking, where you can ask about him having a girlfriend.

[Asker]

So let’s say I ask you and I didn’t know you have a girlfriend would you take that I was flirting with you or would you take that like hey I helped her out she got me a drink this could be a good friendship or something along that line?

[GoodEnoughThen]

No guy is going to think "oh, I helped her and now she's thanking me by offering to take me out for drinks." He's going to know for sure that you're interested the fact that he has a girlfriend or not doesn't really matter cuz you don't know if he has one or not.

[GallopAcrossEurope]

If I had a girlfriend (as I do right now), I would immediately put in the friend zone category even if I believer you were flirting. And I would drop tbe fact I have a girlfriend in a conversation to assess your reaction.

[Asker]

That makes sense but he didn’t bring up that he has one so that’s where I’m confused.

[glennos89]

Just be direct and ask him if he wants to go with you to have drink. Or if he wants to go on a date with you! Guys are simple not complex. We like girls to be clear because we don't understand the way girls are trying to flirt with us. Just be straight forward and direct. Thrust me it will work😉

[Asker]

Love the advice! So if you have a girlfriend and I ask you out for drinks that would be okay? Even if it seems like he’s flirting correct?

[glennos89]

You should ask him if you like him. Don't hesitate! Personally I absolutely love it when girls approach me before I approach them because then I know for sure that she really likes me as a person.

When I approach a gir I always wonder if she really like me as a person or if Im just the best option she had that day/night to choose from

[Asker]

Okay yeah that helps out a lot! I will give it a go no more wondering. If he says no he says no.

[glennos89]

There is always a chance of him saying no. But then you guys just aren't meant to be together. Don't let that prevent you for trying again when you meet someone else! We all get rejected at some point in our lifes. Its part of the dating experience... You win some you lose some 🤷‍♂️

[Summeroflove]

I think that question is perfectly fine

[Anonymous]

Asking someone out for a drink can be nerve-wracking, but it's important to remember that the worst thing that can happen is they say no. Based on the interactions you've described, it sounds like there may be mutual interest between you and this guy, so it's worth taking a chance and asking him for a drink.

Your idea of thanking him for his help and offering to buy him a drink is a good one. It's casual and friendly, and doesn't come across as overly flirtatious or pushy. You could say something like, "Thanks so much for your help the other day. I owe you a drink! Would you be interested in grabbing a drink sometime?"

If you're concerned about him having a girlfriend, you could try to find out more about his relationship status before asking him out. You could casually ask if he's seeing anyone or if he's single, without making it obvious that you're interested in him.

Remember to be confident and respectful in your approach, and to be prepared for any response. If he says yes, great! If he says no or indicates that he's not interested, it's important to respect his decision and move on. Good luck!

[Asker]

This is really good information! I really appreciate it. I will for sure ask him here in the next week! And thanks for the good luck I’m gonna need it! Lol

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome lol

[Nikki1989]

It is a chatbot. You have been conned.

[misogynistic_pig]

Asking someone to drink is a matter of politeness and respect. If you're in a social situation where you want to ask a guy to get you something to drink, you can just ask politely and respectfully. For example, you could say something like, "Excuse me, could you please get me a glass of water?" or "Could you pass me the bottle of water, please?"

It is important to be polite and respectful when making a request like this. If the guy is uncomfortable or doesn't want to do it, he respects his response and finds another way to get what you need.

[JSmuve]

"I mentioned I was single without basically saying I was. It went a little like “Drunk me is pretty entertaining but I’m surprised she doesn’t do more stupid shit like text guys.”"

Lmao, that absolutely does not indicate you're single at all. Not even a little bit.
Just ask him to go out for a drink. Don't beat around the bush about it. Just be a grown up instead of a scared little girl and do it like the rest of us.

[Asker]

Okay so don’t question things. Just do it. Even if he says no then I know for sure!

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Bingo ^^^

[Janders]

I am a bit older than most of the replies here, but i am absolutely certain this answer still flies.

Most guys want a straight answer, no matter what. Don't let guys guess, just give it to them.

If you want to share a drink with a guy, ask them if they want to drink together. Just ask them if they wanna share a drink.

[slatyb]

Just invite him to join you for coffee or a drink or whatever. If you do drink, don't get drunk. That's not attractive.

[Asker]

So just ask him if he would want to go out for drinks some time? If we did I wouldn’t have many I’d just have one drink only. Even if he has a girlfriend that would be a safe bet?

[slatyb]

Exactly. Don't worry about the possible girlfriend.

[Asker]

Okay sounds good thank you. I will definitely do this!

[Christoff92]

Well are you flirty enough. Go and seduce him for a for a drink. Be creative 🤗

[imawfulatusernames]

I’d say something along the lines of so are you going to invite me out or am I going to have to ask you for a drink

[RosyBeak100]

Stand up, go to your car, and stay home without the man. Problem solved. No need to be drinking out with men